All About Problematic Maids

[BeContented]

Sad and scary. But fortunately, it's being discovered before anything serious really happened.


I'm puzzled though.....Was the maid agency aware of the job requirements? Was there any advice given to the couple? Are there any adult supervision around especially when the maid is a transfer case + new + 2 young hopeless child who can't voice out anything. Frankly, I think the age given by the agency are generally not real.....the 23s are usually younger, the 30s/40s are normally older.....and even family info are usually fake. My previous 3 maids have all confessed after being with me for 1+ year.....

My first maid was supposed to be 18, but was 2 years younger. When she was scolded by my in-law, she complained....i am the youngest child, nobody scolds me, at home I dun even have to do anything, how can ah mah scold me. ?!?! On another occasion, she laughed when my 2.5 yo son fell down in the bathroom while she was bathing him. I saw and questioned her, guess what. She admitted she's happy he fell cos she's angry with him :x. So when she wanted to renew her contract, I didn't. 2nd maid used her fist to hit my son's back when he refused to admit defeat at a game. Fortunately my son was already 4yo and when I did my routine checks eg. 'how is she treating you, does she hit you etc', he could tell me simply. So I warned the maid that she's not supposed to use force on them nor discipline, just tell me and I'll do it.
All these happen over minor issues with adults around, can you imagine what happens with no one to supervise?

Mummies with domestic helper, pls do keep a look out for signs of fear from your child. FYI, things don't just happen at home. I have on numerous times, warned other people's maids. Many of them esp. those ferrying children to school would just be talking on their phone oblivious to surrounding dangers while the young child follows behind or running around. And when they walk on roads, the maids are on the inside while the child is on the outside!!! Or on rainy days, I find the maid fully covered by umbrella while the child is half wet!!!!

I must admit, a maid's life is actually pretty pitiful actually. And if I have to lead a life like them, I'll be very stressed too and dun know how I would behave too. Also, many are ignorant and need instructions.
So while we learn to treat them better, we still need to be vigilant as it's our own children after all.

[gumiho]

I find the punishment on the maid is too light.


The little child had been traumatised by the maid torture and somehow or rather it will affect her growth.

Underage Maid had always been a topic in most of the forums and why ain’t MOM taking action ? This is not the first case of children been abused by maid.

[autumnbronze]

We try never to leave the maid alone with DS unless absolutely necessary, although our helper has been with us for 3 years now and we are beginning to trust her more.


When we go out, we always ask her if she’d like to join us because if she doesn’t she can have some time to herself. She does not have an off day and we do not allow her to have a hp. So we do take her out with us and let her order what she wants to eat as a form of indulgence to keep her happy.

When she is left with the child at in laws place if DH and I need to go out, my in laws take over taking care of my DS so that she can be occupied with other things.

Its true that they they are usually younger - my helper was 19 when she first started working with us, though the agency claimed that she was 24.

Agree with smurf that if we cannot handle two young kids, then we cannot expect a maid, and a young and unmarried one to do so.

From my experience with my maid, those that come from a stable family background will not give any major problems. She is close to her family and keeps in touch with them and she is relatively honest. Of course I close one eye when she uses the home phone when she is alone because as long as she does her work and takes good care of my son, why should I admonish her for something petty like that.

[autumnbronze]

LKVM:

autumnbronze:

We try never to leave the maid alone with DS unless absolutely necessary, although our helper has been with us for 3 years now and we are beginning to trust her more.

Autumn, for ppl like us who are FTWM have no choice but to be dependent on the maid to look after our kids so its very much required that the maid atleast be patient with the child...if there is some there at home to supervise then too good but its not possible always...

Yes I agree with you 100% :hi5:

I refer to what I wrote above a 'luxury/privilege' because I am a SAHM.

But I also believe strongly that for FTWM, even if they have to leave their kids with the helpers, they do ensure that they keep a tab via phones, CCTV etc ... because their kids' well-being comes first.

Whatever works best for all of us .... there's no hard and fast rule that things have to be done in a certain way with helpers :celebrate:

[verykiasu2010]

AN INDONESIAN maid who wrote in her diary that she was happy working for a family of four here went on a rampage with a knife and chopper, using them against her employer?s seven-year-old daughter.


This was in 2009, when Kumaeroh, who goes by only one name, was eight months into her job. She was preparing the girl for school on Sept 23 when she snapped without provocation, grabbed a knife from the kitchen and started stabbing the child.

Then she took a chopper and slashed the girl on her wrist.

On Monday, Kumaeroh, now 26, pleaded guilty to a charge of attempted culpable homicide and was jailed eight years by the High Court.

The maximum penalty is 15 years.

The victim in the attack, who cannot be named, is now in Primary 3. She has recovered, but still neither eats well nor is comfortable with strangers, said her mother, aged 42.

Read the full story in Tuesday's edition of The Straits Times.

http://www.straitstimes.com/BreakingNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_689531.html

[smartmummy]

:yikes: :scared:

thanks for sharing! I have heard a lot these kind of incidents.Thats why I don't want maids. :scared: :scared:

[jtoh]

:yikes:

[1amber]

Yeah, read it. Shocking. Poor little girl.

[verykiasu2010]

http://www.straitstimes.com/BreakingNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_690517.html


AN INDONESIAN domestic worker was on Thursday, jailed for three months for lying that she had been raped by a man on three occasions.

Rohatin, 33, admitted to giving false information to Bedok police on Dec 26 2010, that she was raped by an unknown Turkish man three times between Dec 24 and 25 2010.

The court heard that she befriended the Turk on Dec 22 and confided in him her problems.

He took her to his house where she massaged him voluntarily upon his request.

Two days later, she went to his house and claimed that he raped her. She lied that he raped her two more times on Dec 25.

Investigation showed that she cooked up the story as she was hurt and angry with the Turk for having other girlfriends, and making empty promises that he would employ her. She could have been jailed for up to one year and/or fined up to $5,000.

[verykiasu2010]

maids are having too much freedom