Working parents, how do you help your child with homework?
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Yong HL:
I can understand your frustation. At the same time, we must also realise that most of the kids (esp my DD) are like this only. We should constantly encourage them. They are just kids; but because of this stressful educaion system here, we parents end up with frustation.
I just had my fair share of screaming this afternoon. My precious hour is wasted coz she is careless this time. All problem sums wrong! Wrote the wrong numbers in formula.. Misread the questions!! Then yesterday was forget! I really :mad:iLoveChubby:
Me too.. i get v frustrated (esp after a long day's work, exhausted) whenever I need to explain couple of times to my DS.
My DH always tell me not to scream at him, hv to be very patient... trying v hard to control my temper at times... :frustrated: -
Yong HL:
How old is your kid? This is only the 3rd week of the new school year so maybe she's still cranking up her gear?
I just had my fair share of screaming this afternoon. My precious hour is wasted coz she is careless this time. All problem sums wrong! Wrote the wrong numbers in formula.. Misread the questions!! Then yesterday was forget! I really :mad:iLoveChubby:
Me too.. i get v frustrated (esp after a long day's work, exhausted) whenever I need to explain couple of times to my DS.
My DH always tell me not to scream at him, hv to be very patient... trying v hard to control my temper at times... :frustrated:
Problem sums? School work or work assigned by you?
DD is in P3 and sometimes when I try explaining something to her, she simply doesn't seem to get it. I get frustrated, she shut down. I did my fair share of screaming and yelling at them but over time, I realise, sometimes they simply won't get it the first time round. You can explain until the cows come home and they still will not get it and soon their eyes will glaze over. So I shelve it and move on to other stuff first. If it involves her school work, I will show her and let her copy first, just to complete that piece of work. When the time allows, I will revisit the topic and explain to her again.
I am also trying to enforce the timetable for my 2 fellas. I reward if they do follow the timetable well. I remove privileges if they ignore the timetable and work does not get done. It is still a work in progress and they need constant reminders about what is next on their timetable. -
Homework is for the children to do not for us to do. I know taht we want to help them but I would suggest letting them do it before you come home so that they really have to try to do it themselves.
I get very frustrated with my m-i-l sometimes as she will sit with my daughter when she does her Chinese so as soon as she hits a small problem she will help instead of letting her figure it out.
If your child really doesn’t understand something even after you explain then let her hand it it wrong so that the teacher knows. Last year when my daughter was in P1 my m-i-l virtually did all her maths homework for her one day but she didn’t understand it at all. I emailed the teacher and she called a few days later to say that it turned out hardly anyone in the class understood so she was going over it again. Don’t pretend that your child did it on their own when they didn’t. You are not helping. -
nms1:
Yes yes, agree.
If your child really doesn't understand something even after you explain then let her hand it it wrong so that the teacher knows. Last year when my daughter was in P1 my m-i-l virtually did all her maths homework for her one day but she didn't understand it at all. I emailed the teacher and she called a few days later to say that it turned out hardly anyone in the class understood so she was going over it again. Don't pretend that your child did it on their own when they didn't. You are not helping.
:oops: paiseh. Protective mum at play here.
My kids do complete most of their homework on their own and hand their work in mistakes and all. Just that odd 1 or 2 questions that at times stump them sometimes that I will help them out this way.
Ok gotta remember to stop doing that. -
Well, careless includes drawing the correct model but write the wrong sign… Should be addition but put subtraction… Untidy includes writing number 7 that looks like 1 and then use 1 in the formula… Asked her redo and everything was perfect. Why, why, why? Why cant she just do things right the 1st time? I asked her… No answer…
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Yong HL:
Well, careless includes drawing the correct model but write the wrong sign.. Should be addition but put subtraction.. Untidy includes writing number 7 that looks like 1 and then use 1 in the formula... Asked her redo and everything was perfect. Why, why, why? Why cant she just do things right the 1st time? I asked her.... No answer...
I know exactly how you feel! -
Yong HL:
Well, careless includes drawing the correct model but write the wrong sign.. Should be addition but put subtraction.. Untidy includes writing number 7 that looks like 1 and then use 1 in the formula... Asked her redo and everything was perfect. Why, why, why? Why cant she just do things right the 1st time? I asked her.... No answer...
You are not the only one. We know, we know.
DD's careless is, write everything correctly including the sign but went to add even though the sign she wrote is minus.
Scribble here and there until cannot read her own handwriting. Chinese handwriting can miss a few strokes and can still tell me aiyah look like and I know mah. :faint:
So yup I too know exactly how you feel. -
yes yes! Funz… exactly!! how do you remain cool? pls help…
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Yong HL:
yes yes! Funz.. exactly!! how do you remain cool? pls help....
Cool? Who says anything about remaining cool. haha. Like I said, I did my fair share of screaming and yelling at DD, even threw her books right across the room. I was a screaming banshee. I have a very short fuse.
These days I just keep telling DD. Work is hers, results is hers, effort has to be hers as well. Before the start of this year, we sat down and I explained to her that this is a 'streaming' year for her. I asked her which class would she like to be in come P4 and she told me she is aiming for the top 2 classes after GEP. So we went through what kind of grades she needs to maintain in order to get into those classes. She will improve but again start getting sloppy after a few days and I will just remind her and let her be.
In P1 drilled her paper after paper until she can show me that she is able to give me a set with minimal careless mistakes. Impossible to have 0 careless mistake but for DD, more then 10 careless mistake at that time was too much for me to stomach. After that drilling session, she came back with full marks and was so proud. Thereafter, there were relapse and I will tell her buck up or we are going to do 'drills' again the whole weekend.
Rewards are not a given thing (though still no lack of it but done more as a surprise instead of something they work towards) but withdrawal of privileges is a sure thing if they do not meet their objectives/complete their chores after repeated warnings and reminders.
Can only share what I do with my kids and I will not say that it works all the time. It is more a work in progress all the time. -
hi Funz,
Our girls are in the same school and same level
With the so limited amount of time I have with her after she transited to morning session this year, I have sort of moderated my expectation of her with it comes to streaming already. I think I have come to accept that this year her grades will drop quite tremendously.
Don't know why, my engines, as well as her engines, seemed to have slowed down after running very fast for the past 2 years.... :sad: I am also tired of the daily drilling and scolding from time to time, knowing at the back of my mind that there is no affiliation at her current school, that we run at this crazy speed year after year.....
At times, when she gives me \"nonsense\" work or seeing the same kind of mistakes numerous times, I just feel like giving it all up :imdrowning: A war starts and it often culminates in a volcanic eruption..... :stupid:
I don't know.....my hubby always says that the ownership lies with her, that she must feel that she is the one who can makes a difference. How I wish i can have a kid who is so self-motivated, but before she reaches that \"stage\", maybe I still need to put on my armour :?:
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