All About Full-Time Maids

[DesertWind]

We bought our maid one radio for her use in her room when she first join us. Then we put another one which we won in some lucky draw at the kitchen so she could listen to it while doing chores. Sometime ago I found that she played the Malay/Indonesian channel quite frequently and quite loudly at the kitchen/dining area. There was a short period of time when she did it even when I was at home and around the house, seems a bit slack on her part ie. like she own the house and disregard my presence. So I told her directly that I don’t like it and when I am not around the house, she is to strictly just play the CHINESE channel especially those with DJs talking so that my kids can be immersed in a Chinese speaking environment! Not even English channel. Furthermore, strictly no headphones, earphones. She is free to listen to whatever she wants in her room after she retires for the day. I have to be very specific to her since I am not around the whole day and she is the only one with the kids at home.

[homeworkmummy]

Thanks all for sharing your experience. I am hesitant giving her a radio because my ex-maid asked me for a MP3, I bought one for her. At first, she only used it at night. But after a few months, I noticed that she kept going to toilets very often and each time lasted at least 10 to 15 minutes. We found out that she has been going to toilet to listen to her MP3. So for this maid, I have become more careful. I will probably learn from some of you, look for a used radio (without any hand phones) and give it to her. I am still thinking if I should be keeping her radio during the day and only pass it to her at night after she finishes her chores but again it’s a hassle for me as well. Just worried that she will be "addicted" to listening to radio and become slackened as she loves to sing when doing the housework.

[24hr-mum]

u jus discreetly turn on eng channel for her if u wan when u at hm but off it whn u go out. my ex maid hide in toilet to sms i suspect

[24hr-mum]

my exmaid used to even sing when sittg nx to Sir in the car whn radio on

[peapot]

Ha…yes ex-my maid sings in the garden early in the morning! Actually it sounds not too bad. I think Philip maid has music in their blood.

[HAPPYH]

Hi


I did not read the entire thread but I browsed thro few pages randomly.

I just want to get some suggestions from you all.

The problem I am facing with my FDW is if she does something wrong and it comes to my attention (of course, she wont tell me), she will straightaway say that she could not manage so she wants to go back to her home country (without me asking/saying anything). I just feel I should be the one getting angry if she does things wrongly. However, it happens in the otherway. She will show long face, wont answer if I ask something, etc etc for a while. She will be ok after a while.

How to respond to her?

I usually keep quiet as I dont want go thro the hassle of training another FDW according to our needs.

These few days, I really feel she is exploiting too much.

Thank you

[24hr-mum]

mayb she thinks u wont really send her off tats y like tat. my ex maid used to threaten bef my kids tat wait for the day tat she wil go back n evn ask my boy to count her days. aft i told her i m lettg her go she nvr say go hm anymore

[HAPPYH]

24hr-mum:

mayb she thinks u wont really send her off tats y like tat. my ex maid used to threaten bef my kids tat wait for the day tat she wil go back n evn ask my boy to count her days. aft i told her i m lettg her go she nvr say go hm anymore

Thank you 24 hr mum. It is a real head ache. May be I should be firm with her.

[hquek]

hi happyH,


not sure where yours is from. if you have to send her to another airport, you always have option to buy a ticket that involves transfer. Works well with indo maids.

Mine starting going off mode once we confirm letting her go. I told her quietly that I can either buy her a direct ticket, or let her transit in JKT airport for 1 night. After that, her attitude was markedly better.

[peapot]

Sometimes maid thinks that we will die without them. Always remind them that you have other options if you don’t have a maid, even if it’s a lie.