Club SAHM

[sleepy]

jedamum:

sleepy:

No date night la. Have tibits or biscuits in front of TV after kids are asleep.


We only 'date' in between kids' enrichment classes eg. drink coffee & chit chat while waiting for their classes to end

talk about chit chat. what you couples chat about huh? we have nothing to chat about! whahahaha....nothing much except children stuff and maybe bring up some embarassing stuff we used to do when young. we don't discuss shows (he dont watch) or current affairs (i dont watch!)!

50% talk about kids since I spend so much time with them. Need to keep him updated.
50% about his work and colleagues. I met his colleagues quite a number of times so can attach faces to names. Through dh's sharing, I feel as if I'm working too

Sometimes we talk about his golf. He will tell me about his new break through in scores. So I share his excitement even though I'm not into golf & praise him a little la

[mummy of 2]

DH and I have a dinner date once a month. Sometimes there will be other adhoc dates, like movies. We also watch tvb drama serial after the kids sleep


We talk about anything - the kids, his work, our friends, parents, stock market, or anything interesting we see or hear.

[SAHM_TAN]

auntieM:

SAHM_TAN.. How nice to have daddy and mummy preparing a meal together!

envy leh.. ....

We try not to be in the kitchen at the same time. No space for 2 big parents :rotflmao:

Last time courting time, he will still cook prawn noodles for me, from scatch, liang teh, now he tells me no time. But will still cook for family

He was forced to learn to cook and care for himself when young, school of hard knocks.

[SAHM_TAN]

linden2000:

SAHM_TAN:

Also learn how to cook new delish dishes. The way to my DH's heart is through his stomach. Sometimes he tell me he can't rush back for dinner. But I tell him I'm cooking a particular dish, he will endure hunger to come home for dinner :evil: :rotflmao:

Wow he must really enjoy your cooking to tahan the hunger.

but food must be ready when he's home.

[SAHM_TAN]

kabalevsky:

Sahm tan, wah, can you cook something to bring on our playdate then? yummy!!!

But seems like we are going indoor playground, doubt can bring outside food. Another time lah, when it's a potluck playdate

[Kabby]

SAHM_TAN:

kabalevsky:

Sahm tan, wah, can you cook something to bring on our playdate then? yummy!!!

But seems like we are going indoor playground, doubt can bring outside food. Another time lah, when it's a potluck playdate

sure sure! i'm pretty sure there'll be more chances!

[auntieM]

SAHM_TAN:

auntieM:

SAHM_TAN.. How nice to have daddy and mummy preparing a meal together!

envy leh.. ....

We try not to be in the kitchen at the same time. No space for 2 big parents :rotflmao:

Last time courting time, he will still cook prawn noodles for me, from scatch, liang teh, now he tells me no time. But will still cook for family

He was forced to learn to cook and care for himself when young, school of hard knocks.

Hehee.. ..My DH stayed abroad in his younger days and got tough-up then too..

[BeContented]

So next time I should advise DD to look for man who have been toughen up overseas and not mommy's boy??

[terry]

cwc:

Are any of you afraid that DH will one day complain that he can no longer communicate with the wife?


We being SAHM will kinda have limited exposure to the corporate world, our life is kinda centered around chores, home, school, kids etc. Woman outside more interesting leh....... how do you keep yourself 'updated'?

hmm..man outside is oso mre interesting!

anythg tat is outside of our comfort zone and routine is always deem as mre exciting and fresh.

y must we be the 1 who is afraid? man will oso suffer the ravages of time.

i say we woman are ready to move on to the mummy stage and im very into all thgs abt kids and stuff and i find a family-orentiated man more appealing vs a married man who still likes to party and have a flashy lifestyle.

we are not virgins frm some village married off without seeing the world. we've been there and done that b4. juz tat we chose to be SAHM at tis pt in life cos we believe in our choice.

i cannot justify the struggle i had to endure while working and my ds was living with my parents up to a wk at a time. i think its unfair for me to live with this kind of dilemma. life is alrdy unfair, so in my world, i wanna make it fair. i struggled for 3yrs b4 making the decision to quit.

[Kabby]

[quote=\"terry\"]


y must we be the 1 who is afraid? man will oso suffer the ravages of time. [quote]

terry, i agree with you on all the rest that SAHM nowadays are not frog in the well. we've been out there, we're educated, now we're making this choice to stay at home for the family.

our hubbies are supportive and they're angels for that.

but then i think the fact still remains that, age is kinder to men than to women.

i look around me, it seems women all age faster than men.

not just that, old men still have appeal to very young women, but old women just don't attract young men. so it is unfair in that sense, i think tht's part of what cwc was saying.

therefore, i think, even as SAHM, we must still try and maintain. it is difficult, like me, no time for facial, even though i make effort by buying the pore pack, but still forget to use... lol.

but when i go out, i don't wear my home clothes, i change and try to look good. i don't want to go out and be mistaken for my dd's maid, or my dh's domestic help. (my stylo glasses help, kekeke)

on special occasions, i put on my contact lenses, take time to put on make-up, wear pretty pretty, and go out with Dh. it's really troublesome u know, for me. cos i'd have to put aside some chore, like maybe folding clothes or something, in order to make time for this... but it does make a difference i think.

men are visual creatures... when i do this, i can tell it reminds him that his wife is still so beautiful ... hopefully his eyes don't stray elsewhere then.