All About Autism

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helplessmum3:

so glad most of you at least have one normal child. for me this is my first. And i duno i have the courage to have another one... worried will have ASD too..

Actually I am now expecting my no 3. Yes there is a tendency getting another ASD child again, however the odds are lower. Doc say its abt 5% of getting ASD and 25% of other developmental issue (like ADHD etc).

However its because of our love of my ASD boy and my no 2, we decided to try no 3. Firstly my ASD will have 1 more companion. Secondly, we dont want our no 2 too feel too burden when he grows up, imagine he has a ASD elder brother and aging parents?

If heaven were really to give me another ASD child, I am also willing to take up the challenges as I know what to expect and how to help the child as well.

Nothing will take away the love I have for my children. Motherhood is the most wonderful thing and its really the only time you experience unconditional love.

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chibi:

it is a big step for her in my opinion.
but , haha the only rant is , she actually told me \" mummy, u bought for my buddies, but how about me? can i have one too? \" :stupid:

This is sooo sweet and cute. I am really looking forward to my turn of having such experiences.

Actually I feel my ASD kid is very sensible and lovable boy and very sensitive to how we feel. Although he doesn't show much affection but I can tell he loves us very much.

I think its a barrier around his mind that disallow him to express himself and that is the barrier that he need to overcome.

[chibi]

congrats nugget :congrats:

hehe .
i was contemplating having # 3 too, but my ds2 is only slightly over 1 yr old. then my hubby was telling me when i told him i want a 3rd one \" oh you must be in love with looking like a panda??\" :spank:
guess that has to wait .

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nugget:

Does your daughter still attend any therapy now? Was she in EIPIC or seeing any therapist last time? I think 10 years ago, the awareness of ASD is not there yet right? Also not much EIPIC centre.

She does not go for regular therapy sessions now. It is quite difficult to arrange as her secondary school schedule is irregular and hectic. Also, think she has been to more than enough therapy sessions when she was younger, so don't want to subject her to anymore.

Instead, I will arrange for her to meet her educational psychologist, whom she has seen for the past 4 years, during the school hols.. Maybe only 2-3 sessions a year, just to touch base. Occasionally, there can be group sessions with her other asd friends, who are of similar age group for social skills. We call it friendship class. This is important, as it is a support group for them to let out steam, and to assure each other that they are not alone in their struggles. It's also a support system for us moms too.

That's why I mentioned earlier that social skills class is important when they are slightly older, like in their early teens. This the stage they get all hormonal, moody and full of angst. The social skills class helps them to decipher and decode the social dynamics amongst teens. That was another headache to survive from.

The last time she attended regular therapy was OT during PSLE year. That was to help her to manage the stress level. And my stress level too. I remembered that it took me 6 months to recover from the stress, even tho psle ended in early Oct. After that, it was the stress worrying about the results. To cope, I was into retail therapy. Nothing expensive, mind u. Cannot afford too. Ended up going to the supermarket buying all these inane household stuff, can food. And for clothes, I have so many white tees and other smaller priced items - like undies.... :oops: It was my way of dealing with the stress.

Don't think we had eipic before. More than a decade back, asd was unheard of. So.... was even more scary and emotionally draining as didn't know what to expect. I had to buy books from amazon.com to read up more and also books on intervention skills - like social skills and aba to help my child. Was also working full-time back then. So it was insane!! Think i was a monster mommy on most days :oops:

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nugget:

helplessmum3:

so glad most of you at least have one normal child. for me this is my first. And i duno i have the courage to have another one... worried will have ASD too..

Actually I am now expecting my no 3.

:rahrah: :rahrah: :congrats: :rahrah: :rahrah:

That's fantastic news, nugget. Don't worry and think too much. Enjoy the pregnancy. Every child is a gift and a blessing. :love:

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helplessmum3:

Any idea in Singapore record any ASD make it to nus or ntu?

There are definitely ASD kids who make it to the universities. Just that we don't have the necessary statistics.

For high functioning kids, they are very bright. I personally know of 2 kids whose PSLE T score is 250. One is gifted in music and the other in drama.

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nugget:

helplessmum3:

so glad most of you at least have one normal child. for me this is my first. And i duno i have the courage to have another one... worried will have ASD too..

Actually I am now expecting my no 3. Yes there is a tendency getting another ASD child again, however the odds are lower. Doc say its abt 5% of getting ASD and 25% of other developmental issue (like ADHD etc).

However its because of our love of my ASD boy and my no 2, we decided to try no 3. Firstly my ASD will have 1 more companion. Secondly, we dont want our no 2 too feel too burden when he grows up, imagine he has a ASD elder brother and aging parents?

If heaven were really to give me another ASD child, I am also willing to take up the challenges as I know what to expect and how to help the child as well.

Nothing will take away the love I have for my children. Motherhood is the most wonderful thing and its really the only time you experience unconditional love.

Thanks for replying me such blunt comments.

It's been a month now since my son was clinically diagnosis of potential ASD. My self n my hub have put much effort to improve him.

Just one month my son has improved so much that we din expect to be. Last time he only know how to pull my hand near the cookies and say I wan cookies. Now he will just simply ask from me without pulling me to the cookies where it's store. Now he also know what the word WHERE means n ask me where is his toy. He is more interested in human now rather then objects

These he learn from us. Not Leo Megan. At Leo Magen they only teach him one words asking that all. That y I dropped it.

Parents teaching are more effective but if k find good therapist join force will really speed up.

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chibi:

congrats nugget :congrats:

hehe .
i was contemplating having # 3 too, but my ds2 is only slightly over 1 yr old. then my hubby was telling me when i told him i want a 3rd one \" oh you must be in love with looking like a panda??\" :spank:
guess that has to wait .

Thanks chibi!
I just hope my #3 will be healthy physically and mentally. I have been really careful in my pregnancy. Careful in what I eat, where I go and what I do. Super pantang too.

Pray hard everything gonne be fine

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nugget:

Don't think we had eipic before. More than a decade back, asd was unheard of. So.... was even more scary and emotionally draining as didn't know what to expect. I had to buy books from amazon.com to read up more and also books on intervention skills - like social skills and aba to help my child. Was also working full-time back then. So it was insane!! Think i was a monster mommy on most days :oops:

:grphug: :snuggles:

*Big hugz* and *big pat* to you. You have really come a long way.

Its already very scary for me now even with all the EIPIC and awareness. It must have been worse for you.

Yes the psychologist did mention about the social class at later stage. They will meet us early for an review and advise the next course of action / therapy for my kid.

yes, we need to destress a bit else we go insane. I will go out with my hubby to destress while my parents look after my kids. But next time with no 3, I dun think I can already. haa haa. Maybe try online retail therapy

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helplessmum3:

Thanks for replying me such blunt comments.

It's been a month now since my son was clinically diagnosis of potential ASD. My self n my hub have put much effort to improve him.

Just one month my son has improved so much that we din expect to be. Last time he only know how to pull my hand near the cookies and say I wan cookies. Now he will just simply ask from me without pulling me to the cookies where it's store. Now he also know what the word WHERE means n ask me where is his toy. He is more interested in human now rather then objects

These he learn from us. Not Leo Megan. At Leo Magen they only teach him one words asking that all. That y I dropped it.

Parents teaching are more effective but if k find good therapist join force will really speed up.

Take it slow my dear. You are doing a great job and already seeing improvements