All About Full-Time Maids

[SMH FOREST]

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SMH FOREST:

... and saw her... standing on 1 leg.. havent put in milk powder into the bottle... and slowly... s-l-o-w-l-y opening the chinese medication that my son is supposed to take.. OMG!! even open the tube can purposely do SO SLOW!? and this is while he is still crying and fussing!!

Wah Like that Also Can?!
Definite-ly U have make the RIGHT Move to Terminate your Maid!
Well Hope Your New Maid is IONS Better than this ONE!

YAH!! I also hope so!!

[jtoh]

I suspect your maid was sent back to the agent for inappropriate behavior so she’s unlikely to change her ways. She’ll continue to see the man, call him, chat with him etc regardless of what you say. Worse, she might even invite him into your house when no one’s home. Best to send her back.

[Mum1113]

Don’t bring in uninvited problems, this is too much of a risks to your household. Be empathetic and you may bring misery and unnecessary worries on your part when no other adults are around during daytime to ‘watch’ over the helper.

[kola]

Hi 3Boys,

Thank you for your response. That is a good idea, instead of just believing in what she said, I can verify it myself through the phone.

Hi cwc, jtoh, Mum1113,
Thank you for your response. This is one of our main concern, we have an elderly and a preschooler DD at home… I feel so unsecure.
But after discussion with hubby, we think that we would give her 1 last chance, if she cannot live up to our standard, we will have no choice but to ask for a replacement.
I might have to deploy another adult to my home for the time being to 'watch' over the helper.


I had sent her back to agent for counseling yesterday,
- Agent asked her to pass her HP to us to throw (I did not throw, just keep it in order to return back to her when she is going home)
- Agent asked her not to see the man again, if he appears at doorstep, ignores him (hopefully she can do that)
- Bar her from wheeling my FIL out for 2 weeks. No going out without permission.

We will have to pray hard, hope she “wakes up” after the counseling.
This is the only way we can do for her… We can only give her 1 last chance, if she cannot live up to it, we will have no choice but to ask for a replacement.

[Littlefly]

SMH FOREST:

My new maid has gotten her passport!! :dancing:


btw... my maid agent asked that I leave my new maid at the agency so they can do a 1 week orientation/training with her on sg culture and standards... but i am expected to pay from the moment she arrive... is this normal?? :? :? i recall that for my current maid, i only paid when pass the entry test etc and medical... and was sent to my plc soon after.... haiyo... the sceptic in me wonders if agency wants my helper to \"help\" around in agency for a week!!?!?!?!? :scratchhead:

And I spoke too fast... said my current maid very onz right?? Yday night and today show pattern again!! This morn my son was crying for milk as he woke up... i was tending to him n my maid is supposed to make his milk... after a while... i walked out to the kitchen... and saw her... standing on 1 leg.. havent put in milk powder into the bottle... and slowly... s-l-o-w-l-y opening the chinese medication that my son is supposed to take.. OMG!! even open the tube can purposely do SO SLOW!? and this is while he is still crying and fussing!! :mad: :stupid: :rant:

ARGGGHHH... :mad: :mad: :mad:

My hb said there's a IT show in June that may offer good deals for the web cam. So we'll wait out and see. :roll:

Your current maid really :stupid: purposely want to provoke you. Better don't leave your boy alone with her at anytime, never know what she'll do to him. Also don't let this current maid train your new maid - you don't know if she would poison the mind of the new maid or not... :skeptical:

I pay for my maid only when agent hand over her to me although she arrives 3 days earlier for orientation, medical checks etc. Training / orientation should already be included in their agency fee, maybe you check with them again ?

Keep us updated - hope your new maid is much better ! :celebrate:

[hquek]

Hi kola,


not sure what type of person your maid is, but remind her constantly that she is here to work and earn money for her family back home. Should she get pregnant, SG law is that she cannot give birth here. Is she going to go back with a big tummy? and potentially no hubby?

Some of those men have been known to desert the woman after they are preggers (go find those paper cuttings and show her). Look at the recent story of the Indo (?) maid (or ex-maid) who overstayed, delivered a baby and buried him in Eunos. Where’s the man??

Even if the man she is meeting is a Singaporean, laws have it that it’s very very tough for her to stay in SG even if they marry. Then what’s she going to do?

[LOLMum]

if really cant do without her, install cameras in/outside house and a burglar alarm.


purpose of alarm is to prevent illegal entry into the house at nite (in case she let him into the house when you are asleep) so dont tell her the code.

ask neighbours to see if they can alert you of any misbehaving from maid.

[kola]

Hi hquek,

I see her as a very simple-minded person.
I asked her does she know what will happen if she is pregnant. She shake her head. I told her she will be sent back home with big tummy, how she is going to face her family, what would happen to her future. Told her how bad man sweet talk and cheat $$, take advantage of her and disappear. Asked her where she is going to look for him, etc.
She seems to understand and agrees that it is of her disadvantage. Hope she can see the ‘light’ and behave.

Hi LOLMum,
Thank you for the suggestion, we may have to install them.

[Littlefly]

Thread quiet - guess everyone's minds on election


Do you let your maids go out alone during the day to 'shop and look see'? my maid just received her 2nd month's pay and this afternoon wants to go out to shop for things (nothing important/urgent) to buy at discount stores.

How to entrust my housekeys to her and leave her alone (no camera) at the house whole day with someone who is so 'Hua Kar' ? or should i just take the leap of faith and relax ?

[Littlefly]

LKVM, guess you have no choice too. Does your maid carry a handphone so you can call her if she loiters too long outside ? If you have an adult at home to expect her return with your ds then maybe still alright.


For me, trust have to be earned over time, not given straight away. My uncle left his maid alone (3 kids in school) and his next door neighbour reported that she brought men home. :yikes: He sent the maid off at once.