All About Full-Time Maids

[BeContented]

SMH FOREST:

haizz... to be honest... i feel sad for my boy.. like this morn, i took him n got him to sat on potty... he purposely call maid over and told him abt his mosquito bites (he got bitten while we were on holiday)... sigh.. i hope he takes to the new maid well...

Guess sometimes no choice lah. My kids (then 3+ & 2) also didn't click with the new maid after the previous left. They tried playing but the new maid didn't like kids, so they were not close to her throughout the next 2 years. But fortunately, the new maid was ok in chores and had initiative, so I was relieved in other aspects and could concentrate on the 2 kids, which is better isn't it? Hope your new maid can relieve you of some stuff and allow you to have quality time with your boy too.

[SMH FOREST]

cwc:

SMH FOREST:

haizz... to be honest... i feel sad for my boy.. like this morn, i took him n got him to sat on potty... he purposely call maid over and told him abt his mosquito bites (he got bitten while we were on holiday)... sigh.. i hope he takes to the new maid well...

Guess sometimes no choice lah. My kids (then 3+ & 2) also didn't click with the new maid after the previous left. They tried playing but the new maid didn't like kids, so they were not close to her throughout the next 2 years. But fortunately, the new maid was ok in chores and had initiative, so I was relieved in other aspects and could concentrate on the 2 kids, which is better isn't it? Hope your new maid can relieve you of some stuff and allow you to have quality time with your boy too.

ya... cwc... u r right... i must \"see open\"!!! :oops:
:xedfingers: that the new maid is going to be less of an issue!

[peapot]

Wa! beanstalk the maid can make kueh??!! Whoa!! imagine, in the morning when you wake up, you get freshly bake bread or kueh to eat. Nice thought.


Would you believe me if I tell you my maid has never in her 1and half years with me woke up late?? Its true!! I am so curious that I had to ask her because all my previous maids always has problems waking up on time.

Well, my this maid told me because she knows she has to pray on time that’s why she force herself to wake up. Occasionally when the weather is very warm she will boil barley water and cool it in our cups without me asking her to do it. she changed my bedsheets every 2 weeks without me telling her. She makes sure my daughter eats on time and puts on weight and people are surprise because she has never put on weight before.

So that’s why I thought she was a gem until lately she gives me this "off" day problem. Instead of telling me straight she went one round circle to tell me.

I seriously do not mind to give her off day, I just worried she goes outside and get influenced by friends. If she can remain unchanged, I can give her off day every week. Anyway, I know very soon she will also ask for hp. I m changing job next month, so I really do not want to rock the boat. So, I give in to her for the time being.

[BeContented]

peapot:

Wa! beanstalk the maid can make kueh??!! Whoa!! imagine, in the morning when you wake up, you get freshly bake bread or kueh to eat. Nice thought.


Would you believe me if I tell you my maid has never in her 1and half years with me woke up late?? Its true!! I am so curious that I had to ask her because all my previous maids always has problems waking up on time.

Well, my this maid told me because she knows she has to pray on time that's why she force herself to wake up. Occasionally when the weather is very warm she will boil barley water and cool it in our cups without me asking her to do it. she changed my bedsheets every 2 weeks without me telling her. She makes sure my daughter eats on time and puts on weight and people are surprise because she has never put on weight before.

So that's why I thought she was a gem until lately she gives me this \"off\" day problem. Instead of telling me straight she went one round circle to tell me.

I seriously do not mind to give her off day, I just worried she goes outside and get influenced by friends. If she can remain unchanged, I can give her off day every week. Anyway, I know very soon she will also ask for hp. I m changing job next month, so I really do not want to rock the boat. So, I give in to her for the time being.

Hey, actually reading on how your maid had behaved the first 1.5 years, think she seems rather sensible. I do think it's worth a try to give her one off day....but do expect some changes, it's inevitable. But if she can still do her job well, think it's better for you rather than a new maid who's likely not as good but demanding more (eg. pay, off etc).
My sis had one...ok, so so, dare to talk back, has handphone, has off day etc etc etc....my mom & I didn't think well of her initially, but as time passed, she didn't turn any worse. In fact, doing her job more diligently.....my brother-in-law gives her quite a fair bit of freedom and I think she appreciates it and reciprocate. Now into her 3rd/4th year.....still going strong. So sometimes, good to give each other a chance......

Back in 2004-2007, the 2 maids I had din have OFF day in their contract, but I allowed them OFF days every 1-2 month. On weekends, whenever permissible (ie. I dun require them), would give ~ 2-4 hours off so that they can have a meal outside or simple shopping nearby. Think they appreciate it too....a form of stress relief. However, I only did it after I'm sure of their conduct ie. after 6-9 months with me. But again, I do think maids last time are simpler and those I have were rather honest type.....so I could do it.

[Littlefly]

Gluttonish, agree with Cwc here. You are not petty. It is best to talk to your maid to let her know you are her employer and her priority is your kids first, housework second. You have the say coz she is hired under your name and you are accountable for your maid's well being, personal safely etc. Your hubby maybe think that since your maid will be at your mum's place so it is better to get your MIL to train her (in housework). Nevertheless, have him to agree with you that your kids should take priority over housework unless he has other thoughts in mind like ur MIL would now care for your kids with the maid reliefing her of housework.


Vent it all here if you need - we are all someone's DIL so can empathsize...

[Littlefly]

peapot:

So that's why I thought she was a gem until lately she gives me this \"off\" day problem. Instead of telling me straight she went one round circle to tell me.


I seriously do not mind to give her off day, I just worried she goes outside and get influenced by friends.

Sounds like you are more upset with her beating the bush than the request itself. I guess she's afraid of your reaction or rejection to the request. Maybe you can tell her you preferred she be upfront and honest in her requests next time.

Good to set some expectations if you are giving her an day off. Its like a leap of faith :xedfingers: but if she's sensible enough, then she would know what to listen and what not to.

[Slevy99]

Personally i do not trust full time maid because i dont like the idea of the maid staying over at my house. Saw many videos online regarding maid abusing children. I prefer hiring part time cleaner. For now, I am hiring my part time cleaner from http://www.housecleanersingapore.com/ and i find her service quite okay...

[AceTutors123]

Slevy99:

Personally i do not trust full time maid because i dont like the idea of the maid staying over at my house. Saw many videos online regarding maid abusing children. I prefer hiring part time cleaner. For now, I am hiring my part time cleaner from http://www.housecleanersingapore.com/ and i find her service quite okay...

Wow just checked out the rates, they're quite high isn't it? Close to $20/hr for cleaning services. That's more expensive than some private tuition =/

[jtoh]

Where do your maids go to for dental treatment? Polyclinics or private clinics?

Are dental fees covered by the employer?

Thanks.

[moonee]

Dental treatment is not the employers responsibility.