Maid Keeping Items ??
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now maids are more demanding. No Hp and no off day, they don’t want to work. Like you, my maid wanted to go back if I don’t give off day. In the beginning I did promise her off day after 1 year and of course I had to keep my promise. With off day, Hp became a must. So maybe your maid also wants these 2 things?
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peapot:
now maids are more demanding. No Hp and no off day, they don't want to work. Like you, my maid wanted to go back if I don't give off day. In the beginning I did promise her off day after 1 year and of course I had to keep my promise. With off day, Hp became a must. So maybe your maid also wants these 2 things?
Yes, she just started taking one day leave from this month. But I used to pay $25/month for that off-day since she did not go out.
I wonder why does she want to go out especially when I am literally bringing her out whenever we go out (except parties). She can save that $25. I know she is from a very poor family. Can not understand. -
Its "freedom" my dear. When she’s out on her on, she can do whatever she wants but when she’s out with you she still need to literally "do her job" like making sure kids are not running amok, help to carry things etc.
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It really depends lah. Everyone has different needs.
I give my maid off day as and when she likes but she must let me know at least 5 days in advance. When she is off, i give her $10 for her lunch and my ezlink card to travel around. no deduction in her pay at all.
After that she became lazy to go out because she said she wants to save $. We work out for her how much she will have at the end of x years. So i guess the targeted $ deters her from spending too much.
I encourage her to have HP and radio. Why? Because they can be lonely. When you are lonely, you tend to feel you just want to give up and just go home. Also she is a mother and i also don’t want her to have strain relationship with her son since i am a mother myself. It is already heart pain that they have to leave their home to work overseas. So try to empatise on that.
Every year, we will bring her to overseas trip with us. Every fri, she will jalan at orchard for 2 hrs while bringing my boys to chinese class. Every year we will celebrate her birthday. We really treat her like part of the family. Every year, we will allow her to go back home for 2 whole weeks. If she doesn’t, the airfare cost will credit back to her account. Every year, she will have 1 mth bonus.
Why we do all this is because we really appreciate her and she knows that.
Despite us doing all this, she ever mentioned that she wants to go to other countries to work. I did give her my blessings. Not once or twice but many times. She was shock at my response. I told her that a person luck is limited. I show her that looking after kids are far easier than looking after elderly and special needs adults/children. After that she is woke up her senses and she told me twice that she wants to continue to work with our family until we say no. I really appreciate her gesture. -
peapot:
Its \"freedom\" my dear. When she's out on her on, she can do whatever she wants but when she's out with you she still need to literally \"do her job\" like making sure kids are not running amok, help to carry things etc.
Yes, I agree, it is the freedom.
But she does not need to baby sit for my DD since she is eight years old and my DD doesn't really like her. So we make sure she is safe whenever we are around. Yes, you are right to say that she can not do whatever she wants like wandering around the shops, etc.... -
laughingcat:
I think you are lucky to have such a FDW. I also gave ez link card and ten dollars when she went out (day off). But I did not buy handphone for her as my previous FDW exploited it (talking on the phone for hours...). But I gave her the freedom of making unlimited LOCAL CALLS when I am around. I pass my handphone to call her home every two or three days and each call lasts for at least 15-20 min. I gave the freedom of cooking/eating whatever we have at home. We all sit together and eat.... We do talk about her family and children....When we go for shopping, I will buy extra things like hand bag, clothes, etc.... She does watch television but not for hours. I also allow her to watch two movies over the weekend. I also borrow books from the library to read during her freetime (from 10 am to 1245 pm and 2 pm to 530 pm). But still the relationship is not very smooth in the sense not feeling secure both sides:(It really depends lah. Everyone has different needs.
I give my maid off day as and when she likes but she must let me know at least 5 days in advance. When she is off, i give her $10 for her lunch and my ezlink card to travel around. no deduction in her pay at all.
After that she became lazy to go out because she said she wants to save $. We work out for her how much she will have at the end of x years. So i guess the targeted $ deters her from spending too much.
I encourage her to have HP and radio. Why? Because they can be lonely. When you are lonely, you tend to feel you just want to give up and just go home. Also she is a mother and i also don't want her to have strain relationship with her son since i am a mother myself. It is already heart pain that they have to leave their home to work overseas. So try to empatise on that.
Every year, we will bring her to overseas trip with us. Every fri, she will jalan at orchard for 2 hrs while bringing my boys to chinese class. Every year we will celebrate her birthday. We really treat her like part of the family. Every year, we will allow her to go back home for 2 whole weeks. If she doesn't, the airfare cost will credit back to her account. Every year, she will have 1 mth bonus.
Why we do all this is because we really appreciate her and she knows that.
Despite us doing all this, she ever mentioned that she wants to go to other countries to work. I did give her my blessings. Not once or twice but many times. She was shock at my response. I told her that a person luck is limited. I show her that looking after kids are far easier than looking after elderly and special needs adults/children. After that she is woke up her senses and she told me twice that she wants to continue to work with our family until we say no. I really appreciate her gesture.
Yes, I agree that she can not talk freely with her local friends when I am around. But I dont want her to gossip about others over the phone. When she talks with her family (home), we will go down (She is not exploiting that; she will just talk to her family and cut the line even though we are not around). -
HAPPYH:
Yes agreed. I am indeed very lucky that i have a mature thinking helper.
I think you are lucky to have such a FDW.
HAPPYH:
Why don't you set a house rules. Can only use handphone to call friends only during the night. During daytime when looking after kids, cannot use handphone.I did not buy handphone for her as my previous FDW exploited it (talking on the phone for hours...).
HAPPYH:
Wah! You very lenient leh. I don't allow this at all. Unless my helper drop me a courtesy call that she needed to call back her family for emergency matters and that is fine. Otherwise priority during the day is making sure the kids are safe while i am working.But I gave her the freedom of making unlimited LOCAL CALLS when I am around.
HAPPYH:
It is really up to individual needs. I am sure you have consider her needs to your best knowledge but that isn't what she really wants. In day to day work, which employee really want to have boss lunch with them on a daily basis? Not for me though.But still the relationship is not very smooth in the sense not feeling secure both sides:(
HAPPYH:
But seriously one can't control much on this. Gossiping maybe good too....in terms of her emotion and that is de-stress. Ability to vent it out and who knows she is also hearing others' good advise?But I dont want her to gossip about others over the phone.
My helper ever told me that after her outings with her friends, she mentioned that some of her friends carry smartphones and she is embarrassed over her \"normal nokia\" phone. I just told her that does she really needs a smartphone? What are her mostly used features that she used which can only be found in smartphone and that normal phone don't have? After some thoughts, she gladly accepted her way of life and saving $ is more crucial for her at this point in time. -
I will terminate her immediately, who knows what she will take next?
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