Worried parents taking children to psychologists

[larkspur]

i think for my son’s case might be a little different. i realise when he does writing, he uses his left hand but when he does other activities like using a spoon, playing, holding ice cream etc, he uses his right hand. i feel he needs to strengthen his left hand

[buds]

insider:

2ppaamm:

What about a parent who knows her kid best, and saw no need for a diagnosis, but was forced by the school who insist they know the kid better, claiming the teacher has got 30 years of teaching thousands of students? And that the child cannot come back until he has seen a psychologist?

If we have such a case of a 'professional' vs another 'professional', then i would say going for an assessment is necessary to hear from a second opinion coz each may have his/her blind spot and both will not agree that he/she is blind.

If the parent refuses an assessment when the school insists, then it is only logical for the parent to withdraw her child coz the school cannot afford to 'risk' their other children in the event that the blind spot lies with the parents and not them.

It is only logical for schools to have some broad-based rules to protect the majority else they may be faced with many parents refusing to comply with this and that and then maybe chaotic.

Perhaps, there should be an 'assessment fund' for parents, so that when schools ask parents to send children for assessments, they will have to co-pay X% of the bill. Then, maybe they will not suka suka ask parents to do such and such. Perhaps this is a fund worth fighting for since not everyone can be like LHY's son to be opt out from mainstream and go intl school...

:goodpost: insider!

[corneyAmber]

larkspur:

i think for my son's case might be a little different. i realise when he does writing, he uses his left hand but when he does other activities like using a spoon, playing, holding ice cream etc, he uses his right hand. i feel he needs to strengthen his left hand

Larkspur, I just recalled something about my child. Instead of getting her to do writing rigorously, I sign her for art classes to do broad strokes work instead. Handwriting is fine motor skills. After doing art for a while, there was improvement in writing and it came much more naturally.

[metz]

larkspur:

i think for my son's case might be a little different. i realise when he does writing, he uses his left hand but when he does other activities like using a spoon, playing, holding ice cream etc, he uses his right hand. i feel he needs to strengthen his left hand

You mentioned your child is a Dec kid, right? Just to share with you - my niece, who is an end-Dec kid, went through similar phases like yours. Not able to write well, can't catch up with the class etc. Her preschool teacher even offered herself to TUTOR her for a fee :slapshead: My sister (FTWM) ignored her and those comments. After all, if my niece were born a few days later, she would be in a N2 class rather than a K1 class. Expectations would be different then.

Well, my niece (P4) is doing fine in school now. (Hmm, not exactly very fine because there has been hints from teachers to send her for some AdHD checking. But she's not a trouble seeker. Anyway, my sister is still sitting on it.)

Go for the assessment and see how your child is doing with respect to kids of his age, ie. other Dec kids. No point checking out if he is meeting the K1 milestones.

Btw, both my kids are left-handed. Well, I'm still working on their handwriting.

[Chenonceau]

chamonix:

In a way, homeschoolers are doing what most parents are doing, teaching and coaching their children minus the stress from schools and exams.

Bingo!

[Chenonceau]

larkspur… don’t you feel so loved… ya got so many Mommies rooting for ya!! Go for it! Do whatever ya have to do!! Yay!!

[larkspur]

chamonix:

larkspur:

i think for my son's case might be a little different. i realise when he does writing, he uses his left hand but when he does other activities like using a spoon, playing, holding ice cream etc, he uses his right hand. i feel he needs to strengthen his left hand

You mentioned your child is a Dec kid, right? Just to share with you - my niece, who is an end-Dec kid, went through similar phases like yours. Not able to write well, can't catch up with the class etc. Her preschool teacher even offered herself to TUTOR her for a fee :slapshead: My sister (FTWM) ignored her and those comments. After all, if my niece were born a few days later, she would be in a N2 class rather than a K1 class. Expectations would be different then.

Well, my niece (P4) is doing fine in school now. (Hmm, not exactly very fine because there has been hints from teachers to send her for some AdHD checking. But she's not a trouble seeker. Anyway, my sister is still sitting on it.)

Go for the assessment and see how your child is doing with respect to kids of his age, ie. other Dec kids. No point checking out if he is meeting the K1 milestones.

