Advice needed on mentally unsound maid

[1amber]

Hello Happy Chappy,


When I started on my first maid, I felt exactly that way too. After so many maids and after so many years, I have a different view. That’s why I was interested to hear how many ‘maid’ experiences you have had so far to make this conclusion. Anyway all the best!

[omgmum]

Happy Chappy, I’m happy for you that you managed to find a good maid after one attempt. I just wish I’m as fortunate.


I went to more than 10 agencies, took down notes, went through scores of biodata and interviewed about 5 maids, not as many as you. Basically, I’ve done what you’ve suggested: drawn up a least of requirements, asked the type of questions you’ve asked, have a schedule, list of expectations etc. I actually did months of research before I started on my maid hunt.

But I realised that maids know the answers that are expected of them, and they will probably say yes to your requirements because they want to come out to work. Not all are as lucky as you. My friends with problematic maids have all done their due homework in interviewing etc, and their maids knew of their requirements before working for them. The only people I know of with good maids are strangely enough, those who have never interviewed their maids! One is quite easy going, and the other puts the meow in nigao. Of course, my examples are purely anecdotal and cannot be considered as facts, but it does set one thinking, no?

And I would love to know which agency you went to, cos the agencies I went to got very irritated with me when I asked them, and the maids too many questions. Some were kind enough to tell me which maids to avoid cos they know I’ve got a toddler at home, but most just couldn’t be bothered.

[Rivevae]

1amber:

peapot:

I feel that sometimes maid choose to act \"crazy\" so that the employer will transfer them out or sent them home. Such acting allows the maid to go off without any need for them to pay and they can still achieve their objective.

My previous maid told me she was 'taught' this tactic by experienced maids...

Agree....that's why I never get too sentimental about what to do with the maid - send back or transfer - other than just return to the agent and let them handle at their discretion. Just so you know, any maids you deem \"unfit\" / \"lousy\" and choose to send back at your own expense will be \"recycled\" somewhere, here in SG or other parts of the world. I have hired a very very lazy maid and returned to agent after she's with us for 1 month. Guess what - my relative's maid bumped onto her just recently and she told her she's now with her 5th employer, all within a span of 1 year!!!!

[kiasubox]

Rivevae:

Agree....that's why I never get too sentimental about what to do with the maid - send back or transfer - other than just return to the agent and let them handle at their discretion. Just so you know, any maids you deem \"unfit\" / \"lousy\" and choose to send back at your own expense will be \"recycled\" somewhere, here in SG or other parts of the world. I have hired a very very lazy maid and returned to agent after she's with us for 1 month. Guess what - my relative's maid bumped onto her just recently and she told her she's now with her 5th employer, all within a span of 1 year!!!!

If your maid was sent back agency due to unsatisfactory work, you can actually write to MOM to inform them, they'll then inform the new employer see if the employer want to keep them or send them home. MOM can also ban the maid from working in SG again.

[kiasubox]

LKVM:

I have never heard of this thing before? I ever wrote to MOM since my maid lied to me and ran away home they just said since its nothing to do with stealing etc hence cannot do anything.

If your maid is not behaving you can write to MOM, maybe for your case lie is quite difficult to prove. I read that from the internet forum, my previous maid steal and I wrote to MOM, they replied need my police report on the stealing in order to ban the maid from working in SG again, after i submit the report, they replied me they've taken the info in the system.

[kiasubox]

LKVM:

I was surprised cause you said if maid dont perform can report to MOM... stealing is different and in that case if you police report they will surely kena.

Ya, for my case is straight forward la, eh let me think..... oh ya my friend's maid bring bangladesh home when no one at home in the day time. The maid broke off with the bf then the bf angry and called my friend, he told my friend he been to my friend house many times and made love there. My friend was angry and sent the maid home the next day. Afterwards she write to MOM to ban the maid from working in SG again. I think many other case can also report MOM, I've seen on other forum before but now i can't think of wat senario la.

[1amber]

kiasubox:

LKVM:

I was surprised cause you said if maid dont perform can report to MOM... stealing is different and in that case if you police report they will surely kena.

Ya, for my case is straight forward la, eh let me think..... oh ya my friend's maid bring bangladesh home when no one at home in the day time. The maid broke off with the bf then the bf angry and called my friend, he told my friend he been to my friend house many times and made love there. My friend was angry and sent the maid home the next day. Afterwards she write to MOM to ban the maid from working in SG again. I think many other case can also report MOM, I've seen on other forum before but now i can't think of wat senario la.

in this case maid DID perform what! :rotflmao: sorry :offtopic: very sian today. :please:

[kiasubox]

1amber:

in this case maid DID perform what! :rotflmao: sorry :offtopic: very sian today. :please:

what is maid DID?

[1amber]

It reads as "did"…neither an abbreviation nor acronym but an emphasis.

[kiasubox]

1amber:

It reads as \"did\"...neither an abbreviation nor acronym but an emphasis.

eh, my original post was \"if the maid is not behaving....\" but LKVM commented 'if the maid don't perform......\" so probably she / he can reply you