Will you treat Daughter-In-Law and Daughter Equally?
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Blood is thicker than water. Mothers will not consider who bears the children to carry on the family name. Daughters are their flesh and blood. Of course, they’ll treat the daughter better. Otherwise, there will not be so many mil problems.
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If they can be treated equally, then there would not be so many complaints against mil.
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yes…blood is thicker than water. it helps to ponder, when we get angry at our own mums and when we get angry at our MILs, who do we readily forgive first?
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flyfree:
DIL (together with Son) help to carry on the family lifeline to next generation, Daughter doesn't do so. shouldn't we treat DIL equal or better than DD?
I love my kids becos I give birth to them not becos of what they are able to accomplish or function that they serve.
I do not need the family surname to see myself in my daughters' kids.
As for question, it depends on the dil. If she treats me as her 2nd mother I will treat her like a 3rd daughter. Of course I will give her \"face\" first to facilitate her positive feelings towards me. Why I will do this? It's for the sake of family harmony. -
SAHM_TAN:
Totally agreed.I do not need the family surname to see myself in my daughters' kids.
I dont need my family surname to be carried on.
BTW, what about those single adults? -
If MIL only hv sons, don’t hv daughter, will MIL treat DIL as a "real daughter"?
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flyfree:
If MIL only hv sons, don't hv daughter, will MIL treat DIL as a \"real daughter\"?
what is the definition of a 'real daughter' treatment?
hm..not that i was ill-treated, i felt treated like a 'real daughter' before my sons come along. the same goes to my real parents. :roll: -
just to share something that i told my son a few weeks back when he told me about a nightmare that he had. he dreamt that i was his stepmother and was ill-treating him. he then went on to ask me if i would ill-treat him if i was his stepmother. i told him that even real birth mother buried their newborn in the flowerpatch, so what made him think so badly of stepmothers? is it cos that the kid is not the birth child of the stepmum? then i asked him again if he saw his dad's mum ill-treating me since i am not her birth child. he went away happy with my explanation
i think how someone treats the other has to do more with the person's personality/character/circumstances than merely blood thicker than water? no? -
If only all MILs can treat DILs in this manner ~ speak kindly, care deeply,
love generously -
Similarly, can we (women) treat our sister-in-law as our sisters?
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