Pei Hwa Presbyterian Primary

[S6169]

Trapwithin:

In a few hours time, we will be getting back most papers - except paper 1.

Then like all Kiasuparents, we will be checking the paper find out where they make their mistakes and think of ways to improve their grades.
Then we will be adding the marks and comparing it with classmates, previous years result, etc. It is veyr natural because we care and want the best for them.

I just want to remind everyone, go slow on your kids .... whether it is comparing with their own personal ability or with peers. If you and your kids are satified, press on and aim to achieve higher heights in SA2. If it falls below expectation, the exam is over, let's set our sight on SA2, afterall it has 60% weightage so not all is lost.

For high achieving kids, PHPPS is very competitive.
The coverted Top 40 position will see re-shuffle every year. So relax, afterall a few marks might change the position by quite a fair bit.
It doesn't mean they are not good, it might be a genuine mistake or peers are better as their potential unfolds

Seriously the 1st student and the last student of the top clasee might be just 20 marks different in total, which is about 5 marks per subject. Remember exam are a general benchmark not a deciding grade for their future. 5 marks lesser doesn't necessary meant that they will be less successful in the future.

For whatever results, give them some space after exam and lots of Tender, Loving Care.

Just login and saw this excellent post. Thanks Trapwithin! :goodpost:

[periwinklejoy]

Trapwithin:

In a few hours time, we will be getting back most papers - except paper 1.

Then like all Kiasuparents, we will be checking the paper find out where they make their mistakes and think of ways to improve their grades.
Then we will be adding the marks and comparing it with classmates, previous years result, etc. It is veyr natural because we care and want the best for them.

I just want to remind everyone, go slow on your kids .... whether it is comparing with their own personal ability or with peers. If you and your kids are satified, press on and aim to achieve higher heights in SA2. If it falls below expectation, the exam is over, let's set our sight on SA2, afterall it has 60% weightage so not all is lost.

For high achieving kids, PHPPS is very competitive.
The coverted Top 40 position will see re-shuffle every year. So relax, afterall a few marks might change the position by quite a fair bit.
It doesn't mean they are not good, it might be a genuine mistake or peers are better as their potential unfolds

Seriously the 1st student and the last student of the top clasee might be just 20 marks different in total, which is about 5 marks per subject. Remember exam are a general benchmark not a deciding grade for their future. 5 marks lesser doesn't necessary meant that they will be less successful in the future.

For whatever results, give them some space after exam and lots of Tender, Loving Care.

Hi Uncle Trap, well said well said! I hv exactly the same sentiments but its hard to put into action as sometimes emotions and exasperation gets the \"better\" out of me. Its like going on a swing, forward-backwards, on how to ensure kids are given breathing space and lots of fun and sufficient free time to play, vs doing sufficient assessments to ensure they are not lagging in their studies. School std is rather high as without doing assessmts and having some sort of assistance at home, in addition to their school work, kids may tend to be in the below avg league in school. On one hand, I'm fine if my kids are in avg class, but on the other hand, I'm happy and they are happy when they are in the top few classes. But at the end of the day, its not us, its our kids that matter the most. Doing well academically in school is indeed not everything, the learning process, enjoying school life, tastes of trivial disappointments/ setbacks and picking up on the way, and building good friendships are just some of the the precious intangibles that the kids will bring with them throughout their childhood into their adult years... ... Putting all emphasis on just studies is indeed not fair to them
So I also hv to constantly remind myself that I hv to give dem space to hv fun, and enough time to day dream, read and play. Thanks for your reminder Uncle Trap!

[Jennifer]

Trapwithin:

I just want to remind everyone, go slow on your kids ....

For whatever results, give them some space after exam and lots of Tender, Loving Care.

:goodpost:

[Trapwithin]

periwinklejoy:

Hi Uncle Trap, well said well said! I hv exactly the same sentiments but its hard to put into action as sometimes emotions and exasperation gets the \"better\" out of me. Its like going on a swing, forward-backwards, on how to ensure kids are given breathing space and lots of fun and sufficient free time to play, vs doing sufficient assessments to ensure they are not lagging in their studies. School std is rather high as without doing assessmts and having some sort of assistance at home, in addition to their school work, kids may tend to be in the below avg league in school. On one hand, I'm fine if my kids are in avg class, but on the other hand, I'm happy and they are happy when they are in the top few classes. But at the end of the day, its not us, its our kids that matter the most. Doing well academically in school is indeed not everything, the learning process, enjoying school life, tastes of trivial disappointments/ setbacks and picking up on the way, and building good friendships are just some of the the precious intangibles that the kids will bring with them throughout their childhood into their adult years... ... Putting all emphasis on just studies is indeed not fair to them

So I also hv to constantly remind myself that I hv to give dem space to hv fun, and enough time to day dream, read and play. Thanks for your reminder Uncle Trap!

