HOW TO MOTIVATE MY GIRL TO PUT IN MORE EFFORT IN HER STUDIES

[rooneyzeus]

Hi Schwepps, I would like to suggest you to try some other way of motivating instead of telling your daughter that you will buy her something if she performs well. You could try this same thing the other way round. You should tell her that she needs to study otherwise when she grows up she will have difficulties in buying things or something like this. You must try to reason with her practically like a grown up. I am sure she will see your point.


And by giving her what she wants in return of good grades could be wrong as she might start to believe that she will be given something only when she does something right. I am not asking you to spoil her by showering her with whatever she wants but she should understand that she is important for you and you as a mom are only thinking what is right for her. Do something that makes her feel that studying is her responsibility. Hope this works for you. :xedfingers:

[fightingmom]

rooneyzeus:

Hi Schwepps, I would like to suggest you to try some other way of motivating instead of telling your daughter that you will buy her something if she performs well. You could try this same thing the other way round. You should tell her that she needs to study otherwise when she grows up she will have difficulties in buying things or something like this. You must try to reason with her practically like a grown up. I am sure she will see your point.


And by giving her what she wants in return of good grades could be wrong as she might start to believe that she will be given something only when she does something right. I am not asking you to spoil her by showering her with whatever she wants but she should understand that she is important for you and you as a mom are only thinking what is right for her. Do something that makes her feel that studying is her responsibility. Hope this works for you. :xedfingers:

Sorry I kay poh here - eh... The person posting the question is not schwepps... It is Happy Family2329. (see page 1)

[schweppes]

rooneyzeus:

Hi Schwepps, I would like to suggest you to try some other way of motivating instead of telling your daughter that you will buy her something if she performs well. You could try this same thing the other way round. You should tell her that she needs to study otherwise when she grows up she will have difficulties in buying things or something like this. You must try to reason with her practically like a grown up. I am sure she will see your point.


And by giving her what she wants in return of good grades could be wrong as she might start to believe that she will be given something only when she does something right. I am not asking you to spoil her by showering her with whatever she wants but she should understand that she is important for you and you as a mom are only thinking what is right for her. Do something that makes her feel that studying is her responsibility. Hope this works for you. :xedfingers:

Dear rooneyzeus,
Wish to clarify that I am NOT the original poster to the question. The question is posed by HappyFamily2329.

[schweppes]

fightingmom:

rooneyzeus:

Hi Schwepps, I would like to suggest you to try some other way of motivating instead of telling your daughter that you will buy her something if she performs well. You could try this same thing the other way round. You should tell her that she needs to study otherwise when she grows up she will have difficulties in buying things or something like this. You must try to reason with her practically like a grown up. I am sure she will see your point.


And by giving her what she wants in return of good grades could be wrong as she might start to believe that she will be given something only when she does something right. I am not asking you to spoil her by showering her with whatever she wants but she should understand that she is important for you and you as a mom are only thinking what is right for her. Do something that makes her feel that studying is her responsibility. Hope this works for you. :xedfingers:

Sorry I kay poh here - eh... The person posting the question is not schwepps... It is Happy Family2329. (see page 1)

:thankyou: fightingmom, for helping to clarify on my behalf

[lydia_chin]

Hi Chenonceau,


you have PM!

[Chenonceau]

fightingmom:

Sorry I kay poh here - eh... The person posting the question is not schwepps... It is Happy Family2329. (see page 1)

OMG! That is one cute baby butt under your nick!! Is it your baby? Ohhhhh....

The order form is ready on my blog. You can click on my profile to find the link to my blog address. Or simply google PetuniaLee.

[fightingmom]

Chenonceau:

fightingmom:

Sorry I kay poh here - eh... The person posting the question is not schwepps... It is Happy Family2329. (see page 1)

OMG! That is one cute baby butt under your nick!! Is it your baby? Ohhhhh....

The order form is ready on my blog. You can click on my profile to find the link to my blog address. Or simply google PetuniaLee.

Hi Chenonceau,

The little girl in the pic reminds me of my DD when she was a toddler - she used to do that and shook her bum bum. if only I could make the profile pic move.

Congratulations on your new book. 希望你的书会大卖！Best seller ! :rahrah: Has been reading some of your blog too.

[Chenonceau]

fightingmom:

Chenonceau:

[quote=\"fightingmom\"]
Sorry I kay poh here - eh... The person posting the question is not schwepps... It is Happy Family2329. (see page 1)

OMG! That is one cute baby butt under your nick!! Is it your baby? Ohhhhh....

The order form is ready on my blog. You can click on my profile to find the link to my blog address. Or simply google PetuniaLee.

Hi Chenonceau,

The little girl in the pic reminds me of my DD when she was a toddler - she used to do that and shook her bum bum. if only I could make the profile pic move.

Congratulations on your new book. 希望你的书会大卖！Best seller ! :rahrah: Has been reading some of your blog too. [/quote]Heyyy... thank you! Thank you! A bit premature to say it is a best seller lah... I have butterflies in my stomach and I keep re-reading and finding things that I think are no good... I'm almost obsessive now. :frustrated:

Aiyo... that baby bum bum is really cute. Your DD must've been so cute. I am all the time looking at babies in the mall nowadays. My kids are so big and they smell bad. