KS Parents' Love Story

[autumnbronze]

Hi,


My turn now to share. Bear with me, to some or many, this may be akin to a bollywood love story, sans the dancing ard the coconut tree:

Chapt 1: Sometime in Oct 1990
Girl, in a last min whim, decided to attend friend's bf bday celebration at a local hotspot then near Forum. According to boy, (DH) who was sitting at the table on the opposite side and who saw the girl, what attracted him to her was her beauty (his admission, not mine) and carefree nature. Girl, at that point, did not know he existed. DH tried to buy her a drink but alas she had disappeared! i.e gone home lah!

Chapt 2: A few days later
DH in the meantime, tried to get my contact thru a frd of his who saw the grp I was with and who claimed to know some of my frds. Somehow, DH got my frd's frd's contact and called her to find out abt me. My frd became the middleman bet her frd and me as her frd kept passing msgs from DH to my frd and she to me. I refused to partake in any conversation with him cuz I was just being cautious. Nonetheless, aft some persuasion from my frd, I agreed to let her frd pass my contact to DH. What won me over finally was his persistence, he refused to give up trying to contact me.

Chapt 3: A month and some weeks later
We had been chatting since then, aft fobbing him off for a mth plus... I decided to really keep the date. I had chicken out the first two times by giving him some excuses. Again he persisted patiently. During the course of our conversation, I found out that my frd's frd had tried to 'potong jalan' by trying to find out personal details abt him on the pretext that I wanted to know - how naughty!!!

Chapt 4: 1st Date
He was waiting for me outside somerset MRT, leaning against his car and trying to look 'stylo'. Aft some hiccups - like me shaking me leg continuously in the car cuz I was so nervous and controlling the sense of thrill cuz he was the first guy that I was going out with who drove!!! - It went off to a good start and we hit it off pretty well. But I have to say that being young then, I was extremely naive and petty not v mature, but he put up with my nonsense. The relationship was sometimes quite volatile.

Chapt 5: Parents' discovery
Coming from a conservative family, parents didn't approve of me dating, also although same race, but diff ethnic grp. Forbade me to see him, said ok, but of course sneaked ard and abt. Parents found out, big confrontation, I moved out, DH tried to reconcile us. Finally intro him to them. Father was cool, but mom gave him dagger looks - \"if looks could kill, I would have been dead\" said DH. But DH tried to win my mom over, who, sad to say, only relented aft my dad's passing.

Chapt 6: Further Studies
DH was due to go overseas for undergraduate studies. We decided to keep the relationship \"open\" - keep in touch but free to date - More of my idea cuz I would rather he be honest with me throughout than keep secrets from me. Basically, he dated, I waited. Sometimes, it was really hard, him telling me abt the pretty blond girls or those with exotic mediterrenean features. Inevitably, there was a 3rd party. I kept calm and dealt with it on my own. When he returned, I tried to win him back again, and rekindle what we had and to assure him that I was different now as I had matured. But I made sure I did not put him under pressure. Only wanted him to come back to 'us' on his own accord. By then, we had been together for 7 yrs.

Chapt 7: Decision time
Aft much thought, he realized that I was the ONE aft all. He had been deluding himself. Confessed that even while dating he always thought of me. Just that he was so tired of us constantly arguing over petty matters. Finally, when he had made up his mind, I asked him what was the deciding factor - he replied by way of an analogy - that if he was ever kidnapped or lost in some jungle - he knew deep in his heart that I would -come hell or high water - never give up looking for him. He said that he had never ever felt that strong sense of stability that he felt with me when he dated the others. I was really touched when I heard that. :love:

