All About Full-Time Maids

[tigger88]

micollh:

i called MOM, they said renewal of FWD no cost. 2 years and it's free. wow..now i need to check with agency for the insurance.

great! now just need to know if insurance can just get a few months rather than 2 years.

[ZuEn]

Hquek,

Can’t leave her at home. My kids are only 3yo n 8 mths old. The last time that she wasted the food, I was so pissed that I told her that I will buy Mac Donaldson for her the next time we dine in restuarant. She still tell me "ok". All the more I pei chek. Lol.

[hquek]

Hi ZuEn,


I’m guessing she’s wasting the food to spite you - becos you didn’t let her order. If she orders, and waste the food, tell her going forward you decide. Else, fill up her stomach FIRST before you step into a restaurant - then if she can still eat, allow her dessert so it doesn’t look as if you’re ill treating her.

I usually start out with ordering food for my maids. Only after sometime when I’m more comfy, then I’ll ask them to order themselves/buy directly for themselves. It’s quite strange really in my case, becos the maid will be sitting like a queen while I scurry around finding seats (food court), buying food and serving her.

[tigger88]

ZuEn,


Usually we will order the same food for everyone so maid cannot compare. If need to order individual portion, I will let my maid choose as she is quite auto. Mine will not waste food. If your maid attitude is so bad, I will like what hquek has suggested. Either let her eat at home first before going to the resturant or you decide for her in future.

[SMH FOREST]

Hi ZuEn,


I’m like hquek!! Serving the maid while she sits prettily at the table… But, that’s cos’ I think she can’t order herself yet… With my old maid, she managed to learn quite quickly… and not long after, we just let her decide what she wants to eat… and she is also more zi dong lah…

[hquek]

heh heh SMH_forest, I still remember once at busy hawker centre. We were busy hunting for table. My maid was standing next to one whose occupants were leaving. She idly stood there and didn’t realise to sit down - another family kop that table. To put it mildly, I was upset!!


FYI, it wasn’t that she was looking after my kids (then very small also) - WE had to jaga the babies and try to hunt for tables.

[SMH FOREST]

Hehehe… hquek… we are in almost similar predicament… plus, the maid eats her food comfortably… while we jaga my boy… and feeding him (after he started on solids)… sometimes, its hubs eat first while i carry him, and then when he finishes then i’ll eat my food…

[ZuEn]

hquek:

Hi ZuEn,


I'm guessing she's wasting the food to spite you - becos you didn't let her order. If she orders, and waste the food, tell her going forward you decide. Else, fill up her stomach FIRST before you step into a restaurant - then if she can still eat, allow her dessert so it doesn't look as if you're ill treating her.

I usually start out with ordering food for my maids. Only after sometime when I'm more comfy, then I'll ask them to order themselves/buy directly for themselves. It's quite strange really in my case, becos the maid will be sitting like a queen while I scurry around finding seats (food court), buying food and serving her.

That is what happened to me too.
I ordered and buy food, she sits there.
We will be gobbling down our food or I will feed DD and eating at the same time whiel my maid look after DS. When we took over DS, then she slowly eat. I wonder who has a better life.

Then again, I cannot complain too much lah. She's the best out of the 3. Can do housework satisfactorily and can look after my kids.

[ZuEn]

Anyone saw the news about possibility of giving one compulsory day off to maid ever week? Not fair.

I always tell my colleagues that I am starting my other full time job as a mummy after office hours. Already cannot cope and Government wants us to give mandatory day off to maid.
I am dreaming of the day that I can be maidless. I hope to do so when DD goes to Primary One, which is 4 years away. Boohoo.

[nms1]

ZuEn:

Anyone saw the news about possibility of giving one compulsory day off to maid ever week? Not fair.

I always tell my colleagues that I am starting my other full time job as a mummy after office hours. Already cannot cope and Government wants us to give mandatory day off to maid.
I am dreaming of the day that I can be maidless. I hope to do so when DD goes to Primary One, which is 4 years away. Boohoo.

I think it is inevitable that it will happen eventually but the question is when and whether people really follow it.

I thought it was interesting that one of the maid agencies was quoted as saying it would results in a \"lower quality of life\" for employers. Would it really?

I don't think there are really very many people who would suffer that much if they gave their maid a day off. I understand that there is a small minority with elderly sick members of the family who need 24 hour supervision who would have their weekends restricted if their maid had a day off but surely in these cases all the more the maid needs a break. And most should have someone else in the family who can help out.

All over the world many families have both parents working full-time and they manage to survive so I think we have to be realistic and manage on our own for one day a week.

I agree that it's nice to have a maid 7 days a week but it is a luxury not a necessity for most of us. My maid takes 2 Sundays off and on those Sundays when she is around it is nice to be able to go out to lunch and relax over dessert or coffee with friends while she entertains the children but it's an added perk rather than something we really need. In some ways I actually enjoy not having her around as my children are \"mine\" again if you know what I mean.