Club SAHM

[Kabby]

cwc:

Sounds quite alike Only difference is, I gotta add on 2 elderly whom I need to chauffeur to & fro from work and eldercare everyday :sick: :sick: In between, mop urine, disinfect house, and sometimes clean shit (literally poo) cos' FIL uncooperative & dirty all over (toilet, corridoor, hall, chairs, walls). :frustrated: :mad: It was the most terrible years of my life.....now, got a helper cos' FIL kena kicked out of the eldercare (for misbehaving & uncooperative) and now gotta be home 24x7 plus became weak recently and cannot walk liao.

Before the PILs came along, tho busy I was actually quite happy being a SAHM.
Frankly, now I often wonder if I should dump everything and go back to work. MIL not easy too and she will be quite difficult (get on nerves and yells and nags and denies/lies).....then there's a maid still to handle. I loathe to think about the day when she will stop working. Wonder will I go crazy then :scared:

oh dear, indeed, it's tough. Dh's grandma just passed away and before that she was incontinent and refused to wear adult diapers (she can't control both bowel and urine) so her caregivers had to clean everything all the time too.

actually we all have to be prepared one day we have to do these too, since our parents and pils getting older as well.

you deserve pat on shoulder for doing all these, your children will see your filial piety!

[autumnbronze]

cwc:

Sounds quite alike Only difference is, I gotta add on 2 elderly whom I need to chauffeur to & fro from work and eldercare everyday :sick: :sick: In between, mop urine, disinfect house, and sometimes clean shit (literally poo) cos' FIL uncooperative & dirty all over (toilet, corridoor, hall, chairs, walls). :frustrated: :mad: It was the most terrible years of my life.....now, got a helper cos' FIL kena kicked out of the eldercare (for misbehaving & uncooperative) and now gotta be home 24x7 plus became weak recently and cannot walk liao.

Before the PILs came along, tho busy I was actually quite happy being a SAHM.
Frankly, now I often wonder if I should dump everything and go back to work. MIL not easy too and she will be quite difficult (get on nerves and yells and nags and denies/lies).....then there's a maid still to handle. I loathe to think about the day when she will stop working. Wonder will I go crazy then :scared:

cwc, chanced upon your post here .....

:salute: and :hugs: to you ....

[Angelight]

cwc, it must be very hard on you. You are one strong woman! :udawoman:


I'm sure your DH and children will appreciate you, even if your PILs can't. :hugs:

cwc:

Sounds quite alike Only difference is, I gotta add on 2 elderly whom I need to chauffeur to & fro from work and eldercare everyday :sick: :sick: In between, mop urine, disinfect house, and sometimes clean shit (literally poo) cos' FIL uncooperative & dirty all over (toilet, corridoor, hall, chairs, walls). :frustrated: :mad: It was the most terrible years of my life.....now, got a helper cos' FIL kena kicked out of the eldercare (for misbehaving & uncooperative) and now gotta be home 24x7 plus became weak recently and cannot walk liao.

Before the PILs came along, tho busy I was actually quite happy being a SAHM.
Frankly, now I often wonder if I should dump everything and go back to work. MIL not easy too and she will be quite difficult (get on nerves and yells and nags and denies/lies).....then there's a maid still to handle. I loathe to think about the day when she will stop working. Wonder will I go crazy then :scared:

[terry]

[quote]*whispering to myself* .... Monday once.. Tuesday twice...

Wednesday... hmm.. cannot remember... Thursday... err... :scratchhead:

:rotflmao:[/quote]
Buds,
Now we noe u r really SUPERWOMAN!! :salute:

[terry]

i was surfing some of the other threads…really live up to itz name.


im not kiasu at all, so all these making me gan cheong.

nw feel like waking my ds up to do smthg!
like, dun waste time sleeping…got alot catching up to do bah!

i didnt have a single enrichment class when i was young. i spent my childhood chasing chickens and swimming in rivers back in msia where my parents were working.

i wan my kids to be as carefree as i was last time…

my ds1 is taking phonics once a wk only…very relax rite?

[terry]

SAHM_TAN:

terry:

SAHM_TAN,

i alrdy got new CL,but hoping for help till 2nd mth at least..thg is, i dun noe if this one is gd or not. cos me alone with her and bb. hb work mostly overseas. ds1 and maid deploy to mum's plc during my confinement cos ds1 super active. am afraid will not enuff rest cos i wanna try bfg. also will have c-section so take longer time to recover.

impt for me to recuperate this round cos age catching up. if dun do confinement properly,next time old liao will suffer. oso wana take tis 2nd chance to learn hw to take care of bb by myself..cannot be so nuah anymre.

You can do it. My DD2 CL was very good and helped me to recuperate. I had rosy cheeks :lol:

So you planning not to bathe and wash hands with boiled water only?

cannot dun bathe with tis type of weather..the 1st round i gv up on the 4th day.
hate confinement food.
smmre hb not around.
nw thinking of what to do to occupy the 30days.

[SAHM_TAN]

terry:

cannot dun bathe with tis type of weather..the 1st round i gv up on the 4th day.
hate confinement food.
smmre hb not around.
nw thinking of what to do to occupy the 30days.

I used the Chinese herbal water to baths. For me I find that I need to use boiled water to wash my hands. My 2nd confinement I didn't and my hands became very stiff. My 3rd and last one, I used and no problems with my hands.

I :please: confinement food, the pig trotter's vinegar yummy. All the wholesome goodies. :drool:


After the first wk, I find time flies by. Maybe you want to get some books, videos to pass the time. I find HK TVB series very addictive, Jap series also good to watch, I perfer Jap to K drama. But I think bb will keep you busy.

[Kabby]

Terry, I think chasing chickens and swimming in the rivers are very exciting activities. Very fun. I'm sure you have happy memories of your childhood right? Kids should enjoy your childhood. Let them have a memorable and joyous childhood!


Actually, there are a lot of fun things kids can do that are memorable, bond the family and yet learn at the same time too!

I can think of a lot of things that can be learnt while chasing chickens and swimming in the rivers!

[buds]

I remember playing in those huge drains... Canals... Scooping up tadpoles and BBQ-ing them over fire on a stick. We were tasked to rake the leaves to one corner to burn. I remember burning more than just dried leaves...intentionally... out of sheer curiosity. I remember being chased by the neighbors whose homes I almost burnt down. :siam: Playing rounders with a wooden plank without thinking whether we'd get blisters or whether there were splinters in the planks. The tennis ball would make banging sounds on everybody's wooden windows n no one screamed anything blasphemous. We were kids out of their (parents) hair doing our own stuff.

We'd go walk right in with our friends to their homes to get water to drink during breaks. We even shared cups; one cup with a few frenz with our salty sweat and wet lips. What hfmd? We played in the rain too. No fever leh..

Alamak, now look what u hv done... :slapshead: ...gettin' me all nostalgic.

[Kabby]

buds:

I remember playing in those huge drains... Canals... Scooping up tadpoles and BBQ-ing them over fire on a stick. We were tasked to rake the leaves to one corner to burn. I remember burning more than just dried leaves...intentionally... out of sheer curiosity. I remember being chased by the neighbors whose homes I almost burnt down. :siam: Playing rounders with a wooden plank without thinking whether we'd get blisters or whether there were splinters in the planks. The tennis balls would make banging sounds on everybody's wooden windows n no one screamed anything blasphemous. We were kids out of their (parents) hair doing our own stuff.

wah, so happening, where did u live? were we neighbours? :lol: