Lose marks through carelessness!
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Yong HL:
In all honesty, it is neither you nor your child's fault. Our system needs alot of drilling on assessments in order to build stamina because the questions also get harder by the years. My child can learn anything except too much drilling....I believe it takes away the fun of learning and becomes dull for her. I have come to accept that there is only so much my child can be drilled in the system.i felt so heartache now.
...................... i felt like a wretched mum.
Also watch out for signs of mental fatigue or tiredness. Sometimes a day of outdoor play is far more effective than the constant drill. When I saw my child's stamina fading in revision...I sent her downstairs for roller-blading...... -
I’ve learnt that DS can reduce carelessness by about 10 marks depending on whether he is tired and overwrought or not. Since exams started, he has not done any practices. When he comes home, we do everything but study. We’ve watched 3 home movies, gone out to restaurants, went cycling, played cards… surfed youtube.
He has gone to school refreshed and emotionally composed everyday this week. This has paid off I think. He scored full marks for his Math P5 Paper 1. -
Yong HL:
hugz hugz. i went through these phases of 'despair' too. why give up my job to face this attitude blah blah blah. but we must press on. choose your priority. list down what need to improve and then take them one at a time. let the kid give suggestions on what can be done. as for reading, if no time, don't force. you may make her resent it even more despite the good intentions. i understand your frustrations. after so many study tips, checking strategies etc, still show no improvement...can vomit blood right? my kid used to cry when i scold him. now at middle primary, he no longer. he will look sad, but jumped back, usually with improvements after a few :rant: from me. sometimes dunno why must wait until i scold him. but he comes to accept that he prefers me to scold him than not bother about him. nonetheless, we still quite close. also try to understand what is your kid's strength. my kid tend to be careless, sloppy during daily work, but come exam, so far, save for a test where he missed out an entire page, his careless mistakes are limited to not more than 3 per subject. his handwriting is also better, although there are instances when marks are deducted due to poor handwriting. he felt the pain of losing these marks and hopefully will learn from there.i felt so heartache now.
my hubby is threatening my daughter to stand outside the gate for being rude. she is crying now. but i dun want to interfere coz i also felt that she needs discipline.
for these few nights, i get really frustrated having to deal with daughter's carelessness, forgetfulness, sloppiness in her work. Having to deal with all 3 subjects homeworks from school and home assignments are already so handful i couldnt even have time to make her read storybooks or read with her! This makes me even more frustrated when i know reading storybooks is the key to master language.... i felt so overwhelmed and i know she is too... i have no choice.. I am not asking her to get tip top marks just band 2 if good enough for me.. but her recent tests really got her into band 3 coz her careless mistakes..
i dont know why singapore education has to make things so diffcult for kids. is it me? am i wrong to push her this hard? i feel like dont care liao.. but i cant.. its for her own gd in long run... she is still crying so hard.... if only i'd known, i choose not to have kid in the 1st place...................... i felt like a wretched mum.
and never lock a kid out. even if he/she is rude, banished to the room is better than locking the kid out. no matter what, he/she needs to feel secure.
ok, about curbing carelessness, someone mentioned earlier about a list of things to carry out checking. girls like cute stuff right? get those cute post-it/placard etc and write these strategies in short point form. attach this placard where it is highly visible (for my case, i paste a postit on the assessment that my kid does. let the kid refer to it for any other assignment that you need her to do checking. then :xedfingers: and hope that it will become a habit. if it fails every now and then, adapt and try again. if not, come here rant again and we'll brainstorm together la.
childhood is short. enjoy your kid before she grows up.
all the best. -
Hi insider, my daughter is in p1 this year.
Hi Jennifer and jedamum
Thanks for the comfort given. i appreciate it…
Everytime i read about how self motivating other peoples’ kids can be, i am so filled with envy. Its a chore to repeat the same thing every night "take out your bottle water, do your homework, read your books etc etc…" and its exhausting to revisit the same type of questions due to carelessness and forgetfulness. Things never seem to be able to move on!
