2011 PSLE Discussions and Strategy

[Ms tay]

scm292:

Ms tay:

I ve just finished reading the whole thread \" 2011 psle results release \"

Wonderful !! I really enjoyed it ! It so interesting and funny :lovesite:
So ,on the psle result release day should I post on this thread or \" 2011 psle result release \" thread ? :?

u can share yr DS1 good news in this thread as well as in Juying parents' network thread.

Wow !! Scm292 U hv good memory ! U Still can remember what is my ds's school .

[Ms tay]

Evalim:

Dear phankao,
Your ds2 is exactly same as my younger ds.... hence to be honest I just prayed hard that he can make it to NA,express I guess cannot....
my younger ds is poor in almost all subjects... his favourite subject I would say is science.But because of his english... he is unable to elaborate more and he cannot score....he is kind of stuck too... he don't read so he cannot improve... when he young, I had a hard time teaching he cannot remember well so I have to repeat again and again plus he cannot concernate worst...
Every lesson I taught him I have to set a cane by my side... cos he will start to dream as I teach... I did send him for test in P2... they found him ADD....but the rest ok.... only this year ,I felt something changed in him as the exam drew nearer he begin to feel the pressure, I can see he push himself to focus... he understand what he learn.... guess it's quite late for him but I am happy cos he realise the importance of learning.... I still need to talk to him... cos the next step to secondary will not be easy for him....so I believe your child will learn to know the importance too.... some kids can do better in secondary school

Dear evalim
Life is really tough to have to bring up a special child. Ur child is very fortune to have such a supportive mum . I really admire ur positive attitube and strong mind set :salute: :hugs:

[Evalim]

Ms tay:

Evalim:

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Hi Ms Tay! I once spoke to the school councillor and she mentioned some parents just can't accept their kids are having problem...hence they refused to seek help or bring the child to the doctor.... the Councillor herself wanted to meet these parents but they simply refused to drop by and discuss..
My younger ds was diagnosed of ADD(Attention Deficit Disorder )he just cannot concernate well in class... I had a hard time too...but of course, I have to consider what's best for my child hence I never push my ds, as long as he can make it into secondary school, I am contented.

Ah, story is never that simple. My ds2 was always unusual and problematic with studies. Focus poor and underperforming. He was poor in language, but not Chinese (even tho we are not Chinese-speaking family). He had problems with English, which meant his English would be poor, his Science would be poor and to some extent, so would his math be poor too. Many suggested that he be tested. But....he refused. Stuck like mountain - cannot be moved with any suggestions. So just leave him be lor. His life. He wants to live it the hard way - up to him.

Dear phankao,
Your ds2 is exactly same as my younger ds.... hence to be honest I just prayed hard that he can make it to NA,express I guess cannot....
my younger ds is poor in almost all subjects... his favourite subject I would say is science.But because of his english... he is unable to elaborate more and he cannot score....he is kind of stuck too... he don't read so he cannot improve... when he young, I had a hard time teaching he cannot remember well so I have to repeat again and again plus he cannot concernate worst...
Every lesson I taught him I have to set a cane by my side... cos he will start to dream as I teach... I did send him for test in P2... they found him ADD....but the rest ok.... only this year ,I felt something changed in him as the exam drew nearer he begin to feel the pressure, I can see he push himself to focus... he understand what he learn.... guess it's quite late for him but I am happy cos he realise the importance of learning.... I still need to talk to him... cos the next step to secondary will not be easy for him....so I believe your child will learn to know the importance too.... some kids can do better in secondary school [/quote]Dear evalim
Life is really tough to have to bring up a special child. Ur child is very fortune to have such a supportive mum . I really admire ur positive attitube and strong mind set :salute: :hugs:[/quote]

