Lazy & Low Attention Span Kid

[Littlefly]

Glad to chance upon this thread. My boy has also been labelled as such last year by his teachers in N2 but he's very focused when he is at play or watching his favourite shows so they rule out ADD.


The other day he was on MC at home, skip his usual afternoon nap time and chiong his scooter all afternoon. When I ask him to quiet down to practice writing, he got stung by sleep bug and went straight to zzz. :snooze:

I super like this !

chic_savvy:

Cherry gal, you are right, my time (or our time), there were no excuses or reasons for a child when they behaved lazy. Work not done, :spank: ! Now even being \"lazy\" can be labelled as a disorder.

[MrsSeah]

My girl & boy is also like that.


What I do is to set a timing for them. Eg. By latest what time must bath and brush teeth. If they didn’t do it at the timing I set, punishment will come. For my kids, I will take away their game for few days. This is enough to scare them and make them discipline. Now I save lots of headache screaming at them.

[Happyfate]

My P2 girl also the same

[woshistarfish]

chic_savvy:

When it comes to showering or even brushing her teeth, she would either take her shower very very late or forgets about brushing her teeth! I had to chase and remind her almost all the time! I really don't know what to do with her now as recently, I have also blew my top more often because of these. Tell me what I should do parents, I am at my end wits. :stupid:

Hi there, I had the same trouble with my 4-year-old son when it comes to brushing his teeth and getting him to bathe.

At such a young age, I would think he's just starting to have a mind of his own so I try my best not to lose patience when he resists listening to me.

Then, I adopted to showing him the 'consequences' of NOT following my instructions. Like my husband had a bad tooth extracted so I showed him the extracted tooth with a big black hole.. I saw great horror on his face as I explained the reason of the black hole, not brushing his teeth before meals, in the morning and night etc. haha. And I took a foul-smelling t-shirt soak in prespiration for him to smell and explain that's what a person would smell like if he/she doesn't bathe for long.

This method works really well for me, at least for now. So every morning, the first thing he does is brush his teeth and he hardly resist a bath/shower ever again.

Just a suggestion.. then again, I'm dealing with a kid much younger.. do hope u share what works when u see a change in your daughter!

[Skool of Happiness]

Brownbear:

My p2 boy is also slow and forgetful. And he is not independent and confident so always not sure what to do, when to do etc etc. How can I train him to be more focus and more confident? I find out I am always sitting next to him while he was doing homework at home. When I step out of him room, he will call me within 1 min 'Mummy, how to do this qs?' Really driving me nuts.


His big brother (sec 1) is a nightmare. He is having this 'can't be bothered' attitude right now. Marks are going all the way to the south and despite endless conversation with him, we don't see any improvements. How to talk/understand a teenager and motivate and encourage him? How to tolerate his mood swing and disrespectful and rebellious stage? Or must I wait till he is 'awake' so he will work hard? Some friends told me their kids only woke up b4 O-level, wow, how many more stressful years for me to go?

Having kids really is life long journey as I find myself learning something new (good & bad) everyday!

Actually, what you mentioned is quite a common issue amongst parents. The bad news is, motivation often involves emotional issues and is hence more complex to address. The good news is, it is actually possible to increase your child’s intrinsic motivation by identifying and removing mental-emotional barriers (sometimes conscious, sometimes unconscious), and improving self-leadership and resilience.

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[redjazzy]

I have no solution for u

I am in the same shoe or perhaps a worse shoe than u

My 9yo resume has gone south too
His attitude towards work is also getting fr bad to worse
He is very sensitive n tends to
Compare how I treat his bros vs how I treat him.
He talks back n purposely do The opposite
He can't focus in Sch n worse at home
He has no urgency (work , eat, brush teeth etc)
And yes, he is only motivated when it comes to play
Everyday I
Boiling n BP shooting up
I find it hard o love him
Now
I turn very stern when I speak w him n he will start to be annoyed

I dunno
What to
Do
His privatr tutors gave up on him

His twin bro is autistic
Could he have Add too

[Brownbear]

Actually, what you mentioned is quite a common issue amongst parents. The bad news is, motivation often involves emotional issues and is hence more complex to address. The good news is, it is actually possible to increase your child’s intrinsic motivation by identifying and removing mental-emotional barriers (sometimes conscious, sometimes unconscious), and improving self-leadership and resilience.


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Thanks for the advice.

I understand all kids will go thru difficult stages, just some early and some later, and some very mild and some can be quite a headache to handle.

I try not to compare my two sons as I believe they have their own characters and their own strength and weakness. I accept who they are but of course, will nag/punish of their wrong doings.

I find out maybe I focus too much on their academic and neglect their character building and bonding etc. So I will try to balance it and build up their confidence and self-esteem.

