All About Life Without Maids

[LOLMum]

Junkfood Mummy:

Taking a step back seems so difficult.. I am a cleanaholic. Everything must be clean and dust-free. I know I am stressing myself and worst, my dh. *feeling bad now* But is there a way of telling myself to relax and do my best. I can sit down and type *relax* but i cant when i am doing those chores*sob*

:lol: practice makes perfect my dear :lol: :lol:

everyone has different way to adapt and relax so you have to find yours. but do it slowly (no rush).

am particular about cleanliness too initially but ends up stressing all especially myself. took me a while to relax and let go. now maybe not 99% but at least house must be 85% clean (still a1 right).

:dancing: :dancing: :dancing:

[Lynn2]

Well said.


I used to be very hard on myself, esp those time when I just started to be maidless.Now, two years passed, am less particular and life goes on...it takes a while to get adjusted....

When stamina got the better of us, we will know how to let go...


cheers
Lynn2

LOLMum:

Junkfood Mummy:

Taking a step back seems so difficult.. I am a cleanaholic. Everything must be clean and dust-free. I know I am stressing myself and worst, my dh. *feeling bad now* But is there a way of telling myself to relax and do my best. I can sit down and type *relax* but i cant when i am doing those chores*sob*

:lol: practice makes perfect my dear :lol: :lol:

everyone has different way to adapt and relax so you have to find yours. but do it slowly (no rush).

am particular about cleanliness too initially but ends up stressing all especially myself. took me a while to relax and let go. now maybe not 99% but at least house must be 85% clean (still a1 right).

:dancing: :dancing: :dancing:

[Junkfood Mummy]

:thankyou: Lynn2 and LOLmum for the advises :lol:

*practice makes perfect*

[superkiasuparent]

I’m surprised how i can survive without one sometimes but i get through…luckily my hubby’s quite a neat-freak so i don’t have to tidy up after him haha…i think he tidies up after me most of the time lol

[coccomie]

Sending my maid back next Sat, will be offically without maid, don't know if I can cope

[LOLMum]

definitely not going to be easy the first few weeks, but be positive. am sure you could handle it.


read the various posts in this thread and i am sure you are able to pick up a tip or two on how to cope with all the hair tearing, nite biting situations.

always remember to take a step back, a huge breath and relax. :celebrate:

[BeContented]

LOLMum:

definitely not going to be easy the first few weeks, but be positive. am sure you could handle it.


read the various posts in this thread and i am sure you are able to pick up a tip or two on how to cope with all the hair tearing, nite biting situations.

always remember to take a step back, a huge breath and relax. :celebrate:

Agree......beginning will be tough but should get easier along the way. Must learn to let go a bit (esp. if you are the clean-freak kind :), step back and relax, it'll help. I was maidless for 1+year, enjoyed my life cos' peace and privacy at own time own target. Add PIL and maid now....xiong......would anytime swap to go back maidless and without the PIL.
If you can get the family members to just contribute a little, you'll be surprise how much it may help at times esp. when you are tired.

Not sure if this helps, but these were some of the little stuff which my kids started since P1. They may look insignificant, but somehow I feel relieved cos' sometimes when there's too many little little stuff, it irks me
a) I arranged their school/PE uniform, socks, undies, handky etc at a fixed place. Every morning, after brushing teeth they would auto pick up all these from the wardrobe instead of calling/waiting for me to bring to them.
b) Stack and fold their own blankets, hang up pj after waking up (it may not be done well at young age, but later they'll only get better)
c) Once back from school, take out waterbottle & leave at basin. Put all their dirty clothes into laundry basket. For shorts/skirts (wear 2 days), hang up on hanger themselves.
d) Every night, they packed their own schoolbag. Anything forgotten, too bad, get punished.....I would only make special trip for really important stuff.

Frankly, the kids were easier to train, it's the DH that cannot be corrected :slapshead: He would just take off and throw everything on the floor, the kids followed initially, but managed to correct them.....but DH really bad example. :mad: Anyway, kids have to be independent eventually, cannot always depend on maid/mommy to do everything for them.....at least, that's my thinking. Dun worry, am sure you can handle with time.

[wildboys]

cwc:

Frankly, the kids were easier to train, it's the DH that cannot be corrected :slapshead: He would just take off and throw everything on the floor, the kids followed initially, but managed to correct them.....but DH really bad example. :mad:

I totally agree with the above!!! Kids are easiest to train, followed by DH, and as for PIL, can forget about any form of 'training'... :frustrated:

[yenny99]

Recently i hired a part time cleaner from http://www.facebook.com/parttimemaid and i find their service quite okay... Maybe you guys can give them a try

[yqyq]

Me too…engaged a domestic auntie cleaner for housekeeping once a week for 4 hrs…love the current arrangement, instead of get a maid…