Dear Ms Tay,
Thank you for your warmth comment... yes... I am also a human... sometime I am very sad too and ask why my child is different..... but come to think of it at least he can walk and talk and he is healthy, I would say normal....hence there is hope.... I have actually struggle for a long time since P1 to P6 every year , his exam is like I exam... I am a working mum I applied leave every year just to teach him even he has tutors cos tutors can't catch his style of studying... they come , teach and go.....they don't bother whether the child understand or not .... some tried their best but because they cannot understand the child's problem , they are not able to help... I usually have to teach again and make sure he knows it.... repeat the question and re-do again infront of me.... for a SPM (short term memory) child he tends to forget after sometime.... I will have to do a refresh course for him... its tedious but he learns.... no choice... but as he grew older , I hope he can outgrown his ADD and SPM... as long as he learns to focus and he learns I am happy... for his PSLE I really hope he can do well!!! I also hope your child and every child do well for PSLE this year 2011!!! All the best!!! :celebrate:

[vlim]

Hi mummy evalim.... Your above post really touches my heart ... :snuggles: .... Hope tt your Ds will out grow his problem... Likewise to. Ms tay :grphug:

[Ms tay]

Dear evalim

Until today did I realize that I m not alone ! Omg !! :scared: ur story
Is exactly the same as mine ( the hard time with ur child )
The difference is I'm a homemaker.I quit my job when my DS2 was diagnosed with ASD when he was 3yrs old. As a working mother, being an
able to do so much for ur child is really not easy .. I want to :salute: to u again , u r an amazing mother !! :rahrah:

[Ms tay]

vlim:

Hi mummy evalim.... Your above post really touches my heart ... :snuggles: .... Hope tt your Ds will out grow his problem... Likewise to. Ms tay :grphug:

Me too :hi5:
It's really very touching , I kept on shedding tears while I reading her post
Thk u vlim , thks for ur comforting :love:

[scm292]

Ms tay:

scm292:

[quote=\"Ms tay\"]I ve just finished reading the whole thread \" 2011 psle results release \"

Wonderful !! I really enjoyed it ! It so interesting and funny :lovesite:
So ,on the psle result release day should I post on this thread or \" 2011 psle result release \" thread ? :?

u can share yr DS1 good news in this thread as well as in Juying parents' network thread.

Wow !! Scm292 U hv good memory ! U Still can remember what is my ds's school .[/quote]DS also in a pri sch in the west so tend to take note (& remember) pri schools in the west.

[Ms tay]

scm292:

DS also in a pri sch in the west so tend to take note (& remember) pri schools in the west.

Oic!

[scm292]

DW and myself used to send DD to a private learning centre for kids with special needs (before pri sch) and we found that there were many kids (around her age) with special needs - autitics, hyperactive etc. We tried to find out what’s "wrong" with DD when we noticed her being "different" from other kids but "experts" said that she is not autistic, not hyperactive etc etc. In the end, the only conclusion was she had issues with visual perception and fine motor skills. Her "condition" resulted in her being very weak in Maths (and anything related to numbers and drawings) but luckily, her language so far have been good enough to get her promoted to the next level over the years - in pri and sec sch.


With early intervention, I am sure parents with special needs kids can cope better. Please also try not to compare them with their siblings as it will stress them more. Over the years, I have learned to accept DD’s "condition" and stopped comparing her with DS especially Maths results.

[just888]

Ms tay:

Dear evalim

Until today did I realize that I m not alone ! Omg !! :scared: ur story
Is exactly the same as mine ( the hard time with ur child )
The difference is I'm a homemaker.I quit my job when my DS2 was diagnosed with ASD when he was 3yrs old. As a working mother, being an
able to do so much for ur child is really not easy .. I want to :salute: to u again , u r an amazing mother !! :rahrah:

Ms Tay & evalim
Well done, give yourself a pat for doing so much for your kids. I really admire both of your patience towards your kids. Both the kids are so fortunate to have a mother like you do.

One of my fren, her DD1 is in this situation also. I keep asking her maybe to checkout with the doc or spend more time with him coaching him. But she refused and told me that her DD1 got to help himself to buck up to learn afterall she already engage tutors for her kid. In fact, her DD1 would actually listen to her more than the tutor, but she rather choose to work earn extra $$ for safe keeping and also not to be 24hrs at home facing her MIL and 3 kids.