Sensitive Topics to Talk to Your Teen

[heyhoe]

Thanks for sharing the information. I hope to include this in our family meeting. Shall start with newspaper cutting


Meanwhile, any tips on how to talk to him about the importance of choosing the right friends? My DS has a group of good friends in his student care and school. His best friend is a very intelligent boy but I find that he doesn't have a good attitude. Eg. he kicked his student care teacher and spout bad words. I tried telling him that these are examples that he should not follow. I think he knew but he's very protective of his friends.

[thatsmygirl]

very very sensitive indeed...

especially asian parents...
Since i did not start this habit of heart to heart talk with them since young, it is kind of hard and awkward to start now...
any tips?

[Pen88n]

LOLMum:

flyfree:

When is the appropriate age to teach sex to children? nowdays, child matures very early. Who shd teach, mum or dad?
:please: :please:

dh was not very comfortable with it, so i did the talking.

i spoke very bluntly to dd about sex at i think about 9 or 10 years old. started by talking about menstruation follow by safe sex etc. i dont believe in using birds and bees cos' kids now are really a smarter lots and i will encourage her to talk to her friends about sex and feedback to me so that i can correct any wrong beliefs.

i intend to talk to ds when he is 12 years old.

some things i need to stress are pls remind the boys that it is a crime to have sex with underaged girls even if both are willing parties. secondly, no matter what happen, pls be patient and understanding with the kids. kids should go to their parents if they are in trouble and not do anything silly. there are too many cases of abandoned babies (dead and alive).

There are lots of reports recently about teens hanky-panky at public areas. It may be a good way of bringing the topic of sex to your teens. Can highlight to teen about the media report and discuss:
- why the teens choose such public places for \"display of affection\"?
- what is appropriate and what is not appropriate?
- at this point, you may also want to use the opportunity to talk about kissing, heavy petting and sex
- is there excuse for exhibiting such behaviour?
- what are the consequences? You can talk about underaged sex consequences such as unwanted pregnancy, single parenthood, charged in court for having sex with underaged
- what do they do if they see friend engaged in this behaviour?

Highlight to them that something may be tempting to try, but consequences may be something they are not prepared for.

[Pen88n]

heyhoe:

Thanks for sharing the information. I hope to include this in our family meeting. Shall start with newspaper cutting


Meanwhile, any tips on how to talk to him about the importance of choosing the right friends? My DS has a group of good friends in his student care and school. His best friend is a very intelligent boy but I find that he doesn't have a good attitude. Eg. he kicked his student care teacher and spout bad words. I tried telling him that these are examples that he should not follow. I think he knew but he's very protective of his friends.

Importance of choosing the right fren can be discussed using examples. However, topic like this is very sensitive because it is linked to your kid's fren and his behaviour. Instead of putting thru' to him on how he \"should not choose that fren because his fren's behaviour is not good\", why not try to discuss with him \"why his fren act this way\", \"is it the right way to act?\", \"how can you as a fren help him not act this way / change his behaviour?\". These might go down better with your kid than to tell him to keep away from his fren because of his fren's behaviour.

[Pen88n]

thatsmygirl:

very very sensitive indeed...

especially asian parents...
Since i did not start this habit of heart to heart talk with them since young, it is kind of hard and awkward to start now...
any tips?

As I have stated earlier, you might want to start with the less sensitive topics. Just pick up a newspaper to read, and pick a topic to discuss. It can be a crime that has happened - using company fund, or teens gambling, or teens being loan shark runners. Start your 1st discussion and over time, you will find it easier to approach topics for discussion.

[LOLMum]

it helps if such topics are not discuss at home or in a serious manner.


when dd and i are shopping or just having a cuppa out there, i would casually start a conversation and in the relaxing environment/mood, we tend to have a lot more to share and agreements.

[Pen88n]

That’s right - it can be at any environment as long as it is relaxed and solely a sharing opinion kind of discussion. Don’t ever link it to kid’s behaviour or push personal agenda, else kid will become defensive and it will be hard to ever approach wuch topics with them again.

[LOLMum]

yeap, i so hate the \"i told you so\", \"see, see, dont listen to me\", \"what did i tell you\" etc. start of a conversation...... :mad: :rant: