Club SAHM
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Hubby won't use the word 'useless' on me。 吃了豹子胆？
But I've a strong suspicion that he is half thinking it... kay, I'm really not a very domestic person & I absolutely hate doing house chores! It's just unfortunate house chores is part of the job description of SAHM.
When kids were much younger, it was much more fun. I could cuddle and super glue to them every day and hubby could tell I'm nurturing them lots. I have a good excuse so he didn't mind my half hearted effort in doing house chores.
Now there's mundance stuff like sending & fetching, nagging them on homework. It's not very fun. And instead of super gluing to kids, I super glue to my laptop now. Still not stepping up on the house chores. My bad :skeptical:
I was just testing water the other day when I casually mentioned perhaps I should return to work next year. He was so quick to reply he is supportive :mad: Wrong answer! -
Sleepy,
my hubby will have the same reaction as yours if I said to go back to work.
I did part time before I quit. Best of both worlds but very tedious cos I dislike not being able to commit 100% to my responsibilities. I don’t want to be a lousy mom nor a lousy employee. When I was ftwp, sometimes, my kid sick coincides with important meetings. To me, attending meetings r more impt cos the sick child can have the comfort from his granny while my boss relied n paid me to prepare for that impt meeting. But my husband n in laws don’t think the same. Cos i am the mum, I am expected to drop my work responsibilities at a phone call from them to rush home. N I hate that. At that time I was second fiddle to almost everything - husband’s work more impt than mine, at home granny aka kid’s caregiver’s opinion more impt than mine. Sian. Now being a sahm, I am biggest at my home. Most kids n home matters under my purview.
Cos I did not initially opt to be a sahm by choice, I had told dh that he cannot expectme to go back to work now at a drop of a hat. It has to be my choice. -
Www:
My hb not even dare to say this kind of hurtful words as he had experience of being 3hrs SAHD=stay at home dad when I need to go out for marketing. After the experience, he :salute: me that I can tahan the kids and endless chores without any helper.
Starting to feel \"useless\". So what will you do if says this word?buds:
To the husband who even dare use the word \"useless\"...
He's fortunate to still be alive to tell it. :mad:
The only time got appreciated by husband is when boy falls sick and need me to be available to pick from cc and keep at home (MC) for a few days on and off. :sad:
I hv been SAHM for a yr and very sure that none of the jobs out there are tougher than SAHM. We do not get any rest unless after bb goes to bed or older ones go to school. We are stressed in terms of physically (endless chores) and mentally (coaching the kid's school works). No extra $$for working OT and bonuses at end of the yr. The only \"bonuses\" we will hv is the stronger bonding with our kids. :rahrah: all SAHMs -
BeContented:
f. Wah, you eat until fat fat, must be enjoying yourself everyday. Good life hor (SAHM cannot be fat is it?!?! :stompfeet: )[/quote]g. housewife will fall sick one meh? you all always stay at home. :frustrated:
agree with you. As SAHM, I often hear remarks like:pinky:
[quote=\"Www\"]As I am SAHM, husband expect me to do tasks he don't want to do sometime, if not he says I am useless.
I think I am unappreciated at times.
a. wah, you so good life, no boss to boss you around :roll:
b. you're a tai tai mah, everyday shop and go high tea :skeptical:
c. you so free, can run errands for anybody (esp family and in laws) :stompfeet:
d. seriously, do you know what is happening around the world now? :frustrated: do you keep yourself updated? :roll:
e. we are not contributing to the economy :nunchuk: :spank:
care to add more 'remarks' ?
i've been a sahm since my #1 and still am one. My #1 already in sec sch. sigh. old already. -
Udon:
yes brisk walking good. i also swim when my kids having swimming lesson. kill 2 birds with 1 stone.sleepy:
Any SAHMs who exercise regularly?
Where do you go for your exercise? ladies gym? dance classes?
I've put on many kilos over the last one year due to slower metabolism rate. Now even heavier than when I was several months pregnant. Guess my good luck ran out after all, used to be couch potato & still slim slim. Now drink water also grow fat!
Seriously need to kickstart my exercise routine :nailbite:
Go brisk walking alternate day....it helps...:))
Must make yourself looks good....
also eat less sweet and carbo stuff. -
jedamum:
I doubt I will ever return to work. I've been home for 9 years! How to adapt to working in office again? My pace of life is only 30% of a typical ftwm, I cannot 'chiong' anymoreSleepy,
my hubby will have the same reaction as yours if I said to go back to work. I had told dh that he cannot expectme to go back to work now at a drop of a hat. It has to be my choice.
Furthermore, I never feel bored at home. When kids in school, I've a ball time slipping coffee & reading manga. And now I intend to pick up exercising again, so there's plenty to keep me occupied. I even teased hubby maybe I can 交个小男友 (I'm joking, joking!) but he's also quick to 'warn' me he is working from home 50% of the time :rotflmao:
Agreed with you, I'm the empress at home too :evil:
That's why I'm :mad: that he's supportive if I return to work. Trying to 过河拆桥 when kids become independent? -
sleepy:
yes! This is how I feel too! :mad:
Trying to 过河拆桥 when kids become independent?jedamum:
Sleepy,
my hubby will have the same reaction as yours if I said to go back to work. I had told dh that he cannot expectme to go back to work now at a drop of a hat. It has to be my choice. -
zeemimi:
yes brisk walking good. i also swim when my kids having swimming lesson. kill 2 birds with 1 stone.Udon:
[quote=\"sleepy\"]Any SAHMs who exercise regularly?
Where do you go for your exercise? ladies gym? dance classes?
Seriously need to kickstart my exercise routine :nailbite:
Go brisk walking alternate day....it helps...:))
Must make yourself looks good....
also eat less sweet and carbo stuff.[/quote]
How about pilates?
Anyone tried before?
Already very careful with my diet. Only steam dishes & porridge. Still growing sideway
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jedamum:
yes! This is how I feel too! :mad:[/quote]Me too !!
Trying to 过河拆桥 when kids become independent?sleepy:
[quote=\"jedamum\"]Sleepy,
my hubby will have the same reaction as yours if I said to go back to work. I had told dh that he cannot expectme to go back to work now at a drop of a hat. It has to be my choice. -
jedamum:
I hate it when I get comments like 'so good, no need to work'. Sometimes, I will shoot a reply like, 'you can do that too, what's holding you?' :evil:
I doubt I will ever return to work. I've been home for 9 years! How to adapt to working in office again? My pace of life is only 30% of a typical ftwm, I cannot 'chiong' anymore
Agreed with you, I'm the empress at home too :evil:
Of course some women want to stay in condo, drive big fanciful cars, go to US/Europe for holidays and hubby cannot maintain that lifestyle on a single salary, then they have to work lor.
Hubby said I've 'retired' for the past 13 years. How can i impossibly work when I'm so used to being an empress at home ? HeHeHe.
I watch YouTube, download songs, blast the iPhone music. The house is all mine. Do housework with music playing in background. So shiok. Of late, I've been listening to lots of Nicky Wu songs. My latest craze :love:
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