All About Teaching Values

[sall]

Jworld:

When is the earliest a kid can understand values? I have been talking to my 3yo kid, but I do not know how much she understands whatever I impart to her. Sometimes she just turned away and I am not sure if she just choose to walk away (but can understand my words) or she simply doesn't understand my blabbering.

Kids will do what parents do. There is no need to tell her all the time about the right values. When a parent gives up the seat to someone who needs it more and the kids see this kind act, they will also learn to do so in future.
Alas, I always see parents who ask the kid to stretch across 2 seats and there are so many people who are standing. So these kids won't learn the correct value.

[jedamum]

sall:

Kids will do what parents do. There is no need to tell her all the time about the right values..

it also depends on how receptive the child is to his/her surroundings.
the same action that i do (eg open the door for the elderly), i can get different reaction from both my children (1 will see it, the other will be oblivion). apparently, one is more the like dad ie sensitive to the surroundings while the other is like the mum ie living in her own world most of the time
but the more you do (good deed), the more chance that the oblivion one can catch what is going on.

[jedamum]

ok…on the topic of good deeds, my child is supposed to come up with something for Oral practice in school regarding this topic.

boy! he had a hard time thinking of what to say. when i asked, how about this incident or that incident, he would say, this is good deed meh? i thought this is supposed to be what we are supposed to do? and he’ll ask if being considerate is doing a good deed…which he think not. so what really is definition of a good deed if one does not feel a big deal of doing what is right?

[BeContented]

jedamum:

ok...on the topic of good deeds, my child is supposed to come up with something for Oral practice in school regarding this topic.

boy! he had a hard time thinking of what to say. when i asked, how about this incident or that incident, he would say, this is good deed meh? i thought this is supposed to be what we are supposed to do? and he'll ask if being considerate is doing a good deed..which he think not. so what really is definition of a good deed if one does not feel a big deal of doing what is right?

Jedamum,
I would think it is better that the child think nothing much of the good things that he/she had done rather than do a little like big deal

[sall]

My mother encountered a nice teenage boy who kept asking his mother to give up her seat to my mom. But his mother refused and kept glaring at him. In this case, it seems like the nice boy must have learnt more from the sch than from his mom. In the end, my mom thanked the boy for trying. His mother, in her late 40s, just kept glaring at him. I think the poor boy will get a scolding from his mom later.

[seekingangels]

Thanks for sharing. Really enlightening entry. Shall apply it on my kid!

[tutormum]

sall:

My mother encountered a nice teenage boy who kept asking his mother to give up her seat to my mom. But his mother refused and kept glaring at him. In this case, it seems like the nice boy must have learnt more from the sch than from his mom. In the end, my mom thanked the boy for trying. His mother, in her late 40s, just kept glaring at him. I think the poor boy will get a scolding from his mom later.

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My 3 DS are taught to give up their seats since young so now they do it naturally. They will also leave the reserved seat empty just in case somebody who needs it gets up at the next stop. As I'm getting old, my DS will let me have the first available seat which is the reverse of when they were young. Even when DS3 went out with me after a long day at school, he still insist that I take the seat. :love:

[Seow Ting Ting]

values is very important to my family. I always show them the right things to do

[happy2bemummy]

Kids follow what we do and not what we say. There was once I told my kids not to fight and the reasons etc etc and then I got angry with daddy and scolded him and the look on my kids’ faces was priceless. Since then, I have also watched myself much more and tried to be more patient.

[serenasgreenhouse]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kZlXWp6vFdE&feature=related


Hi, would like to share this inspirational video on the youtube with all the mummies and daddies here. I watched this video during one of the motivational talks conducted for the kiddos by an external vendor when I was teaching at my ex-school. The video was on a former Olympic sprinter, Derek Redmond.

I was very touched when I watched how Derek Redmond persevered and completed the 400-metre race in the semi-finals of the Barcelona Olympic Games 1992 despite pulling his hamstring.

There will be times when we face obstacles or even failure in life. Do we give up? Or do we grit our teeth and persevere? It takes a lot of mental strength to continue the tough journey. Redmond is a true inspiration for all of us although I would not encourage anyone to run with a torn hamstring. Even in the face of failure, Redmond did not quit. He might not have won the race but in my eyes, he was a champion. He really showed us what pure grit and determination means.

The love and support from his father also serves as a reminder to parents that it is important to be always there for your kids even if they may not be doing well academically or in other aspects. Help your kids to move forward.

I can't remember who came in first. However, I can remember who came in last.

Never give up.

P.S. Sorry. Tried to embed Youtube video but was not successful. Could someone enlighten me on how to embed Youtube video on the forum?