All About Teaching Values
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perhaps u can look at it another way, ie, if u have NOT been, then will your elder kid do it? :? Well nebber know...
Guess some kids r more receptive...some not that they're not careful...just they cannot be bothered...
Still, fundamentally, a leader gotta lead by example... -
As long we parents keep showing and sharing (telling them nicely) the right values with our kids, they will surely and slowly pick up some of them. It is also true that we should always set good example for them to emulate:)
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breguet:
:thankyou:
{sorry, all thumbs this morning. trying this again.}ZacK:
Actually the idea was not my own but I read it somewhere and decided that it made sense :lol:
Brought my son to the supermarket again today. As he was agreeable during lunch today, told him that we could stop by the supermarket to grab Yakult for him... This time round while on the way there I reminded him that he could get anything (Yakult inclusive) up to a value of S$3.
At the supermarket, saw that canned lychee was on offer and picked up a can... Never did I expect my son to go \"Noooo papa, we had lychee yesterday, so we don't have to buy it today...\" Hmmm caught me by surprise as he had never said No to lychee before :shock:
Anyway, found the Yakult and took a pack of 5... It cost S$2.85... Told him that a pack is $2.85 and 2 packs would cost almost $6... So I tested him if we could get 2 packs? He said we don't have enough $$ for 2 packs so just get 1 would be enough.
Hmmm... Wonder if it was fluke or was he just really in a good mood ... We took the pack of Yakult, gave him $3 and queued with him to make payment. This time round was really effortless as there was no crying or begging that I had to deal with.
Have decided to adopt the same approach for his birthday and Xmas where he'll be given a budget of $40 on each occasion to get whatever he wants.
Hopefully by doing this... He'll learn to appreciate that resources are limited and he needs to choose wisely on how he should utilise his resources to meet his wants.
Very glad for you that this is working! I'm inspired to try harder! -
Hi everyone!
I bouhgt chicken soup for the KID’S soul 2.What do you think it useful for character development?Is anyone bought for ur kids/urself?Please share your views.My P3 son never listen to me at all.He like to read storybooks.Information books also he reads.Today only I buy,hope he will read.
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You are right! All kids are born to be kind and good, it’s only the education after that changes them. So both family and school should try their best to teach kids the right values set good examples themselves. Parents always influence children the most, so u need to pay attention to u everyday behavior to set them examples by yourselves. Then the kids will do just as you do. Well, my parents brought me up in this way.
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mandylinda:
You are right! All kids are born to be kind and good, it’s only the education after that changes them.
I donch agree with this belief. Can see how 'demanding' and difficult some babies/toddlers are...and they donch need special training and they r not imitating the adults as the adults at home also donch behave that way. -
I think mostly is the environment that shape a child’s values.
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smurfymum:
I think mostly is the environment that shape a child's values.
environment can shape the child's value but it's the child's character which determine how receptive or reactive he is. Often we see children from same parents having diff values....or even children and parents donch share the same values even though they r closely knitted. -
insider:
Bravo :hi5: ..........a must read for parents :goodpost:friend forwarded me the below. source unknown.
我們的教育能否教育出這種小孩呢?(這種媽媽呢?)
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這事發生在普吉島的 ClubMed 渡假村,那時我在那裡擔任中英文的翻譯公關。
有一天,我在大廳裡,突然看見一位滿臉歉意的日本工作人員,安 慰著一位大 約四歲的西方小孩,飽受驚嚇的小孩已經哭得精疲力盡了。
問明原因之後,我才知道,原來這位日本工作人員,因為那天小孩 較多,一時疏忽,在兒童網球課結束後,少算了一位,將這位澳洲小孩留在網球場。
等到她發現人數不對時,才趕快跑到網球場,將這位小孩帶回來, 小孩因為一個人在偏遠的網球場,飽受驚嚇,哭得浠浬嘩啦的。
現在澳洲媽媽出現了,看著自己的小孩哭得慘兮兮的。如果你是這 位媽媽,你會怎麼做?是痛罵那位工作人員一頓?還是直接向主管抗議?或是很生氣的將小孩帶離開,再也不參加『兒童俱樂部』了?
都不是!請看--
我親眼看見這位媽媽,蹲下來安慰四歲的小孩,並且很理性的告訴 他:『已經沒事了,那位日本姊姊因為找不到妳而非常的緊張難過,她不是故意的,現在你必須親親那位日本姊姊的臉頰,安慰她一下!』
當下我只見那位四歲的小孩,墊起腳跟,親親蹲在他身旁的日本工 作人員的臉頰,並且輕輕的告訴她:『不要害怕,已經沒事了!』
就是要這樣的教育,才能養出寬容、體貼的孩子吧! 體貼別人,也等於體貼了自己的心。 -
Nebbermind:
Totally agreed :goodpost:
environment can shape the child's value but it's the child's character which determine how receptive or reactive he is. Often we see children from same parents having diff values....or even children and parents donch share the same values even though they r closely knitted.