:lol: Uncle Trap is a term for your dd/ds, you must call Bro Trap like Sista Funx3, if not everyone think I very old

I understand how you feel. My dd went through quite an unhappy Term 1 this year. This is mainly due to the getting the engine to start after a long holiday and having a CNY in the middle of Term 1 didn't help her to maintain the momentum as well. She mentioned something to me casually one day that cause me to relook her life. She mentioned that she look forward to recess time everyday becasue she get to do what she want. After much thoughts and discussion with dw, I concluded that she needed some personal space. We started to give her a complete 1 hour \"do as you like\" time daily - half an hour in the morning and half an hour at night. Not that I am taskmaster, just that like many kids, my dd \"Space-out\" (Daydream) a lot and takes her time to do her stuff.

It helps not because she get this free time but physchologically she was given the space she needed. She improves in your mood and things get back to normal again. So I concluded that she is probably burn-out.

So now I have a new slogan in life: \"Space out to prevent Burnout\" :imcool:

[JRLam]

Jennifer:

I think I want to call the CL HOD and request him to organise a workshop for PH parents for this killer section.


Anyone else interested in this idea? More voices more chances of getting the workshop up.

Count me in!

[periwinklejoy]

Hi JRLam,

I managed to read fr pg 1118 to the current page! Had bn having a hard time balancing catching up with rallies and coaching both kids :gloomy:
I think u asked P5 parents on this forum if Math was tough. Yes, my dd came back with a heavy heart after her math paper, she lamented on why Math papers in P5 is so tough! I think I contributed partly to her misery as I told her CA1 is a killer, SA1 wld be definitely much easier :xedfingers:
She had a tough time gettg ready for SA1, didn't managed to revise lower pri science as was too busy with revising P5 topics; did only a few Eng and Math test papers; did 2 science papers and some Chin OE compre. Insanely lack of time. And weekends were burnt out as we were out for activities, so that contributed to the lack of revision time.
She had wanted to practice Math but I told SA1 shd be ok so I asked her to focus on Science and Eng Syn and transfn and Chin OE.
How abt ds? Coped well with revision prior to exams?

[Mum4ever]

Count me IN too… for the CL workshop

[periwinklejoy]

Trapwithin:

periwinklejoy:

Hi Uncle Trap, well said well said! I hv exactly the same sentiments but its hard to put into action as sometimes emotions and exasperation gets the \"better\" out of me. Its like going on a swing, forward-backwards, on how to ensure kids are given breathing space and lots of fun and sufficient free time to play, vs doing sufficient assessments to ensure they are not lagging in their studies. School std is rather high as without doing assessmts and having some sort of assistance at home, in addition to their school work, kids may tend to be in the below avg league in school. On one hand, I'm fine if my kids are in avg class, but on the other hand, I'm happy and they are happy when they are in the top few classes. But at the end of the day, its not us, its our kids that matter the most. Doing well academically in school is indeed not everything, the learning process, enjoying school life, tastes of trivial disappointments/ setbacks and picking up on the way, and building good friendships are just some of the the precious intangibles that the kids will bring with them throughout their childhood into their adult years... ... Putting all emphasis on just studies is indeed not fair to them

So I also hv to constantly remind myself that I hv to give dem space to hv fun, and enough time to day dream, read and play. Thanks for your reminder Uncle Trap!

:lol: Uncle Trap is a term for your dd/ds, you must call Bro Trap like Sista Funx3, if not everyone think I very old

I understand how you feel. My dd went through quite an unhappy Term 1 this year. This is mainly due to the getting the engine to start after a long holiday and having a CNY in the middle of Term 1 didn't help her to maintain the momentum as well. She mentioned something to me casually one day that cause me to relook her life. She mentioned that she look forward to recess time everyday becasue she get to do what she want. After much thoughts and discussion with dw, I concluded that she needed some personal space. We started to give her a complete 1 hour \"do as you like\" time daily - half an hour in the morning and half an hour at night. Not that I am taskmaster, just that like many kids, my dd \"Space-out\" (Daydream) a lot and takes her time to do her stuff.

