All About Full-Time Maids

[jtoh]

Talk about misinformation given by ex-employers. One of my ex-maids' employers said she was very hardworking, very honest, always takes down notes for instructions. Sounds good right? Turns out she's mentally challenged, so very slow, cannot understand instructions, that's why must take down notes. Very hardworking but always does the wrong things, misunderstands instructions... :lightrod:

[hquek]

jtoh:

Talk about misinformation given by ex-employers. One of my ex-maids' employers said she was very hardworking, very honest, always takes down notes for instructions. Sounds good right? Turns out she's mentally challenged, so very slow, cannot understand instructions, that's why must take down notes. Very hardworking but always does the wrong things, misunderstands instructions... :lightrod:

but at least she's honest?

[Qoomum76]

thanks ladies for the replies…yah, I feel strange to have her eat with us. Yet, I don’t wish to offend my MIL…hmm… My friend suggested that I can scoop some food out from the dishes first and put on her plate, and not let her eat those leftover food after our meal… I even had a indonesian friend(those rich tai tai type). Back home, they requested their maid to cook seperately for her own meal…

[Chu Liu Xiang]

Anna Ng:

mine is transfer maid. The ex employer told me that my maid got good memory and cook quite well. However i am very stress due to her poor memory and also lousy cooking. (i've shared these last few weeks in this thread). Different people got different expectation and needs, i think all depend on luck. My agent told me as long as you got a good feel with the maid then just take her, all the information stated may not true.

You kena con liao

When an employer wants to get rid of the maid he/she would say all the good things about the maid mah

[hquek]

Hi Qoomum76,


That’s what we do. My mum will scoop out dishes for her first - she bought those indian type plates…metally with compartments so the dishes are kept ‘aside’ from the rice. in that way, actually maid will get first dibs.

I know of a rich guy in MYS. He has a long time domestic servant and everyday, she will troop down to one of his other houses (owns the whole row) and cook for herself and the gardeners. He doesn’t bring her out to eat also - I know some of us have this hangup where we must bring the help along when we go out for dinner.

[Chu Liu Xiang]

jtoh:

Talk about misinformation given by ex-employers. One of my ex-maids' employers said she was very hardworking, very honest, always takes down notes for instructions. Sounds good right? Turns out she's mentally challenged, so very slow, cannot understand instructions, that's why must take down notes. Very hardworking but always does the wrong things, misunderstands instructions... :lightrod:

Also kena con liao

[Chu Liu Xiang]

Qoomum76:

thanks ladies for the replies..yah,, I feel strange to have her eat with us. Yet, I don't wish to offend my MIL..hmm.. My friend suggested that I can scoop some food out from the dishes first and put on her plate, and not let her eat those leftover food after our meal... I even had a indonesian friend(those rich tai tai type). Back home, they requested their maid to cook seperately for her own meal..

Ok lah as long as she's not eating leftovers lor

Just to share my case. Previously, my relative asked me to share by splitting the food with the maid. I told her that I'll eat the fish body while she (if she's the maid) eat the head and tail. How about that? I asked her how to share a fish and that shuts her up.

FI, some employers allow their maids to cook their own meals too whilst others give some meal allowance to their maids to eat out.

[Chu Liu Xiang]

hquek:

Hi Qoomum76,


.......I know of a rich guy in MYS. He has a long time domestic servant and everyday, she will troop down to one of his other houses (owns the whole row) and cook for herself and the gardeners. He doesn't bring her out to eat also - I know some of us have this hangup where we must bring the help along when we go out for dinner.

In my case, whenever my family eats out in hawker centers & foodcourts my maid follows and sits at the same table with us. Sometimes she share the same food with us while at other times I gave her a few dollars to buy her own food. If I eat at restaurants then she sits and share the food at the same table with us. No discrimination here.

Some employers are very stuck up. They'll ask the maid to seat at a corner while they enjoy their meal. MIND YOU THIS INCIDENT HAPPENED OUTSIDE A FOOD COURT AND WAS POSTED OVER AT STOMP, OK!

:nunchuk:

[hquek]

Yes of course, if my family goes out with the maid, she'll sit at the same table as us and eat the same types of food - even if the meal costs over $100 per head (happen before). But now, I will only bring her out if the maid has been 'performing' and doesn't show attitude. If she's bad, then I will just pack food for her and let her eat at home.


Whilst one may talk about families who make their maids starve or eat at another table, there are times in my family where there are too many pp and not enough seats. Sometimes we're the ones that get bumped off the table; other times it could be her (eg where family is sharing food and the maid is muslim so cannot share). Then how? not sure if my picture is in stomp?

Also, when my kids were small, maid was the one to enjoy her food in peace while we grapple with babies and makan - I finetuned the art of swallowing my food so that baby won't be bored, at no time did I expect my maid to take over whilst I eat. How come pp dun talk about maids who enjoy life in makan but only maids who have to sit in one corner?

What I want to bring across is that there are all types of people, many a time, one may not see the whole picture. If a table is large enough, then it doesn't reflect well on the family. If a table is too small, then how?

[Qoomum76]

Hi Liu Xiang…Err…I like to eat fish head leh…heehee… i get your point…will scoop decent amount of food for her. Don’t want to be accused of starving her;). afterall,if you treat her well, she will treat your kids well too!(hopefully)


My friend told me , she once saw a family at hawker centre let the maid eat leftover(e.g. roti prata ) from the kids’ leftovers only , never order anything for her…even though it is just hawker food;(
I can understand when it comes to restaurant dining, some families will let the maid eat at home first(since restaurant food is more expensive)…but hawker food leh…

hquek,wa! Your friend very rich…whole row of houses…