All About Teaching Values
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BlueBells:
I encourage my kids to save, but don't allow them to take the money out of their piggy banks.
Will you allow you kids to spend a portion of their savings?
If not, they may find it hard to see the benefit of saving. -
Today’s front page news is about ex-Citiraya boss who fled with US$51m. This fraud is one of Singapore’s biggest ever corporate scandals.
This reminded me of former NKF CEO TT Durai who was charged with corruption, as well as the venerable Ming Yi.
I think that integrity, honesty and moral responsibility are the most important moral values that we must teach our kids.
I think it is OK to love money and spend it. But the money we earn must come from our own hard work, not from cheating other people. -
jedamum:
We have been preaching about savings for rainy days and possible investments. And of course, if we take them on an overseas holiday, we will ensure that their savings book show a deduction of certain amount. They feel the pinch, but are alright with it and are aware that their daily savings is meant to contribute towards their overseas holidays.BlueBells:
I encourage my kids to save, but don't allow them to take the money out of their piggy banks.
Will you allow you kids to spend a portion of their savings?
If not, they may find it hard to see the benefit of saving. -
My kids are motivated to save & I told them that they are allowed to take money from their piggy bank once in a while with my permission. The piggy banks are currently in my lock drawer. However, when I allow it, I notice that my daughter tend to be spending more. For eg, she will buy herself an ice-cream & she makes sure I get one too. then she will buy herself a drink & make sure she buys one for her brother too. I like her caring nature but I quickly draw a line that she is only allowed so much to spend occassionally. She can always share her ice-cream & drinks instead of buying for everyone since she is still schooling.
Just like BlueBells, I get my kids to take some of their money in the piggy bank if we go overseas. No much, just $10-$20. This will allow them to buy souvenirs or bric brac that they like & have a sense of pride that they are the ones to buy it with their own saving. -
jedamum:
Smart kid!
:lol: i know someone will ask this.chamonix:
Just curious, at what age does your son start having a hp of his own?
'His' handphone is just an 'illusion'. Actually as me, my husband and my ILs all own a hp each, the landline (home phone) is underutilised and we calculated that it is cheaper to use prepaid card than pay for the landline. Then as he is the only one in the house (my 21 mth old not included) without a hp, we said that its his. He is allowed to sms us anytime he wants. However the hp is not to be brought out of the house, unless he sleepsover at his cousin's house.
He used to give his classmates the number and one did called up to chat, but we had told him to avoid giving out to anymore friends incase his friends did not know the appropriate time to call (ie call during mealtimes).
He switches off 'his' hp when everyone is in the house, and he loves to sms his grandparents when they were out.
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chamonix:
my girl just turn 6
Just curious, at what age does your son start having a hp of his own?jedamum:
Again at money matters....
1. when i was not able to talk to him long over the handphone, he complainted that waste [color=orange]his hp[/color] 'money' (aka talktime).
i dont intend to give her any hp yet
but i do allow her to call grandparents by our house home and sms to me ,my wife and one of her kingder friend with our hp
i guess another 3 years she can start to own 1 if everything goes on well -
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Personal opinion from a teacher. I am happy that parents are putting in alot of effort.
However, parents must also be realistic. Tecahing a young child adv concepts will only make him very bored in class. He will tend to pay less attention and not put in some much effort in his daily work.
A true test of the child's intelligence will only be evident when the child is in P5/P6. Getting full marks in P1 - P3 is truly no big deal...
A note to all parents, pls do not neglect character development. I am in my thirties with 2 kids myself. I must say most modern parents truly lack holistic parenting skills. Their offspring are equiped with little respect for others and environment. Do give your child some room to love life and others.
It is alright to shot me with neg remarks. That's a frank opinon of a teacher. -
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Can parents share about character development ?
Recently when my MIL visited, my girl told me, before she arrived, that she wanted to wear a dress bought by her grandmother. I was very happy to hear that. I have taught her once, quite long ago, that her grandmother would be happy to see my girl wearing something she bought. I am glad that my girl makes an effort to be sensitive to other people's feelings. -
applelemon:
Hi applelemon, thanks for your candid views. I moved your comment into this thread as I thought it is more suited for this ongoing discussion.Personal opinion from a teacher. I am happy that parents are putting in alot of effort.
However, parents must also be realistic. Tecahing a young child adv concepts will only make him very bored in class. He will tend to pay less attention and not put in some much effort in his daily work.
A true test of the child's intelligence will only be evident when the child is in P5/P6. Getting full marks in P1 - P3 is truly no big deal...
A note to all parents, pls do not neglect character development. I am in my thirties with 2 kids myself. I must say most modern parents truly lack holistic parenting skills. Their offspring are equiped with little respect for others and environment. Do give your child some room to love life and others.
It is alright to shot me with neg remarks. That's a frank opinon of a teacher.
I would like to think that most parents today are putting effort in educating their preschool children just so that their children would have an easier time in school. That is in response to the schools themselves telling parents to support our children if they are scoring below Band 1 in Primary schools. All things being equal, I imagine most parents would rather relax and have fun with their children at home and leave academic education to the schools.
It's kind of a damn-if-we-do-damn-if-we-don't scenario. If we do it we get accused of training our children so much that they get bored in class. If we don't we get stressed when our children underperform in school. The trick is to find the right balance, and that is why we have this forum so that we can learn from each other how to do that.
And if you have time to scan through the threads here, you would realize that parents are really not stupid. While it is true that the weightage Singaporeans place on academic performance is very high due to our society, I wouldn't generalize that most parents ignore the need to instill in our children humility and compassion, or the \"character-building\" aspects of our growing children.
It is also true that \"character-building\" can only be assimilated from examples and experiences, and not taught through books or instruction. So if you find that our children are generally rude and have little respect for others and the environment, that would imply that we as the parents are doing the same. Do you think that is so? -
tamarind:
er...can shift to discuss http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=100&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0 anot?Can parents share about character development ?
i scared of this thread's title leh...
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