Club SAHM

[puff]

I think my CL is the worse nitemare. I ask her to leave after 2 weeks.

She cooked lunch then reheat it for dinner. My kitchen is in a mess when she is here. I decided to ask her to leave when she give me Campbell soup for dinner :mad: .During her stay my DH have to mop the kitchen floor after she cook , my kitchen floor is super oily n she claim she mop already.
At the end my mom have to cook for me n DH take over bb duty.

[SAHM_TAN]

puff:

I think my CL is the worse nitemare. I ask her to leave after 2 weeks.

She cooked lunch then reheat it for dinner. My kitchen is in a mess when she is here. I decided to ask her to leave when she give me Campbell soup for dinner :mad: .During her stay my DH have to mop the kitchen floor after she cook , my kitchen floor is super oily n she claim she mop already.
At the end my mom have to cook for me n DH take over bb duty.

Wow CL from hell. Does she know how to take care of just delivered mothers or not? Campbell soup? I have nice CL for DS and DD2. But my DD2 2nd CL was :slapshead: so I asked her to leave after 3 days. My DD2 first CL couldn't stay another month. She was the best.

[terry]

thks all for the encouragement :hugs:


i seriously dun noe if i can do it. im afraid i cannot wake up at nite or last the whole day with little rest. really no confidence..smtimes will ask myself y look for trouble.
altho i have a maid, but still cant trust them with young bbs/child.

one step at a time. praying ev nite for strength and faith.

[SAHM_TAN]

terry:

thks all for the encouragement :hugs:


i seriously dun noe if i can do it. im afraid i cannot wake up at nite or last the whole day with little rest. really no confidence..smtimes will ask myself y look for trouble.
altho i have a maid, but still cant trust them with young bbs/child.

one step at a time. praying ev nite for strength and faith.

You are noting going to get CL?

[terry]

SAHM_TAN,

i alrdy got new CL,but hoping for help till 2nd mth at least…thg is, i dun noe if this one is gd or not. cos me alone with her and bb. hb work mostly overseas. ds1 and maid deploy to mum’s plc during my confinement cos ds1 super active. am afraid will not enuff rest cos i wanna try bfg. also will have c-section so take longer time to recover.

impt for me to recuperate this round cos age catching up. if dun do confinement properly,next time old liao will suffer. oso wana take tis 2nd chance to learn hw to take care of bb by myself…cannot be so nuah anymre.

[SAHM_TAN]

terry:

SAHM_TAN,

i alrdy got new CL,but hoping for help till 2nd mth at least..thg is, i dun noe if this one is gd or not. cos me alone with her and bb. hb work mostly overseas. ds1 and maid deploy to mum's plc during my confinement cos ds1 super active. am afraid will not enuff rest cos i wanna try bfg. also will have c-section so take longer time to recover.

impt for me to recuperate this round cos age catching up. if dun do confinement properly,next time old liao will suffer. oso wana take tis 2nd chance to learn hw to take care of bb by myself..cannot be so nuah anymre.

You can do it. My DD2 CL was very good and helped me to recuperate. I had rosy cheeks :lol:

So you planning not to bathe and wash hands with boiled water only?

[buds]

LOLMum:

buds:

[quote=\"cwc\"]ha ha .... i only know a few dishes/recipes....but becos of the 'add some this, add some that, no precise amts' ..... my dishes has lotsa permutations and each time taste differently horrible :faint:

You cracked me up! :laugh:

This sounds hilarious! :rotflmao:

I'm sure you're exaggerating... can't be that bad bah.. :nailbite:

oh, i believe her because this is happening to me too. been cooking for more than a year but it is very bad. sometimes have to throw the whole batch away and cook again. i can do good housekeeping, iron and wash well but cooking :sad: :sad: :sad:

observing a one minute of silence at the dining table is pretty common in my household. [/quote]Now \"YOU\" are cracking me up and all over, LOLMum! :rotflmao:

[buds]

kabalevsky:

buds:

[quote=\"cwc\"]ha ha .... i only know a few dishes/recipes....but becos of the 'add some this, add some that, no precise amts' ..... my dishes has lotsa permutations and each time taste differently horrible :faint:

You cracked me up! :laugh:

This sounds hilarious! :rotflmao:

I'm sure you're exaggerating... can't be that bad bah.. :nailbite:

ya, cwc just being modest and humble. :)[/quote]I'm sure she really is... being modest.

Given a chance to reali show her prowess by allowing her freedom to her
own kitchen, the inner Martha (Stewart) would be screaming to come out.
So cannot reali blame her. Her kitchen is taken hostage. It's a war zone out
there.

[buds]

kabalevsky:

[quote]having helper is half the battle won... household chores

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indeed, the helper is the most cham cos she is caught in between mil n fil, mil and me... she is the middle ground between mil n me too, so in the end, not much direct conflict betw me n mil. it's more like mil tell helper to tell me i shouldn't do this or that, then i'll tell helper but this way more hygienic or whatever, then helper convey msg back to mil n she'll kena scolded, mil doesn't scold me directly in that sense. poor helper...

furthermore at that time i was working full time, so the one who stays at home whole day with mil is the helper. [/quote]Sounds highly complicated but still... diplomatic relations somewhat aye? :lol:

kabalevsky:

[quote]Nothing beats one's own place regardless how small or no matter how big.. Important thing is one's own. While having own place should have been priority once married, there were too many hurdles to cross to get to the part. But fast forward 10 years.. it's finally mine. Things have never been better. And so i learn... and so i improve myself... and in doing so, i'm much happier. While moving on means more than meets the eye... i'd take it one step at a time hoping 10 years more down the road will see sweeter fruits to the years of perseverance. :xedfingers:

yup yup! sweeter as the years go by![/quote]http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php

[buds]

cwc:

Errrhhh..... :oops: , it's real. For the same dish, I verified with my mom 3x, tried it 4x, still each time different.


DD & DS went like this \"Mommy....is this supposed to be what PoPo cooked that day? How come yours LOOK and TASTE so different?!?!\"

While Buds came out stronger, a good cook now....I came out 100% convinced, me no cook potential, cos' tastebuds is insensitive, most of the time can only comment \"taste good, I like\".....can't really taste the ingredients used. But too bad, DH can taste quite well, hence dun really eat much of what I cook & plus he likes different food from the kids and myself. :frustrated:

These days with helper, will leave it mostly to helper....just tell her, cook this cook that....cos' I can't teach too. So far, edible to me....but MIL and DH will be complaining.....

Babe arh.. that's how i started out too. :hugs: Especially when i have a mother who teaches cooking in chunks and without any concrete measurements. :frustrated: But as time goes by, it gets better. Guess wanting to be good at it badly enuff does help. Since i was feeding a house of 7.

As long as you have a tongue.. can differentiate nice and not nice.. got hope.. got hope.. jia you.. dun give up!

My husband has been opposing to the idea of having a full time helper in our house for the longest time. Even when i was still working back then. He has his reasons and after listening to some of them, i do and can understand where he is coming from. As for the part of getting helper to cook, he seriously doubts any helper doing so. He reiterated his mantra.. Whenever the helper is not happy about something, since she cannot retaliate in kind ie. screaming.. nagging.. reporting.. etc.. the only way she can hit back is thru' your food. Nuff said.

Like sleepy, i've been toying with the idea of the ideal tai tai status.. so been thinking seriously again abt the having helper issue. He says the helper if not up to my standard then how? Then have to like take care of another child leh? He doesn't mind though if the helper is someone we know or have worked with a family that we're close to.. like a takeover. :xedfingers: