Should We Label Kids as 'Stupid' and 'Blur Sotong'?

[all.013398in.013398one]

Sigh... We have to put up with such nonsense which manifest and is everywhere! :x

Constantly, I have to look out for these bad language invading my girl
since K2. Luckily the teachers were very strict about it and pupils will
be warned or punished for using such \"S\" words.
Now, in her P1 class, her form teacher is also very particular about
such misbehaviour. So I am lucky again that someone is looking after
my child's mental well being.

Conclusion: Find your child a school thats has strong character building
initiatives as one of their top priorities. And monitor your child closely
to rid them of any contamination.

[skunk]

tutormum:

regretted the way she treated her children based on their academic performance/perceived intelligence. :roll:

but when they grow up, they will be treated based on their academic performance/perceived intelligence, won't they?

When we hand over our resume to our prospective employers, or when dealing with a superior at work, it's all about perception, isn't it?

I'm not saying it's good to be called stupid, or to go around calling others stupid, but the mouth belongs to others, they have a right to say what they want...including parents too...if a child is so easily influenced by what others say, i think the child's mental/emotional strength should be the question. We can't silence the world.

It's better and easier to bring up a strong child, than try to change the way others behave...don't you think?

[skunk]

all.in.one:

And monitor your child closely

to rid them of any contamination.

wah then i think maybe u can try buying a private island and living there LOL

[all.013398in.013398one]

skunk:

all.in.one:

And monitor your child closely

to rid them of any contamination.

wah then i think maybe u can try buying a private island and living there LOL

hahahaaaa... If I can, I will invite all the KSPs to come stay with us :lol:

[tankee]

I agree that we should use such words on our children. There is no stupid children, only stupid adults that failed to realise the potential in them and teach them right.


Marine Terrace’s schools are good school, sad to learn that there is a rotten apple.

My DS child care centre teachers actually forbid the children to use such words. I learnt about this when I was scolding myself "stupid" over my indeed stupid mistake, my DS heard and said … "oooo you say the S word, teacher say cannot use that word …"

[skunk]

I think SG is doomed at the rate this goes LOL


our kids will be so weak and molly-coodled that they cannot take criticism, whether fair or unfair.

I can imagine in 20 years’ time, more ppl jumping off buildings just because their boss say they made a stupid mistake LOL

oh well, as for my children, if they indeed have made a stupid mistake, or they were a "blur sotong", i will not mince my words with them. Feel hurt? Too bad, then don’t make the stupid mistake and don’t be blur!!!

[tutormum]

skunk:

I think SG is doomed at the rate this goes LOL


our kids will be so weak and molly-coodled that they cannot take criticism, whether fair or unfair.

I can imagine in 20 years' time, more ppl jumping off buildings just because their boss say they made a stupid mistake LOL

oh well, as for my children, if they indeed have made a stupid mistake, or they were a \"blur sotong\", i will not mince my words with them. Feel hurt? Too bad, then don't make the stupid mistake and don't be blur!!!

The problem here is not a one off remark based on their mistakes. I agree that children have to learn to live with criticism, whether fair or unfair. However, the question is \"Do you constantly subject your child to such derogatory remarks or harsh treatment?\" Parents are supposed to be the ones to protect their children. If your child can't depend on you for emotional support and protection, who can else can they look up to? My student's mother was so harsh with her that she was constantly at the receiving end of her mother's biased attitude. Her only sin was not doing well academically. When she got into an argument with her elder sister, her mother would gave her a tight slap without finding out who was at fault. Whatever it was, she's got no right to argue with her sister. If her younger brother cry, she would get beaten through no fault of hers. Her mother's reason? She didn't take care of her brother. She literally lived in fear of her mother. In fact, when her parents divorce, she was over the moon when her mother left the house. However, this girl is so sweet that over the years, not only she did not bear any grudges against her mother, she's the one her mother could rely on, choosing to forget how badly her mother had treated her. Imagine what will happen if she's bitter.
How we treat our children will come back and haunt us when we grow old. Frankly, after having worked with children and their parents for about 30 years, I've seen many sad cases and don't pity those parents whose children chose to abandon them in their old age. There were children from dysfunction families whose parents were too selfish in pursuing their own happiness and left them in foster care. There were families with mothers singlehandedly brought up the children while their fathers gambled or fooled around. There were mothers who cared more for themselves than their children' well-being. There were parents especially mothers who showed favouritism and their children grew up refusing to take care of them cos the one least favoured felt it fair that the most favoured should bear that responsibility. :rant: As tankee has stated, these are the stupid adults who did not bring up their children right and should blame nobody but themselves when their children grow up and turn their back on them. :roll:

[skunk]

tutormum:

However, the question is \"Do you constantly subject your child to such derogatory remarks or harsh treatment?\"

I know what u r trying to say and i agree with you, but if u read the thread-starter's first post, as well as many other posts on the first page, you will realise that many are against even scolding their children once \"stupid\", even when sometimes, our children and ourselves (indeed, all of mankind?) are capable of very stupid deeds and deserve a good scolding LOL

Such as the \"banning\" of the use of such words at home and in school. Certainly very different ideas from what u and i are saying.

Yes, we should be the emotional support of our children, but when they do something stupid, we should be the first ones to say so too, not just give a mere slap on the wrist or a consoling pat on the back.

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tutormum:

How we treat our children will come back and haunt us when we grow old.

In the example you quoted, yes, indeed the mother is too much. However i have something to say about this sentence you quoted.

For me, personally, I don't care how my children will treat me when i'm old. My philosophy in life is to treat people unilaterally. I will love my children unconditionally, however, they don't have to love me. It will be good if they love me, if they don't, seriously, I couldn't care less.

Parenthood is not trying to win a popularity contest with your children. If i have to say something or do something that will make them hate me, but in my opinion is necessary or good for them, so be it.

Not saying others should also live like this, but that's the way i am. I live for my children, but they don't have to live for me, thus i really don't care whether they choose to love me or hate me

[BerriMore1]

It is so sad that when the kid gets into the adult world , they will be exposed more of these..

There are White collar executives, wearing nice suits and ties when closed door behind, they swear like noone else business. These are also seen in the movie.

How do you train our kid, or shall I say prepare them when they enter into the real world, they will face these Eventhough they dont speak it?