Chapt 8: Proposal time
He proposed to me in London. My first overseas trip with him, aft pleading my case to my dad, I was allowed to go. Of course I assured him that I was staying with my frd, but.... Anyway, once there, I saw a really nice branded watch that I really liked but could not afford. He decided to buy me that on the sly and I remember wondering why he did not want me to hold his jacket for him in the tube, it was only because he was hiding the the wach box. He brought me to Butler's Wharf and proposed by telling me that the bad news was that he could not afford a diamond ring, BUT the good news was that he had bought me something I liked and as he took out the box, he asked me to marry him. Well, touched again. He actually took an overdraft to pay for the watch. :love:

Chapt 9: The End (but actually not, still more to tell, but better not ... or will be accused of hogging) :oops: Its been 18 yrs since we've been together and 10 yrs since we've married. Marriage wasn't blissful in the beginning cuz its the real thing - learning to compromise, the in-laws etc.. v v different from courtship days. But, through many up and downs, trials and errors, we perservered and here we are today with a wonderful, beautiful boy.

Chapt 10: Reflections
What really keeps our relationship going is our ability to have really OPEN conversations. We can be out together and I can make a comment like 'hey, look at that hunk' and vice versa and we both take it on our stride. Another example - I am also able to have OPEN conversations with him abt my in-laws without him taking any offence. I really appreciate that.

Well, thats all for now folks. For those who have perservered and read through the entire mini-romance novel, many thanks. For those who didn't or couldn't - I don't blame you

[ChiefKiasu]

autumnbronze:

Hi,


My turn now to share. Bear with me, to some or many, this may be akin to a bollywood love story, sans the dancing ard the coconut tree:...

autumnbronze, do we get the first right of refusal should Bollywood approach you to buy your script?

[autumnbronze]

morn chiefkiasu,


Hmm doubt they ever will, plot's too dull for them.

They would want to add in more 'curry powder' like fight scenes bet father and DH during courtship days and possibly a catfight scene bet me and the girl who tried to 'potong jalan' .....

I wouldn't want them to deviate from the authenticity .... :lol:

[buds]

WOW! *Clap Clap* 18 years wor! :salute:


You sure should join us at the http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=3463 girl!

Cause you must be waaaayyyy experienced than us!! :evil:
We always need to have new skills... and upgrade mah..
Not i say.. Dis, gahmen say wan. Kekekee! :lol:

[autumnbronze]

(Whispers) Psst hey buds,


(Still Whispering) Am afraid can't contribute much in that thread. As it is, DH constantly moans the fact that he has to \"crank\" me up. A typical making a pass conversation goes like this:

DH: So... do we have a date tonite?
Me: Huh.. Erm.. K..... lah
DH: Give up lah :stupid:

:lol:

[buds]

Lidat say aah... :roll:


:faint:

[cluelessmom]

Hi Buds, y u dun wan to eat??? tsk tsk ....very naughty hor.... asking for trouble leh..........I had a recent health scare too and believe me at tat time.... all I wish for is a healthy mind and body.....pls eat more and take care of ur health.... :snuggles:

[buds]

:lol: I'm kidding larr, cluelessmom... :lol:

I was voted the \"buffet queen\"! I do
eat defintely.. Yes, must eat to live mah..
Mebbe i just try to eat less now to stay in
shape... which isn't easy. But that's not
why i was warded, no worries. It's other
internal engine problems. Old oredi lah..
Another b'day coming nx month so mebbe
need to overhaul only lah..

Or perhaps i may just be on the conscious...
side with regards to my obesity... :oops:
(overly conscious) according to hubs... :roll:

Well if he stops ogling at the skinnies,
i might consider going back 2 binge-ing..

:rotflmao:

I appreciate the concern tho.. :hugs:

And the love.. :love:

Thank you!

[cluelessmom]

Hey Buds, I am not very skinny but have been teased constantly about my lack of curves from the front and behind so sad lor...... think most man prefer some flesh on woman....so dun worry abt a liitle extra curves yea .... And I went for an engine overhaul on my B'day too so I am learning to put things into perspective and enjoy life more :celebrate:

[buds]

:thankyou: for this cluelessmom!


Yes, enjoy life more we should.

:celebrate: