Club 2006 Kids
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DS same like me, stubborn one. Anything he wants, die die also must have… and he will keep pestering you… cried for it/sweet talk you for it/ be angry for it … etc… Last time, I silly give in to one of those… Now i say no and stand FIRM…
When they fight or quarrel, i will scold both of them no matter who is wrong… then tell each of them seperately how they should "love"each other and should give in to each other… still practising lor -
but your DD2 can understand?
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we are talking about \" 大让小 b/w the sibling\" .... -
reiner:
but your DD2 can understand?
yes, DD2 can understand... once when i went out of the car to buy fruits and left the 2 of them with DH. DS cried for me while DD2 console him and say \" Kor Kor dun cried... Mummy only go buy fruits. She says come back later \" :shock: -
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crystalbelle:
any comments ?Anyway, just now while waiting for the relief doc... i noticed a malay boy at ard 4yrs -5 yrs old... roaming ard at the bakery shop.. Being :imanangel: i tried to help him but he just behave like an small adult and shake his head politely... Then he went over to another shop to buy for himself \" bubbles \" ... All the time, he is 'ALONE\" :yikes: ...
i QUESTION myself.. DS still act like baby and dependent on me to do everthing for him... this boy do everything by himself wo the need of his parents...
Is it because his parent taught him well? Is it becase the parent way of discipline is to let them be indepent by themself like us when we were young... my parent never fuss about me... let me roam ard by myself...
someone enlightened me... BTW ( not racist :please: ) he is anther race ( not indian, not european, not chinese) ... ooops i hope CM / Chief will not deem this as inappoporiate lor :nailbite: -
( adapted from Parenting )
How to discipline your child
\"My six-years-old likes to rough-paly with his younger 2-yrs old brother, sometimes pulling his hair or pinching him. \" say Miss Jennifer wong, 35, procurement officer. \" When he does this, I woud slap his hand and reprimand him immediately, causing him to cry. But somehow this doesn't stop him for continuing the bad behaviour\"
This is a common situation parents find themselves in these days. When it comes to disciplining their children. Even after repeated scolding or punishment, the child continues his undesirable behaviours, and it seemed like the words of warning have fallend on deaf ears. In severe cases, when the child gets out of hand, some parents have resoted to harsh action like caning the child or withholding a meal. While these drastic steps may curb the behaviour for a while, sometimes they do backfire, with the reclcitrant child refusing to comply, or worst, rebel even more.
So what can you, as parent, do to discipline your child in meanigful and effective ways ?
Ways to discipline Your Child
In disciplining your child, here are six important things you should take note:
1. BE CONSISTENT
The key to effective discipline is to be consistent in your approach. When you have set rules to govern certain behaviours or deal with bad behaviour, you should keep to them without fail. If not, you may risk undermining your parental authority.
2.SET LIMITS :nunchuk:
Depending onyour child's age and developmental stage, you should set appropriate limits. In this way, ou would know what to say\"NO\" to your child in different situations. When your child challenges these limits, stand firm on your ground and be in charge.
3.DON'T GIVE IN :nunchuk:
If your child whines, has a temper tantrum or is acting out, do not give into him, especially if he is demanding for something or seeking for needless attention, as it may inadvertently teach him that this behaviour is appropriate in getting what he wants.
4.TAKE ACTION :nunchuk:
To make sure your child knows when he has done something good or bad,make your rewards and punishments immediate. Do not wait an hour or half a day to respond to what he has done. He may have forgotten wha has happend since then.
5.BE FIRM :nunchuk:
After you have given a fair warning to your child, and he does not act on it, remind him one last time the action you will take if he persists in his behaviour. Ane if he still doesn't listen, follow through with the means of punishment. Ignore any protest from your child.
6.GIVE EXPLANATION :please:
After you have disciplined your child, explain to him clearly what was wrong, the proper behaviourhe should exhibit and the consequence he would face if he misbehaves agai. Stating your expectation would help to define the boundaries.
REWARD AND PUNISHMENT. :love: :rant:
TIMEOUT is a tried-and-tested practice that is regularly advocated and has been successful in curbing and remedying bad behaviour. Think of a suitable place, one that is quiet and free of distractions, that will let your child ponder and think through the behaviour that have gotten him into th time-out. Give him adequate time, which can range from a few minutes to half an hour depending on the child's age,to reflect. Sometimes, timeout is extremely effective in cases where the child is throwing a tantrum or physically agitated, to allow him to clam down.
While it is important to punish bad behaviour, it is also equally important to recognise and reward good behaviours . Rewards don't necessary mean gifts or material items; it can refer to intangible things like a word of praise or compliment, or a well deserved pat on the shoulder. The positive effects from these rewards can be far reaching, not only reinforcing good behaviour, but also affirming the child and building up his character. When praising the child, be specific on what you ar exactly praising him for. For example, if he shares a toy with his sibling during playtime, say,\" I'm happy that you have share your toy care with your brother just now\"
Also be specific when it comes to correct your child's behaviour, telling him the right thing to do, not just highlighting the undersirable trait. If he throws his toys on the floor, dun simply say\" this is bad, you shouldn't be doing it,\" bu say, \" Please pick up your toys and put it back if your don't want to play with it \"
ACTION AND CONSEQUENCE
As your child grows, he would slowly pick up the connection between the action and consequence tht follows. Whatever he doesm good or bad, would have an outcome, whether it's a reward or punishment. By setting the rules and explaining to them clearly to your child, he would know what will happen if he exhibits certain behaviours.
More importantly, children often learn by watching their parents, their role-models. As such, it is important to practise what your say, so as to reinforce the message you are sending out to them. So if you tell your child to clean up his room while you are leaving your room piles of mess all over the house, its time to take action and clean them up. REMEMBER,your child is observing you. -
Dearest Club 2006,
Sweet dreams and sleep tight...
See you tomorrow
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Club 2006, after one day of good sleep.. I am all well now
And without the heavy, groggy head, I can now shouted out that :
TODAY IS THURSDAY, TOMORROW IS FRIDAY :rahrah: :rahrah: :rahrah: :rahrah: -
Threw a simple storybook to DS today and tell him to read when he is free in school and that when he come home he will need to read to me :nunchuk: ...
Today is DS assessment for \" I CAN READ\" :nailbite:
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