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[helplessmum3]

what i can do now ?


send him to speech therapy while waiting for phsycology to check on my son?

what else should i do? time is running i very scare . i can’t eat i can’t sleep , and i keep blaming myself to bring tis to my child.

[mashy]

Helplessmum

Think what u can do now is simply talk to him more and play with him. My son is also like yours. He can self entertain and he reads by himself when he was 3+.

Don’t let guilt get in the way. Nothing beats having personal contact. No matter how much therapies or with a label, it won’t help him unless u make the contact with him. Spend some time with him everyday. Send him to sch.

Do u have another kid? My son got a lot better after I have my younger gal. They now talk and play with each other.

[helplessmum3]

hi mashy


he is my only son, i very scare to have another one… i can’t face him long, i will breakdown into tears if he dun response to me…

im a working mum, after works i have a lot of chores too…

[mashy]

Helplessmum


Then maybe u should get help. Like a part timer to do the chores.

Having a second one helps. They entertain each other. If he is the only one, u will have to find more ways to get him to interact. My no 2 is totally unlike no 1. She is chatty and talks all day long.

I understand how frustrating it is coz my boy also never respond to me in his younger days. He even refused to let me hold him or hug him. It took a lot of rejections before I got accepted and now he will hug me readily. My boy didn’t talk till 2.5 yrs old either. When he was 2, I sent him to a daily playgroup becoz he was too much on his own.

I think there will come a point when u will probably question yourself what is important to you. I gather that u are very worried about your son. I know of many super moms who work, handle household chores themselves, cook dinners and take care of their kids. I’m not asking u to be like them. I can’t either. But some things will have to give. Like washing once a week, leave some chores undone. It’s more important that u spend the time with your son, rather than doing those chores. Get some games that u can play together. I know some pp like us don’t really know how to play with kids. Games help. Like whack the aliens, fishing, hang the monkeys etc. it’s fun for them and they learn to take turns too. At the same time, u can talk to each other. Do some pretend play. That’s essential for their dev too.

[cherrygal]

If you don’t have time or the interest to entertain one kid, then please don’t have another one. Having a sibling may or may not dig him out of his shell. But having the second one means you have one more kid to bring up. For pple who don’t really like kids or cannot manage, please, do not have more children.


He can have his social interaction at the childcare or with his cousins. The best people to interact with him are the parents, grandparents etc.

2.5yo like to talk to themselves (actually it’s imaginary play). Not sure how bad is the head shaking you described, but my 2yo gal talks to the Barney doll like a friend and sings the rhymes on her own too. I find that very cute. She tip toes occasionally but walks perfectly fine with shoes. I tell her she tends to fall down if she tip toes so she has stopped doing it. Don’t just tell him not to tip toe. You must explain why he shouldn’t. Spinning around could be a form of dancing to them.

There is no need to get worried if he is responding when spoken to, handles school well etc. Talk to his teachers to get their feel. They are experienced with kids and will know if his behaviour is normal or not.

2ppaamm, we will miss you!

[ImMeeMee]

helplessmum3:

what i can do now ?


send him to speech therapy while waiting for phsycology to check on my son?

what else should i do? time is running i very scare . i can't eat i can't sleep , and i keep blaming myself to bring tis to my child.

helplessmum3, we sent our dd3 to speech therapy after my paeds saw her and suspected something amiss. this was before the psychology assessment to confirm the diagnosis. but our daughter was 3 yo when this happened and she was non-verbal even at 3.

try to take one step at a time, it can be quite scary and overwhelming if you start thinking of the overall picture, but focus on that next one step, take that step and slowly you will move on. it is only natural that we all blame ourselves, but at the same time, you must tell yourself to move on, for the sake of your child.

hope this helps.

[helplessmum3]

Mashy, cherry gal, immeenee,


What will the physiology do during assessment ?

[helplessmum3]

Mashy,

Yr son now interact with u? What dose he usually say to you?

[helplessmum3]

I’m working mum and part time studying too…

[cherrygal]

I am sure you can find some time after work to play with the kid. Sing songs together since he likes to sing. One child psychologist on a TV show suggested singing out the questions to a kid who doesn’t want to talk and getting him to reply by singing. She recommended lots of play time together to encourage response.


I buy my gal strawberry shortcake toys and play houses and we play together like I am a kid. She could chatter away since young as we (parents, grandparents, sibling etc) kept talking to her every day. Stimulation is very important.

You still have time, so spend more time with him now. You can buy him 100pc megabloks and build together with him. With play, you can teach many things and discuss with your kid how to build animals, buildings etc.

You should also read him books every night before sleep. It helps in the bonding. My gal looks forward to that and would not have anyone else do the reading.

Dun cook, get other pple to do the chores. Take away the iphone, ipad etc. These things only serve to distract and don’t really serve any purpose.