Hong Wen

[SAHM_TAN]

lionheart, thanks for the tips.

[SAHM_TAN]

The workbook covers are very smooth and kind of glossy. May I know what brand of pen/marker to write to ensure the name stay on the workbooks, or do you use label? TIA

[lionheart]

hquek:

Thanks lionheart. Care to share more on point 4 - what do you mean by goal setting, building confidence etc? Any concrete examples we can learn from?


Anyway, I do agree on having the solid holidays. I am a ksp at heart and it worries me when I see my kid lazing around and just watching tv, fighting with his bro etc.

But sometime ago then I had ever enrolled him in a holiday class when he was younger....the results of which was that most of the stuff he gave back by the end of the holidays and there was some burn out. Since then I try to go for classes that have holidays - we all need a break.

The road is long ahead, I figure I need to pace myself and my kids. (really not easy being parent).

Agree.. it is not easy. I have to read, experiment, network with Secondary school parents and elderly to learn the trade. Since ii am involved in other community works, i got chances to understand other kids also. I admit i failed many times also. The Road is long.. Damn damn long way to go..

About Goal setting. it is going to the 4th itneration this year. it works on my elder whom is pretty foused already.. However, my 9 years old is still dreaming and didn't realise ptifalls (despite kena a few failures already). i will share the setting Goal and preventing burn-out here.. as i see it a yin-yang balance of things.

1. Setting A Goal. Review and reinforce the purpose of a Goal. Often the Kid won't know what they want, hence we set Goal for them.. but in the end, it is will of the Parent , but not the Child to succeed. In my way of things, i run through the above exercise with my 2 sons. Let them understands their purpose and set their own goal. I will faciliate and 'play along'. Upon their goal is set, the next thing is to help them to identify objectives to achieve the goal. Ask them to justify their objectives. I will end this Goal session after they agreed and penned an agreeement (yes a paper agreement) with me. After that i will motivate with a string of incentives when meeting objectives. Also a set of disincentives if objectives are not met.

2. Preventing burn-out. Our children are all smart. They knew their limit as well as knowing their ability. The bulk of the problem lies in their confidence or their determination to achieve goals. Instead of us helping them, we pushed them to break their self or coccoon. In that sense, their sense of confidence is shattered, they had the false sense of confidence (parental support). Though prolonged support from parents, the kids overly relied on their parents and followed their parents' pace rather than theirs. Hence burn-out occurred. In order to prevent burn-out, automony and independent young minds has to be built. Let them self-pace while you monitored.. motivate them when they are out of focus, give them a hand when they are stretched. There are many tell-tale signs.

[hquek]

For workbooks, I used ballpoint pen to write. For textbooks etc, I printed off on normal paper, cut it out and used sticky tape to tape the name labels. Same goes for stationery items.


Remember to label even the wallets and water bottles. Understand that kids tend to lose these after recess.

[SAHM_TAN]

Thanks hquek

[SAHM_TAN]

wow even the files also have the school name and crest.

[WorkingMommy]

lionheart:

Workingmom,


I would like to share with you something that i learnt as a P5 parent

My 2-cent worth of thoughts.. My personal view.

Dear lionheart,
I'm more interested to know his behaviour progress - whether he pays attention in class, if he helps his teachers or peers, if he gets along well with others, etc. I want to be filled in the areas when and where i am absent. Regarding academic progress, I know from the assignments he brings back.

[SAHM_TAN]

wonder will the school go for black shoes in the future

[lionheart]

WorkingMommy:

lionheart:

Workingmom,


I would like to share with you something that i learnt as a P5 parent

My 2-cent worth of thoughts.. My personal view.

Dear lionheart,
I'm more interested to know his behaviour progress - whether he pays attention in class, if he helps his teachers or peers, if he gets along well with others, etc. I want to be filled in the areas when and where i am absent. Regarding academic progress, I know from the assignments he brings back.

Isn't it too late to learn the bad habits picked up by a child at the end of the term? Hence keep regular contact with His form Teacher. Also support the school by volunteering or be present in major school event. This is to impress into your child that you care about his education, ESP character education. Also teachers usually feel more comfortable to share their honest progress of your child if a parent is active volunteering in supporting the school activity. As i see it, no doubt it is time consuming, these steps are far better than a 10 mins PTM session.

[lionheart]

SAHM_TAN:

wonder will the school go for black shoes in the future

No Change. This had been discussed when we moved to the current new campus in 2009.

Only white shoe. (1) black shoe is not suitable for indoor sport hall. (2) try to match it with uniform, white is still better (3) a matter of discipline and hygiene consideration.