Will you treat Daughter-In-Law and Daughter Equally?

[SAHM_TAN]

flyfree:

DIL (together with Son) help to carry on the family lifeline to next generation, Daughter doesn't do so. shouldn't we treat DIL equal or better than DD?

I love my kids becos I give birth to them not becos of what they are able to accomplish or function that they serve.

I do not need the family surname to see myself in my daughters' kids.

As for question, it depends on the dil. If she treats me as her 2nd mother I will treat her like a 3rd daughter. Of course I will give her \"face\" first to facilitate her positive feelings towards me. Why I will do this? It's for the sake of family harmony.

[starlight1968sg]

SAHM_TAN:

I do not need the family surname to see myself in my daughters' kids.

Totally agreed.
I dont need my family surname to be carried on.
BTW, what about those single adults?

[flyfree]

If MIL only hv sons, don’t hv daughter, will MIL treat DIL as a "real daughter"?

[jedamum]

flyfree:

If MIL only hv sons, don't hv daughter, will MIL treat DIL as a \"real daughter\"?

what is the definition of a 'real daughter' treatment?
hm..not that i was ill-treated, i felt treated like a 'real daughter' before my sons come along. the same goes to my real parents. :roll:

[jedamum]

just to share something that i told my son a few weeks back when he told me about a nightmare that he had. he dreamt that i was his stepmother and was ill-treating him. he then went on to ask me if i would ill-treat him if i was his stepmother. i told him that even real birth mother buried their newborn in the flowerpatch, so what made him think so badly of stepmothers? is it cos that the kid is not the birth child of the stepmum? then i asked him again if he saw his dad's mum ill-treating me since i am not her birth child. he went away happy with my explanation i think how someone treats the other has to do more with the person's personality/character/circumstances than merely blood thicker than water? no?

[flyfree]

If only all MILs can treat DILs in this manner ~ speak kindly, care deeply,

love generously

[starlight1968sg]

Similarly, can we (women) treat our sister-in-law as our sisters?

[puff]

I’ll definitely treat my daughter better as I know her well & live with her longer than my daughter-in-law.

Actually it’s not abt blood thicker than water… It’s abt watching her grow n the amt of time spend that make me side with my daughter compare to daughter-in-law. I believe even if is a adopted child fr young I will still treat her beter than DIL.

[janet88]

puff:

I'll definitely treat my daughter better as I know her well & live with her longer than my daughter-in-law.

Actually it's not abt blood thicker than water... It's abt watching her grow n the amt of time spend that make me side with my daughter compare to daughter-in-law. I believe even if is a adopted child fr young I will still treat her beter than DIL.

Same here.
I can scold my daughter but she won't have ill-feelings after that. Try doing that to daughter-in-law...the relationship will sour to the point of no return. My daughter will definitely show feelings and care for me. I don't want to expect that from DIL.
Told my son not to expect me to look after his children in future...get his mother-in-law to do so.

[flyfree]

janet_lee88:

puff:

I'll definitely treat my daughter better as I know her well & live with her longer than my daughter-in-law.

Actually it's not abt blood thicker than water... It's abt watching her grow n the amt of time spend that make me side with my daughter compare to daughter-in-law. I believe even if is a adopted child fr young I will still treat her beter than DIL.

Same here.
I can scold my daughter but she won't have ill-feelings after that. Try doing that to daughter-in-law...the relationship will sour to the point of no return. My daughter will definitely show feelings and care for me. I don't want to expect that from DIL.
Told my son not to expect me to look after his children in future...get his mother-in-law to do so.

If u tell your son to get his mother-in-law to look after his children, he might be a bit \"disappointed\" & \"surprised\" by your remarks cos he might not expect u to hv such thinking cos son will also care.