All About Full-Time Maids

[PrincessAriel]

SMH Forest, can change maid?

[Breadandmuffins]

Yesterday, I finally "burst out" at my maid for shouting at my DS2. DS2 needed to get changed after she showered him and DD2 needed to be cleaned up. I was getting ready to send DD1 to class. So she went to cleaned DD2 and ignored DS2 who pestered her to wear clothes for him. She flared up at DS2 ad shouted at him not once but twice. I gathered all 3 of them to the door to get out of the house and b4 I left, I scolded her for the first time (after bearing with her shouting for 1yr plus). I told her even if the kids pestered u and u hv to handle both, u should not shout at him, its your job to handle them. She stared at me with anger and answered back.I told her when u go to new employer, I see how u can shout at the kids when you have to handle both at the same time. Last time, she would just tell them to wait. Last yr or so, its like shouting and nagging at them all the time. The kids were out with me fr 10.30am till 1pm. She had her peaceful time at home to slowly do work. Within an hr after I stepped in , she did this and I was really mad, cos I hate to come back to a house with people shouting at my kids. I then left with 3 kids at 2.30pm till 4pm and then from 4.15 to 5pm with 1kid and the other 2 having tennis lesson , she had the whole house to herself again. So why the frustration, I really cannot understand.

[Breadandmuffins]

i am getting out of the house now till 12pm to avoid her black face.

[Angelight]

Breadandmuffins, maybe you shld have a good talk with your maid. If really cannot talk sense into her, then consider change maid. It’s your house, you shldn’t have to leave your own house to avoid her.

[SMH FOREST]

PrincessAriel, I’m calling agencies up today to see what they have… definitely not going back to this current maid’s agent as all she tells me is to get a replacement. The previous time I called her to talk abt maid’s behaviour, she wanted me to get 1 transfer maid who was rude to agent herself when I was on the phone! No way am i going to get such a maid right? So, I concluded that my agent isn’t really looking to find the right one for me and i shdnt get into more trouble by using her.


With another change of maid, it will be my 4th maid for the year… Sigh… after my maid of 2 years left, the first one had bad attitude, but we stuck on for abt 2-3mths… but alas, she had a fall… and cldn’t work anymore… sent her to hospital, the A&E doc says nothing wrong with her scan etc… as she cldnt work anymore, we sent her off… 2nd we took a transfer maid… said she is ok w the occassional help out with our kid… but didnt interact w him or helped out at all… she wanted to go w/in a week. and this current 3rd one… been tahan-ing her laziness and white lies… but seeing the state of the housework and her constant disregard of instructions… i think i can no longer live with the fact tt im paying her w/o getting things i wanted done…

[SMH FOREST]

Breadandmuffins:

i am getting out of the house now till 12pm to avoid her black face.

Breadandmuffins, your helper has found a new employer already? When is she leaving? U going maidless or getting a new maid?? It's so weird that we are doing similar stuff.. i also head out at times with my boy.. and just leave maid at home alone.. so i dont have to see her lazy attitude. BUT, its our house right?? It's really ridiculous when I think about it... but sometimes its hard when the helper has an attitude and just couldn't care less what the employer has said!!

[LOLMum]

SMH FOREST:

Breadandmuffins:

i am getting out of the house now till 12pm to avoid her black face.

.. i also head out at times with my boy.. and just leave maid at home alone.. !!

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[Breadandmuffins]

hi angellight

my maid is transferring soon. No, I gave up talking to her on her attitude towards my kids cos i believed she still not happy over those times we talked to her over the HP issue. DH and I believed in talking to her and give her the benefit of the doubt, afterall she has served us well for the first 6 years before the HP issue came abt…but all these talking also no use after a while. Distraction is always there…I hv always feelthat her frustration (resulting from tiredness) came about fr late nites on surfing on HP but I cant verify it since i really do not know how late she sleeps.

HI SMH forest
I am going maidless. She already found a employer and now waiting for approval from MOM.Getting parttime help and my father’s help…

[24hr-mum]

well, i understand perfectly. my ex maid used to alwayz shout at my kids too, when they misbehave. i think all my neighbours can hear her. she even told my boy before to ‘count her days’ last time and had threatened to go home. after i told her i m letting her go, she nvr say the word go home anymore.

i always go out in the morning to avoid her, as in i dont really like to see a black face too. tho she isnt bad really but u know, when they are maybe tired due to usg hp, and start givg the sian look, i also sian.

breadnmuffins, just pay her to the last day. nothing extra. she is really too much. even tho my exmaid uses hp, she nvr openly use it when we ard. yesterday my dh say my exmaid alwaz so long in the toilet and he noticed something bulging in her shorts pocket - probably is the hp. she prob using hp to sms in the toilet…
when is the new employer taking her? asap? can u get new employer to take her earlier? at least urs decided on new boss very fast. mine took a long time to pick n choose and meanwhile i hv to bear wf her and the uncertainty of when she will leave.

[peapot]

It’s terrible that it’s our Hse and yet we don’t feel like going back because of a black face maid. Such maid can just go back home. I m pretty sure it’s Philip maid?