All About Full-Time Maids
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vivienpg:
My maid's agency has clarified with her that they only earned her two months' salary, the other 2.5mths are the other expenses incurred for her employment. And with regds to the employment agency act, agency explained to her that this applies to transfer cases, the max they cld charge is 1-2 mths salary, i think.
hi, hope your maid understands and accepts the explanation. otherwise :slapshead: if she talk about it again. -
the agency lady scolded her very loudly
and said she think too much. You know, my maid go around asking all the maids in the agency also whether they deduct them a few mths before she join us..Sigh, already in not right frame of mind. Anyway, i heard her asking agency is it only 5.5 mths and she can go off without paying, so i know that is her target liao. -
Why does she want to come here and work in the first place?
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These maids really like to take us for a ride!
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Ya, i think these maids really think our money so easy to earn! Like my maid, always like to talk back, my sis asked her how come she dont seemed to be able to pat my baby to sleep, she said she breastfed her baby to sleep previously, dnt need to pat?! Other incidents like trying to negotiate can just mop the bumper playmat every other day instead of everyday (when my son eats and lay on there every day), raising her legs up for my mum to mop the floor (when she is at my mom’s house with my son) really makes us mad loh…She thinks she is here to daydream is it…grr…
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Hi,
Im a newbie here… Really need some advise.
Engaged a maid 2 months ago and really need advice. My hubby, friends and MIL felt that im treating my maid too good and im spoiling her. Some examples here:
1) BF - same food as us (Eg: if i buy fried beehoon for my kid, i would get the same for her plus two ingredients) –> is this considered too good? My colleague told me that a bun would suffice
2) Dinner - Eat with us although we will section our her portion –> Fair?
3) Restaurant - Is it normal to bring maid along if attending a ten course dinner costing $600? We are not rich so pls do not be mistaken
4) Wakes up at 6am during weekday to prepare my elder daughter, weekend and PH im okay to wake up later at 8am –> Okay or am i spoiling her?
Have been fighting a lot with my hubby over these issues and im really at a loss… will appreciate some kind advice -
Oosh, I bring my previous maid’s to holidays. They went Gold coast, Thailand and Hong Kong with me. They have their own hotel room and spending money. On their birthday, I buy them diamond necklace . Did they appreciate? No! What I did was WRONG!! I stopped all these after I learnt my lesson. What I m trying to tell you is that u are not spoiling her. You have treat her in a reasonable way. My way would be considered as "spolit"
I m surprise that yr dH would think otherwise. I thought women are the more calculating ones. I think food is important for maid’s lah. You don’t have to share your bird nest or abalone but a packet of mee hoon is ok. Maid also need food to have energy to work well. Sleep is also important. If they are sleep deprived, how to focus on work?? -
agree with peapot.
Food - give her what you will eat yourself, I think that’s only fair. nonid to pay for abalone/bird’s nest. For mine, we section out her food also - that’s so she won’t feel pressure to finish cleaning up and still have good mix of food to eat. Imagine if everything you also ngeow, in time to come, my feel is that she will also be ngeow with you (what goes around, comes around).
Restaurant - it’s up to you. Actually if you consider, it’s just extra bowl and chopsticks. If you leave her at home/alone, will she get into any shennanigans? My first maid had the best life - even $100 per head she also ate before (and not just once). 2nd maid I didn like her sulky face, so would not bring her out. Current one okay, I’ll bring her out once in a while.
Sleeping. Just make it clear that waking up at 8am is a privilege, not a right. I think that’s fine. As long as all work completed on time, why fuss? And it’s only humane to ensure she has enough rest. Not sure what time yours get to bed at night. -
hi oosh,
food - i dont restrict her food intake. but imho, just a bun for breakfast is a bit too little.
at home, she can eat most of the stuff except for those i said no. so far so good. only thing was sometimes they forgot to tell me they finished the last packet of said biscuits etc.
when we went out, they had a choice to stay at home or join us. mine (all of them) preferred to stay home. if at food court, she got to choose her own food. at restaurants (if just my family), we would take into consideration what she could/nt eat and like/dislikes.
sleep - all my maids went to bed late (despite us telling them to sleep early but they were either on the phone or writing letters or reading) but they had to wake up about 5.30 am cos' my dd was in am class. they were usually free from 9 pm onwards. for holidays or sunday, they were usually up at 7 or 7.30 am.
if i am to get a maid now, i dont know if i could get such good maids again.
have you checked with your dh what he thinks is the appropriate way to treat the maid? cos you only said he thought you are treating her too well and you both fought over her but nothing specific. -
verykiasu2010:
Never never allow pictures of your kids to be taken with the maids....some of them believe in black magic .... and you can imagine the consequences when she returns to her home country unhappy ......[/quote]But how can you prevent it? They're alone with the kids and tasked with looking after them.
Oh this is something new development that she has been there with you for 4 yrs.. I thought she is new and thats why doing all this....LKVM:
[quote=\"Dawnie\"]The picture taken on my bed is fully clothed (*Thank god*).
My maid have been with me for 4 years and I just renewed her for another 2 years recently. She took care of my boy since he was born, my boy is already 4 years old. She doesn't look like someone who will do such things, that's why I'm trying to get over the shock. She always uses her HP, I thought she was only exchanging SMS with her friends. But last week, suddenly my FB suggested me to add her as my friend, that's when I know she have FB and I started looking into her FB account. She seemed to be 'hooked' on facebook chatting. Besides uploading her own pictures, she also uploaded pics taken together with my boy. The number of \"likes\" are even more than mine!!!
In this case I would suggest you speak to her.. (specially using your son's picture online is absolutely no no for me).....and give her strict warning.. if she is unable to change then you are left with no choice but to replace her...mho!
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