All About Bullying
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Bully is usually defined as follows:
1. Abusive language is used to harm and hurt a child’s esteem or mental health to show power over the child
2. Physical violence is used to show power over a person
3. Mentally torment someone with mean remarks to exert power over the person.
FYI, teachers can also be bullies knowingly or unknowingly and they often commit the mistake in (3) above and sometimes (1) for severe cases. Albeit teachers are given the authority to scold and discipline children under their charge, they can do it based on facts and not degrade to (1) and (3). -
For me, I will evaluate the situation. If there are no adults present to mitigate the situation and it can worsen given that my child is not involved, I will step forth to help allay the situation.
For example, in this case where the 6 yo was obviously hurting the other 6 yo physically, I would break up the fight and then establish what went wrong. -
In this case, one child kick another child in the head 2 times ! No matter what is the reason, other people should have stopped him after he kicked the first time. What if he caused brain damage to the other child ? What kind of adult will stop to wonder what is the reason for him to do so, and not do anything to stop him ? I cannot understand these people. That boy is only 5 years old, what are people afraid of ? How can anyone stand by to see another child being hurt like this ? The child who was bullied could have died. This is 见死不救 !
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insider:
Many parents are also doing (2) to their kids, all in the name of love.ksi:
Bully is usually defined as follows:
1. Abusive language is used to harm and hurt a child's esteem or mental health to show power over the child
2. Physical violence is used to show power over a person
3. Mentally torment someone with mean remarks to exert power over the person.
FYI, teachers can also be bullies knowingly or unknowingly and they often commit the mistake in (3) above and sometimes (1) for severe cases. Albeit teachers are given the authority to scold and discipline children under their charge, they can do it based on facts and not degrade to (1) and (3).
Trying to digest the 1 to 3 above and sort of 'concluded' that many parents have been 'bullying' their kids though with good intention under (1) and (3)... -
I thought that Singapore is a better society, looks like we are no difference from China :
http://news.qq.com/zt/2004/noneaction/index.htm
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Wonder what's kids doing in school nowadays?
P3 \"jio\" to fight in school.
Jus a 20 minutes break......
Recently my son came back telling me that,
A big bully went fighting and pin down some of his classmates in school.
Some were being kicked on tummy some being pin down on floor to kick and punch.
Poor smaller build size kids went home telling .......
Mummy it hurt here!
What will u do? :stompfeet:
Ya . Go to school to confront. :mad:
BUT
Conclusion....... From the school.......
:imsorry: I will seriously look into that matter......
Dayssssssss after.........
I had already counsel the kid, and the parents were being informed.
My point is, the BIG BULLY, after bullied the poor helpless kids, was being counsel and NO MORE!!!
Is that the way how the school discipline the kids nowadays?
Does that means that kids have to fight back otherwise they sure lose out?
Oh ........ :slapshead:
What will you do if your child being beaten up? -
what would u want the school to do if the BULLY is your child? :?
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Hi Shn, it’s normal as a parent to feel angry & hurt when your child got bullied. How is your DS now? If my DS got beaten up by bullies in school, I will be more worried about the psychological aspect of him being bullied than how the bullies are being punished. The bullies are kids after all and normally they will not bother your DS anymore after they got warning by the teacher. Do continue to monitor the situation & if there is no improvement talk to the teacher again.
Since young I have told my boy how to handle bully and why there are bullies around even before he goes to primary school. my DS is very small build and when he was in P1/P2, whenever he knew that someone wanted to bully him during recess, he will purposely avoid his usual hangout. If he can’t avoid the bullies, he will use his wit to find ways to escape them. -
My P3 son attacked(when he was in P2) by two times.He is from P5 or P6.My son even doesn’t know him.We don’t have any idea.The everyday I prayed for him.
The school can’t do anything and can’t change the kids.
I think, the parents of each child take responsiblity and conciderate about our community.The parents nurture (what is right or wrong) the child cannot beat anybody.I told to my son at very young age like 2 yrs old.If u do something wrong police will catch u.So this is in his conscious mind always.
My son’s class has two naughty kids.I understood from them.They didn’t get attention from parents.I heard that If the parents very strict then they do mischief at the school.
One day I was in the playground.A group of friends playing.They just playing wrestling.Then one boy kicked other boy’s tummy many times until he cried.After I saw that I accompany with my son.If let him also I told him come back after half an hour. -
My son said his classmates playing fighting game.I said u cannot join.He said his friends forced him to join.I said tell them u will tell to me and then I will inform the T.After that no more.I told If u have nothing to do then go to library.
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