Ang Pow Issues...

[phankao]

concern2:

phankao:

We don't go by age of the child. Aiyoh, imagine - I have toddler and also secondary and JC kid - won't it give you a big headache if I were your relative? Then you have to prepare different-value angbaos for each of my kids? My kids get jealous when they open their angbaos, then how??? HAHA!!! You have headache or I have headache over that situation? *hehe* :slapshead:

:rotflmao: Yes, phankao, I have these 'demominations' in my Ang Pow wallet: S$4, S$6, S$8, S$12 and S$20, each parents' S$100, set aside from the rest, and I differentiate them by Ang Pow Packet designs. Sec and JC same amount, those working but not married another amount. But to close nieces and nephews, all S$20, so no need to fight over.

You must go visiting to many places then! haha. I used to have those in the earlier years - really headache. Then I realised that I don't really use much of the different values. So now it's only S$6 or S$20.

[starlight1968sg]

I have a bil and sil who are still single and in late 30s: $10 each

(I take it as I dropped $20 every year)

[DesertWind]

Angelight:

Woah...you are generous, pal! Unmarried colleagues, rubbish collectors and cleaners you also give? That's the good thing about earning your own income, more spending power, unlike homemakers like me, got to budget, budget, budget...

This year my MIL rejected my ang pow only accept the kum. The office cleaner also said \"No need, but thanks\". Pantry lady said \"Wah, so good ah, I also have?\" Then after I walked away called after me \"BTW, Happy New Year!\".

I felt like such a fool.

The rubbish collectors (3 all from China) seems quite appreciative though. The school bus drivers seemed like could not care less.

Probably next year I won't give to all these \"miscellaneous\" people already except for the rubbish collectors.

[peapot]

Oh! I never give neighbors before! Btw, is $6 the minimum now? I still give other maid’s $4.

[peapot]

Btw, normally yr parents or inlaws shouldn’t reject our Ang pow. I find it very odd. I think only other elderly may reject because they are not close to us.

[concern2]

phankao:

concern2:

[quote=\"phankao\"]
We don't go by age of the child. Aiyoh, imagine - I have toddler and also secondary and JC kid - won't it give you a big headache if I were your relative? Then you have to prepare different-value angbaos for each of my kids? My kids get jealous when they open their angbaos, then how??? HAHA!!! You have headache or I have headache over that situation? *hehe* :slapshead:

:rotflmao: Yes, phankao, I have these 'demominations' in my Ang Pow wallet: S$4, S$6, S$8, S$12 and S$20, each parents' S$100, set aside from the rest, and I differentiate them by Ang Pow Packet designs. Sec and JC same amount, those working but not married another amount. But to close nieces and nephews, all S$20, so no need to fight over.

You must go visiting to many places then! haha. I used to have those in the earlier years - really headache. Then I realised that I don't really use much of the different values. So now it's only S$6 or S$20.[/quote]Yeah, I'd probably consider simplifying them hereon...

BTW, how do you feel about giving Ang Pows to older relatives who are still single? I find it could get awkward. For those younger than me, they'd say thank you and accept gracefully, but for some who are older, you have your MIL or DH shooing you to give on one hand and the older, single relative rejecting on the other hand :oops: Donno what to do..put back to own wallet also paiseh..
Some relatives reject by saying,\"No need, no need, we are working already, no need\" whilst pushing your hand away assuringly. Those are easier to handle..

[Funz]

:? I was told the protocol is the one who is an 'elder' in status and is married has to give ang bao to their 'juniors' who are unmarried. Not suppose to give to your 'elders'. Only exception is your own parents and grandparents. You give as a symbol of filial piety.

[MMM]

For us, we mainly prepare the following :

$500 - parents, pils and grandparents each
$100 - kids and our maid
$20 - close nieces and nephews
$10 - Family with only 1 child or grown up cousins. Also sils’ maids who always come to our place
$6 - General (We’ve 3 kids so we don’t want others to lugi).
$4 - Maids we meet at relatives’ house.

So far, I don’t give cousins/ relatives who are single and older than me. There is a elderly auntie whom we visit. But I never give her red packet because she is well to do.

Separately dh also gives angpow to his auntie whose family situation is so so.

[jedamum]

Funz:

:? I was told the protocol is the one who is an 'elder' in status and is married has to give ang bao to their 'juniors' who are unmarried. Not suppose to give to your 'elders'. Only exception is your own parents and grandparents. You give as a symbol of filial piety.

yes...we follow this protocol and give ang baos only to unmarried juniors in the same 'generation ranking' ie our junior uncles and aunties, we also did not give any angpows

[concern2]

jedamum:

Funz:

:? I was told the protocol is the one who is an 'elder' in status and is married has to give ang bao to their 'juniors' who are unmarried. Not suppose to give to your 'elders'. Only exception is your own parents and grandparents. You give as a symbol of filial piety.

yes...we follow this protocol and give ang baos only to unmarried juniors in the same 'generation ranking' ie our junior uncles and aunties, we also did not give any angpows

My, this would surely make things less embarrassing. I wonder why my DH's side of the family didn't have similar practice. They're Cantonese. Does that explain the difference in practice?? :?