Principal of top school under investigation for hiring prost

[HVR]

phtthp:

who says he's not doing harm except to himself ?


men who visit prostitutes are ... irresponsible husband, irresponsible father.

men like to fantasize, go for hot babe, hot chick. Those chick in high popular demand means many customers had \"shared\" before, likely to catch VD disease. When sleep with wife later, he transmit VD disease to her, poor innocent victim. Once someone in the family catch VD / Aids virus, harmonious family unit is destroyed. wife blame husb for passing VD or Aids to her, children blame father for causing hurt to their poor mother.

I agree with your views. Like the other forumer who posted earlier said, if we cannot control our urge and lust, we are no different from animals.

Can't understand the argument of it is ok to be morally corrupt so long you can do your work professionally. It is like saying my spear is the strongest and can penetrate any shield but at the same time, also say my shield is the strongest and cannot be penetrated by any spear! No man is an island. Our actions, interactions with others bounce to have an effect on other parties one way or the other. More so if you are a principal or a politician.

More people will engage in such activities if the society is acceptance to the view of it is ok to be morally imperfect so long you can function professionally. For a start, there will be more divorces which mean more children will grow up in a broken family without proper guidance. More social issues will be created down the stream like domino effects.... kids join street gangs, drop out from schools, can't find a decent job entering adulthood and become criminal...

Go on, argue that even after divorce so long the father/mother keep up with the maintenance, custody visits, etc and it is ok to divorce. Just like it is ok to be morally unsound but still can work professionally. Be my guest.

[buds]

Err.. the quote above is not from me. :scratchhead:

[magiccastle]

I felt quite sad for the principal n his family.

He was the vice principal of my boy’s school before he become the principal of xx SAP school. I vaguely remembered he conducted the parent’s briefing. He was eloquent n looked promising.He has the manly sporty look which girls will like .

His wife must have gone tho tremendous stress.

Whatever it is, I hope the family can pull though.

[dimsum]

civil activist of a prominent family - anyone knows?

[HVR]

insider:

HVR:

Go on, argue that even after divorce so long the father/mother keep up with the maintenance, custody visits, etc and it is ok to divorce. Just like it is ok to be morally unsound but still can work professionally. Be my guest.

Life is not only about black and white lah. It has many shades of grey.

What's wrong with divorce by the way? Divorce will sure harm kids? Kids in an always violent dual-parent family will definitely be better off than kids in a peaceful single-parent family? It is this old-fashioned thought of some that lead many couples and poor kids in miserable marriages and perhaps one day, one kills another to end the game.

I also don't agree with people who are involved in EMAs are ALL morally unsound...

Again, 清官难断家务事...

Of course if you look at everything individually, it is no big deal. Drug abuse is no big deal, you only harm yourself. Steal from the rich is ok, after all, the rich has excesses. Anyhow litter is no big deal, how much rubish can I generate? But as a whole? Just take the case of drug abuse. It does appear if someone don't treasure his life and want to abuse drug, it is no big deal. However, if we look beyond a drug abuser, it involves drug trafficking, sydicate, pushers, money laundering, etc. We don't have to discuss the social cost of all these examples I cited. I believe you get my point.

We are not robot, our actions reflect our values. Granted that a person who involved in vice, ema, etc might still be able to do his work professionally but I rather don't take chances. I don't know when he will compromise standard and value again for own interest.

[HVR]

insider:

HVR:

Of course if you look at everything individually, it is no big deal. Drug abuse is no big deal, you only harm yourself. Steal from the rich is ok, after all, the rich has excesses. Anyhow litter is no big deal, how much rubish can I generate? But as a whole? Just take the case of drug abuse. It does appear if someone don't treasure his life and want to abuse drug, it is no big deal. However, if we look beyond a drug abuser, it involves drug trafficking, sydicate, pushers, money laundering, etc. We don't have to discuss the social cost of all these examples I cited. I believe you get my point.

emm...your examples cited out of context...

HVR:

We are not robot, our actions reflect our values. Granted that a person who involved in vice, ema, etc might still be able to do his work professionally but I rather don't take chances. I don't know when he will compromise standard and value again for own interest.

Yes, it is a matter of whether people want to 'take chance', just like the same as I am 'taking chance' to still take my male friend who frequents prostitutes as a good friend coz I know he will be there anytime if any of us (childhood friends) needs his help. The 'brotherhood' / 义气 among us got nothing to do with his prostitution...

PS: Offhand, I think I know at least half of dozen of people who are involved in EMAs and only one of them I think is morally unsound while the rest they have their own 'legitimate' reasons to do whatever they are doing. Many times, EMA is just a 'loss of direction' and the straying one (be it wife or husband) will return in time...

It is 2 different things. I wouldn't abandon my friend too if he is guilty of ema or visit prostitutes. But that doesn't mean ema or visiting prostitutes is no big deal or a right thing to do. Sometimes, we simply justifying and rationalising somethings which we clearly know is wrong. Period.

[WeiHan]

Prostituion cannot be compared to drug abuse. Otherwise, prostituion would have been banned by law. In fact, modern research proves that the social cost is lower if prostitution is legalised than to have it remain underground. That is the reason why it was legalised. Drug abuse cannot be legalised because it can harm lives just like motorists are against the law if they don’t wear helmets.

[Zhuge]

Way2GO:

Top 2 men in Home Affairs both ex SJI boys.

New brooms cleaning hse?
d probe beginning with d 2 HODs r widening n netting more.
Can only be good for d Civil Service to clean it up.

wrong info...not sji..

[kiddo]

insider:

Chanced upon this news and find relevant for the 'discussion'...

I have a friend who behaves like the woman mentioned below (but she only goes for younger (not underaged) men whom she will wine and dine). I believe she has some psychological disorder (due to childhood trauma) that she doesn't admit and refuse to fix...
High flyer at work but becomes 'maniser' at night. 'Intelligent' woman who will never play with people she knows...

PS:
Many people look 'normal' on the surface with the true face only they know themselves...

Life should be very simple if only we look harder,
Our discontentment and disappointment in life
can quickly turn us into a person we wish we are not
But we need this \"fix\" to maintain our sanity.
How sad .......insider :gloomy:
But such is life...does'nt mean we dont meet
them it does not exist...
Many of us live double life...
We wish we could be just our plain self..
May be its a coping mechanism
Watever divine or Saintly you may believe in.
I think this is the better of the options in
coping these days and age.....

May all of us be happy :hugs: :hi5:

[Angelight]

The principal’s identity (with pix included) already exposed in another forum. Think it would be hard for him to return to the education sector. An educator, what more a head of school, is expected to uphold a higher moral standard, so no school would want to hire him again.


With these recent sexual crimes involving educators, hopefully MOE will be more stringent in its selection of teachers and principals. Then again, if a person is careful to hide his/her sexual secrets, it’s hard for others to assess them.