[chic_savvy]

Actually, apart from my 8 year old daughter, I also have a 4 yr old son. I have tried this \"scaring\" method before at them but I would use the Google images instead to scare them off lol Such as horrible tooth decays images and stuffs.


There was one time last year, my gal 7 yr old then, for a period of time told me that she didn't want to be fat and always squeaked at the sight of food. I kinda freaked out becos at this age??? And it must have came from her school peers a.k.a \"winx club girls\" *roll eyes* to compete looking \"polished.\" Though I was quite mad but I had to educate her nicely. So I explained to her about eating wisely to look good and showed her anorexic pictures from the internet. That freaked her out lmao!

woshistarfish:

chic_savvy:

When it comes to showering or even brushing her teeth, she would either take her shower very very late or forgets about brushing her teeth! I had to chase and remind her almost all the time! I really don't know what to do with her now as recently, I have also blew my top more often because of these. Tell me what I should do parents, I am at my end wits. :stupid:

Hi there, I had the same trouble with my 4-year-old son when it comes to brushing his teeth and getting him to bathe.

At such a young age, I would think he's just starting to have a mind of his own so I try my best not to lose patience when he resists listening to me.

Then, I adopted to showing him the 'consequences' of NOT following my instructions. Like my husband had a bad tooth extracted so I showed him the extracted tooth with a big black hole.. I saw great horror on his face as I explained the reason of the black hole, not brushing his teeth before meals, in the morning and night etc. haha. And I took a foul-smelling t-shirt soak in prespiration for him to smell and explain that's what a person would smell like if he/she doesn't bathe for long.

This method works really well for me, at least for now. So every morning, the first thing he does is brush his teeth and he hardly resist a bath/shower ever again.

Just a suggestion.. then again, I'm dealing with a kid much younger.. do hope u share what works when u see a change in your daughter!

[chic_savvy]

Oh dear, please don't fret and give up. I know its easier to say than done but don't give up. Your kids need your support. I kinda feel you. I dunno why when I deal with other children (special needs) I could give all the patience in the world to assist them but to my own kids (who are normal), I just could not solve these petty problems myself.

redjazzy:

I have no solution for u
I am in the same shoe or perhaps a worse shoe than u

My 9yo resume has gone south too
His attitude towards work is also getting fr bad to worse
He is very sensitive n tends to
Compare how I treat his bros vs how I treat him.
He talks back n purposely do The opposite
He can't focus in Sch n worse at home
He has no urgency (work , eat, brush teeth etc)
And yes, he is only motivated when it comes to play
Everyday I
Boiling n BP shooting up
I find it hard o love him
Now
I turn very stern when I speak w him n he will start to be annoyed

I dunno
What to
Do
His privatr tutors gave up on him

His twin bro is autistic
Could he have Add too

[chic_savvy]

I am feeling stressed up again. My gal did the \"I forget\" and \"I don't know where my...\" It's making me mad fire! She was punished for writing lines, given some assessment work during her school holidays but all these were not complete. I got so mad with her, for the first time, I said \"carry on with this behavior, *I blurted out* \"You're hopeless!\" Slap me parents cos I know its so wrong to mention words like that. I mean, I've always believe negative words will hurt a child's esteem and I don't even say shut up (just keep quiet!) to my children but this time I really lost it. And out of desperation to find out why she is behaving like that, I looked into the possibility of ADHD. I read one of the subtypes of ADHD that is ADD or ADHD-I/PI (predominantly inattentive) symptoms suit her characteristics very much. Well except for losing focus in play but pretty much everything falls into place. I haven't ask her teacher in school if they notice any \"lagging\" behavior but the last time I heard and with her last year's feedback, she was well-behaved and usually quiet but plays well with her peers. ADHD-I symptoms have to be constant at home, in school and anywhere. If it only happens at home, then what is it? deviant behavior? or I'm already starting to find excuses for her behavior :stupid: *berserk* Perhaps I should really get her tested..


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The following symptoms are common indicators of ADD in children:

Difficulty keeping attention on work or play activities at school and at home
Losing or forgetting things like toys, pencils, books, or tools needed for a task
Avoids or dislikes activities that require sitting still or a sustained effort
Seems disorganized and doesn't pay close attention to details
Has trouble with tasks that require planning ahead
Forgets things and is easily distracted
Does not follow directions or finish tasks, often skipping from one uncompleted activity to another
Does not appear to be listening when someone is speaking
Does not pay attention and makes careless mistakes
Is forgetful about daily activities
Has a tendency to daydream
Becomes easily distracted by irrelevant sights and sounds
Rarely follows instructions carefully and completely
Throws temper tantrums

To help recognize ADD, some of the symptoms that cause impairment must:

Be present before seven years of age
Be present consistently for a period of six months

Above all, the behaviors must severely compromise at least two areas of a child's life, such as school, home, or social settings. (click link above to read the whole article)