All About Teaching Values
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Hi
My daughter will be the one who’s money is being borrowed. At P1 her daily allowance can come up to at least $6 per day. It was unintentional as I gave her $2, then hubby gave her another $2 & my mum who occassionally drop by will give her more. So, it is either her friends borrowed from her or get her to buy tidbits or she buys stationeries & do a gift exchange.
Now that I know such things happen in school, her daily allowance drop to $1 but she is free to bring any tidbits or snacks from the house. Ever she has forgotten to bring her pocket money, she told me that she did not borrow from anyone but her best friend share some food with her. -
Again at money matters....
I think my overemphasis on being thrifty has somehow turn my boy into a miser or sorts....
1. when i was not able to talk to him long over the handphone, he complainted that waste his hp 'money' (aka talktime).
2. when his grandma used his hp to make a call (as his still have a lot of leftover talktime), he commented on why used his hp when she has hers.
3. when there are a lot of advertisement on tv, he remembered what i told him (only once), that its the way for 'them' to make money.
4. when he read the label 'collect them all' on the packaging, he told us that 'they' want to make money by telling us to buy.
5. when he saw something nice in 'neopet' that is out of his 'maximum price', he'll hint for me to get for him. when i got for him and need to do a 'trading', he want to trade 'junk' items with me. when i lamented if that is the way he treats me, ie by giving me junk, he reluctantly but still offered to give me nicer stuff instead of junk.
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Its my fault...its my fault....he is however magnanomous in other issues that does not concern $$, eg sharing of food, toys, knowledge etc. -
the number one value I teach to my kids is to take care of ME (filial piety)
no choice lor, since I’m a SAHM, not much savings, better try my best to make sure they feed me well when I’m old
my younger girl is quite stingy. I have been trying to psycho her since she was a baby. Taking care of mommy means giving me her favourite food. If I don’t want to eat, then she can eat. Even if it’s the last piece, she should offer to me
a few days ago, she refused to share a bun with her daddy. I go on & on about how she hasn’t learn how to take care of her daddy, should give her daddy the bun, blah blah blah
She had tears in her eyes because she was feeling VERY VERY guilty. But continue eating her bun anyway. haiz!
On another occasion, I asked for her last piece of nugget. She told me pitifully that she only ate one piece (meaning cannot give to me). I turned to my elder girl & immediately got a positive reply. So I declared loudly my elder girl loves me more & my number 2 was very offended. haha, gave me the opportunity to go on & on again about how to take care of mommy
Have to keep reinforcing the concept whenever the opportunity arise. I will keep trying. my number 1 already kanna brainwashed successfully. I always get the biggest piece (if not all) of her favourite food
now the concept of money doesn’t mean much to them yet so I have not use money as a measurement. Food is most dear to them -
sleepy:
yes, filial piety is important.the number 1 value I teach to my kids is take care of your mommy (filial piety)
my boy always complained that it is boring to go and visit his grandma. then i asked him how would he feel if next time his kids don't want to visit me. he told me that he'll visit me without the kids. then i asked him then who will take care of the kids and he promptly said their mum will! :roll: -
jedamum:
Just curious, at what age does your son start having a hp of his own?Again at money matters....
1. when i was not able to talk to him long over the handphone, he complainted that waste [color=orange]his hp[/color] 'money' (aka talktime). -
jedamum:
...I think my overemphasis on being thrifty has somehow turn my boy into a miser or sorts....
jedamum, if my son is half as thrifty as yours, I would be twice as happy as I am now. -
chamonix:
:lol: i know someone will ask this.
Just curious, at what age does your son start having a hp of his own?
'His' handphone is just an 'illusion'. Actually as me, my husband and my ILs all own a hp each, the landline (home phone) is underutilised and we calculated that it is cheaper to use prepaid card than pay for the landline. Then as he is the only one in the house (my 21 mth old not included) without a hp, we said that its his. He is allowed to sms us anytime he wants. However the hp is not to be brought out of the house, unless he sleepsover at his cousin's house.
He used to give his classmates the number and one did called up to chat, but we had told him to avoid giving out to anymore friends incase his friends did not know the appropriate time to call (ie call during mealtimes).
He switches off 'his' hp when everyone is in the house, and he loves to sms his grandparents when they were out.
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ChiefKiasu:
:lol: half is good.
jedamum, if my son is half as thrifty as yours, I would be twice as happy as I am now.
my husband just berated me about raising my boy to be so overthrifty like me. :oops:
newly bought things that are spoilt easily, my boy will go... 'waste money'.
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I told my kids that their savings can be used to buy birthday presents for the family. My daughter bought me a nice bottle filled with paper love & my son ask his father to accompany him to buy me a bouquet of flowers. Nice touch right? Yes, until the following day he makes the remark that he needs to save back all the money because he spent so much on me. Ouch!
He is not stingy with food, nor toys, books or games. But come the topic of money, he counts every single cent. -
I encourage my kids to save, but don’t allow them to take the money out of their piggy banks. I am really afraid that if I allow them to do so, they will develop the habit of taking money out of their piggy banks as and when they need it, then it might become another issue. Anyone has advice to share on this?
On my birthday / mother’s day, I told them I only want big hugs and kisses, but I received alot of hand-made cards too.
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