If you could, would you decide on a 3rd child?

[momoshop]

I have 3 princes and DH and I badly wanted a gal.

While on one hand, I hear Skunk and think his attitude towards the new Man is great and that we have the opportunity now to bring that about by teaching our young and grooming them into the New Age Man / Modern Man (or whatever labels we have for the new species of man). yet on the other hand I do hope for a gal cuz of the \"different ways\" gals bond with their parents and the different ways in which love is expressd in females.

A lot of studies have already looked at the different ways males and females communicate, e.g. gals are into details while males are more focussed on the main point (of course these are generalisation made from majority of the gender, there are exceptions -so dun flame me)..

The way a man loves and the way a females expresses love are also different. Having a daughter will make a difference to the family dynamics. Shallowness aside (the dressing etc), I do hope to have a gal to do all the girl-ly stuff.

But my stakes are very high cuz I already have 3 boys.. it is a entire household of men.. if we still end up with a boy, i will seriously faint I think

[skunk]

momoshop:

But my stakes are very high cuz I already have 3 boys.. it is a entire household of men.. if we still end up with a boy, i will seriously faint I think

i grew up in a family of 4 boys hehe

[tony]

Good luck to you, Momoshop!


I grew up in a family of all girls, so I never understood the male psyche. Now, we’re stuck with all boys, which brings me to a better understanding. But I’m reluctant to change that mix leh. The thought of another baby now with all the bending down for diaper change, for handholding while the little one learns to walk etc is enough to make my brain shut down!

[buds]

Em:

er........... I'd wanted a boy so I wouldn't have headache of dressing a girl up. Just pop him into top, shorts, and no need to ever tie hair! Convenient and efficient!

I'm all-girl but it was also easy cos i was always with only tops and shorts!
:shock: At times, only a singlet/vest top with undies running around the
village as a young girl and shoe-less playing rounders with the other boys!

No need to tie my hair either cos mine had always been kept 4 by 2! :lol:

Em:

Guess which gender I got? On the other hand I never had any fountain appearing when changing her diapers :lol: No lah, don't think the mother you mentioned is shallow. My MIL had 3 boys, she was sooo happy when my DD came along. Now she's busy dressing up DD up. Think she just wanted the close female company, cos no matter what, females are more in tune with other females haha!

I couldn't tune in to my mom no matter how hard i tried then...
Only after marriage and having kiddies of my own, then started
to connect.

[buds]

momoshop:

But my stakes are very high cuz I already have 3 boys.. it is a entire household of men.. if we still end up with a boy, i will seriously faint I think

I will :faint: too if i were you! :!:

[buds]

skunk:

Maybe it's the backlash against all these, that attitudes are changing. Anyway i'm still disgusted and i make sure that every day i live my life as a Man, i make sure people see me as a shining example of what a real Man should be.


I wish my next child is a male, I want him to be part of the new male species, to be a pillar of family and society. A Man other men will look up upon in admiration

:rahrah: GO skunk! :rahrah:

[momoshop]

skunk:

i grew up in a family of 4 boys hehe

Wah!! Can I interview your mum? How does she feel man!

tony:

I grew up in a family of all girls, so I never understood the male psyche. Now, we're stuck with all boys, which brings me to a better understanding. But I'm reluctant to change that mix leh. The thought of another baby now with all the bending down for diaper change, for handholding while the little one learns to walk etc is enough to make my brain shut down!

I grew up in a family of all gals too. I recall when I knew that my no. 1 is a boy, I went to buy Steve Biddulph's book on Raising a Boy just to prep myself. And well, you are right, my tods were 2 and 3 when I was expecting no 3, and even then I kept telling hubby that we could have a much easier life already, and yet we are going into all that baby routine again... which I am currently now in - all the puree, all the prepping of meals to bring along for baby if we go out.. *faint* sometimes. Butthe joy of cuddling a baby, with that unfant smell, and seeing how baby crawls, sit up and play is a welcome relief from rationalising with the tods. I do enjoy the baby more the 3rd time round, after all the tods are grow. But no. 4 will be a totally different matter I think..

buds, if I ever decide for no. 4, must be SURE gal. As it is, all the men in the household drive me crazy sometimes..

[mathsparks]

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[skunk]

mathsparks:

So, I'm glad I don't put another child and myself through this immense pressure to succeed. Yes, they're cute and fun when they're young, but once they start upper primary....

That is just so weak. Since the days our ancestors left the trees and walked on two legs, our offspring had to face immense pressure to succeed, whether it be fending off sabre-tooth tigers, foraging for berries, farming the land, or fighting off marauding enemy tribes, not to mention fighting for power and statues within the tribe.

Nothing has changed since the last hundred thousand years. If u have this kind of thinking, u and your tribe is doomed to extinction, just like how our ancestors vanquished the Neanderthaals.

As for me and my children, I will bring them up tough, from the moment they understand anything, i will tell them that Life is a daily struggle, it's a daily torture, where only the fittest survive. If they cannot take it, i will tell them to jump down and die, don't waste the resources of the tribe. But i'm confident they will triumph over all difficulties, just like our proud ancestors of the past.

Are u a winner? Or a loser?

[tony]

skunk:

As for me and my children, I will bring them up tough, from the moment they understand anything, i will tell them that Life is a daily struggle, it's a daily torture, where only the fittest survive. If they cannot take it, i will tell them to jump down and die, don't waste the resources of the tribe. But i'm confident they will triumph over all difficulties, just like our proud ancestors of the past.

Are u a winner? Or a loser?

I do agree with the gist of what you said, Skunk. These are powerful statements and a basic tenet of why humans are so successful today. I do think though that the statement about telling them to jump is too harsh. With the success of our ability to survive, we can afford to be less rigid than the days of the caveman.

The race for physical survival has turned into the race for economic survival. That's the postmodern jungle for you. The world is a very large place and there is a place for all. I assume you mean that being a winner means surviving. Everyone will ultimately find their place in the world, but it is effort that determines that place. Ultimately too, perhaps we're forgetting that there is a human happiness index. Throw this out of the survival equation and we're doomed.

Don't mean to rant :oops:, but this is a very interesting topic.