It helps not because she get this free time but physchologoically she was given the space she needed. She improves in your mood and things get back to normal again. So I concluded that she is probably burn-out.

So now I have a new slogan in life: \"Space out to prevent Burnout\" :imcool:

Uncle Trap Uncle Trap Uncle Trap Uncle Trap Uncle Trap.... :heresmyfish: Sounds like a mischievous child rite? Hee :lol: Im a child at heart ...
Ok dont :spank: me lah
Bro Trap, I hv to again agree with u \"Space out to prevent Burnout\" :mad:

[IJJ]

S6169:

Trapwithin:

In a few hours time, we will be getting back most papers - except paper 1.

Then like all Kiasuparents, we will be checking the paper find out where they make their mistakes and think of ways to improve their grades.
Then we will be adding the marks and comparing it with classmates, previous years result, etc. It is veyr natural because we care and want the best for them.

I just want to remind everyone, go slow on your kids .... whether it is comparing with their own personal ability or with peers. If you and your kids are satified, press on and aim to achieve higher heights in SA2. If it falls below expectation, the exam is over, let's set our sight on SA2, afterall it has 60% weightage so not all is lost.

For high achieving kids, PHPPS is very competitive.
The coverted Top 40 position will see re-shuffle every year. So relax, afterall a few marks might change the position by quite a fair bit.
It doesn't mean they are not good, it might be a genuine mistake or peers are better as their potential unfolds

Seriously the 1st student and the last student of the top clasee might be just 20 marks different in total, which is about 5 marks per subject. Remember exam are a general benchmark not a deciding grade for their future. 5 marks lesser doesn't necessary meant that they will be less successful in the future.

For whatever results, give them some space after exam and lots of Tender, Loving Care.

Just login and saw this excellent post. Thanks Trapwithin! :goodpost:

Oh bro Trap...you are such a tender dad!! :love:

I totally agree, thanks for sharing and I will keep this wise advise in mind. I have seen mine slogging morning till evening to do her self-revisions by her own, as long as she did her best, that is good enough for me. :snuggles:

[JRLam]

periwinklejoy:

Hi JRLam,

I managed to read fr pg 1118 to the current page! Had bn having a hard time balancing catching up with rallies and coaching both kids :gloomy:
I think u asked P5 parents on this forum if Math was tough. Yes, my dd came back with a heavy heart after her math paper, she lamented on why Math papers in P5 is so tough! I think I contributed partly to her misery as I told her CA1 is a killer, SA1 wld be definitely much easier :xedfingers:
She had a tough time gettg ready for SA1, didn't managed to revise lower pri science as was too busy with revising P5 topics; did only a few Eng and Math test papers; did 2 science papers and some Chin OE compre. Insanely lack of time. And weekends were burnt out as we were out for activities, so that contributed to the lack of revision time.
She had wanted to practice Math but I told SA1 shd be ok so I asked her to focus on Science and Eng Syn and transfn and Chin OE.
How abt ds? Coped well with revision prior to exams?

Hi Periwinkle,

We were pretty discipline during the exam preparation time, ie not unnecessary outings (so no rally for me lah!), no TV, limited computer time (reserved for completion of work only ), timetabling etc. Even with that, kids still drive me nuts to ensure they kept to the schedule.. but on hindsight, I do think they had worked hard so what's done is done, they deserved compliments on their hardwork so had been giving them a lot of free time since last Fri :imcool:

So far, result wise, ds improved on some and slackened on others. Surprisingly, he scored well in Maths P1 so that make-up for the point lost in P2. I am waiting for the entire cohort results as well as the actual paper today before I draw any conclusion.

DD improved on all her subjects, of which both of us are very glad. Even though there isn't any 100 mark, but I am already over the moon and heaved a really really big sign of relief :imanangel:

This is only 1 of the battles to prepare them for the tough time - many many wars coming their way from now till adulthood (I pity myself and all the parents more! Having gone through this during our time as students and now still have to 'suffer' even harder in our kids' time!). Despite all the stress that come with exams etc, I do hope that all these 'hardship' will help to build up their resilience when face with other challenges in life. We can't always be there for them.

Haha, hope I don't go into an 'uncontrollable' mode when I see his papers later .. must stay