Now that the term 2 tests are over, she got her results back. Mainly in Band 2. To me, i am satisfied despite of her careless mistakes. But then at the back of my mind, i had this naggy thought of being told that its super easy for students in P1 to get band 1 (is it true). i tried to shut it off. Jedamum, you are right. childhood is short. this is something i shld ALWAYS bear in mind! So many times, i have been caught up with the rat race that study is ALL about Band 1 and Band 2. All i wanted my daughter to do is "to move up with the herd" as i called it… need not be top but certainly not lagging too much behind.
Thanks to the ideas given here in this forum, i worked out a reward pts system for her. I explained to her and she seems receptive. so i will be trying out and see how effective this can be to motivate her.
Apologies if my post is kind of messy… i just write whatver it comes to my mind… in fact the more i think about yesterday how she cried, i feel like crying myself now… but she is ok today talking and laughing with us. Its amazing and awesome how kids can be so forgiving… -
Insider and Jedamum,
Your postings are really encouraging for me… Thanks! -
Chenonceau:
Wow, this is wonderful! :congrats: Chenonceau!I've learnt that DS can reduce carelessness by about 10 marks depending on whether he is tired and overwrought or not. Since exams started, he has not done any practices. When he comes home, we do everything but study. We've watched 3 home movies, gone out to restaurants, went cycling, played cards... surfed youtube.
He has gone to school refreshed and emotionally composed everyday this week. This has paid off I think. He scored full marks for his Math P5 Paper 1. -
Yong HL:
Its a chore to repeat the same thing every night \"take out your bottle water, do your homework, read your books etc etc...\" and its exhausting to revisit the same type of questions due to carelessness and forgetfulness. Things never seem to be able to move on!
U will be surprised I am still facing some of these issues with my elder boy, esp his water bottle :frustrated:
We just dun share the same perspective of what's impt. Generation gap, maybe. BUT we must remember they are unique individual who hv their own way of doing things. We also dun like our MIL to nag at us, force us to do things their way
So, pick our battle wisely.
When my P4 boy was in P1, he also scored band 2. Now, he has done much better. Slow n steady wins the race, even if we are sucked into this rat race that seem to :imdrowning: us sometimes.
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hi insider,
my girl is a march baby and she doesnt really like tv and not addicted to computer games. she usually draws and arranges her stationery at her own free time.
I agree with you (& keep reminding myself) that no child wants to make mistakes and get scolded. I also want to be a goody goody mum too… but when i saw the careless mistakes made on the type of questions which we have practised together so many times, i just simply blew it.
The reason why i want her to avoid being in band 3 is coz if P1 she is already in band 3, in my opinion, this signifies either she doesnt have a gd foundation in her knowledge in the subject (which she will also have a hard time to catch up as she progress) or her carelessness is too outrageous (which really needs some polishing)… -
Jennifer:
Jennifer[Slow n steady wins the race, even if we are sucked into this rat race that seem to :imdrowning: us sometimes.
:hugs:
thanks for the encouragement :hugs:
yes, u have just reminded me to accept this horrible fact that me and my daughter are already in this rat race which we cant withdraw. I can only mentally remind myself to be slow and steady, dont scold too much and accept that this is where she is (thanks insider for this reminder) & at the end of the day, a happy childhood (thanks to jedamum).
I hope she knows i am trying to be a better mum to her and i will continue to learn from all of you..
yes, i will be ranting it out here again. and i certainly hope you guys dont find me a nuisance repeating the same thing all over again then.... -
Yong HL:
careless mistakes made on the type of questions which we have practised together so many times
I hv a parent complaining to me that her child will learn sth today only to forget it by the following week.
I had the same prob with my P4 boy when he just started the morning session. After I implemented afternoon naps (at least 1.5 hr), I noticed his attention span, retention and memory power improved. Now he sleeps ard 9.30am and wakes up at 6am. On some days, I also have difficulty in getting him to understand what I am teaching, so I let him rest instead of following a rigid timetable for revision.
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