Btw, both my kids are left-handed. Well, I'm still working on their handwriting.

Actually my son is a January kid, in fact both my children are January kids and that is why the teachers be it from the childcare or from the enrichment centres, they are wondering why my son couldnt write and whereby my girl can read and write by age of 4. i think to a certain extent they compare him with my girl. But since my girl in p1, now the comparison is with kids his own age. i have also signed him up for Art class to see if drawing can help him. Will also bring him for assessment, i feel i have to do much in order to comfort myself that everything is alright and he will catch up soon. i guess for the older generation they have this thinking that to bring a child for assessement, there must be something wrong with the kid.Guess it is a stigma which need so be changed and that is y for the assessment, i have to keep quiet and told my hubby to bring my son cos i know my mother in law will keep saying nothing wrong with him, dun need to bring him for assessment

[Chenonceau]

larkspur:

Actually my son is a January kid, in fact both my children are January kids and that is why the teachers be it from the childcare or from the enrichment centres, they are wondering why my son couldnt write and whereby my girl can read and write by age of 4. i think to a certain extent they compare him with my girl. But since my girl in p1, now the comparison is with kids his own age. i have also signed him up for Art class to see if drawing can help him. Will also bring him for assessment, i feel i have to do much in order to comfort myself that everything is alright and he will catch up soon. i guess for the older generation they have this thinking that to bring a child for assessement, there must be something wrong with the kid.Guess it is a stigma which need so be changed and that is y for the assessment, i have to keep quiet and told my hubby to bring my son cos i know my mother in law will keep saying nothing wrong with him, dun need to bring him for assessment

You're the Mom... You love him... Love gives wisdom. Do what you have to do and believe in it.

[corneyAmber]

larkspur:

Actually my son is a January kid, in fact both my children are January kids and that is why the teachers be it from the childcare or from the enrichment centres, they are wondering why my son couldnt write and whereby my girl can read and write by age of 4. i think to a certain extent they compare him with my girl. But since my girl in p1, now the comparison is with kids his own age. i have also signed him up for Art class to see if drawing can help him. Will also bring him for assessment, i feel i have to do much in order to comfort myself that everything is alright and he will catch up soon. i guess for the older generation they have this thinking that to bring a child for assessement, there must be something wrong with the kid.Guess it is a stigma which need so be changed and that is y for the assessment, i have to keep quiet and told my hubby to bring my son cos i know my mother in law will keep saying nothing wrong with him, dun need to bring him for assessment

Don't worry too much if it is what others are telling you. Worry only if it is coming from your motherly instinct.

Quick start does not guarantee success in life, slow start does not mean less successful in life. In my family, the first-born boy, my brother, could not speak until age 3-4(that time my inexperienced mum did not even know how to worry since it was her first child and her motherly instinct did not flag a red flag for her ), appeared slow in everything but he was the best academically among my siblings and had the best career eventually.
As mums, the \"simplest\" mission for us is really to understand our children and enjoy the journey with them.

[metz]

ksi:

larkspur:

Actually my son is a January kid, in fact both my children are January kids and that is why the teachers be it from the childcare or from the enrichment centres, they are wondering why my son couldnt write and whereby my girl can read and write by age of 4. i think to a certain extent they compare him with my girl. But since my girl in p1, now the comparison is with kids his own age. i have also signed him up for Art class to see if drawing can help him. Will also bring him for assessment, i feel i have to do much in order to comfort myself that everything is alright and he will catch up soon. i guess for the older generation they have this thinking that to bring a child for assessement, there must be something wrong with the kid.Guess it is a stigma which need so be changed and that is y for the assessment, i have to keep quiet and told my hubby to bring my son cos i know my mother in law will keep saying nothing wrong with him, dun need to bring him for assessment

Don't worry too much if it is what others are telling you. Worry only if it is coming from your motherly instinct.

Quick start does not guarantee success in life, slow start does not mean less successful in life. In my family, the first-born boy, my brother, could not speak until age 3-4(that time my inexperienced mum did not even know how to worry since it was her first child and her motherly instinct did not flag a red flag for her ), appeared slow in everything but he was the best academically among my siblings and had the best career eventually.
As mums, the \"simplest\" mission for us is really to understand our children and enjoy the journey with them.

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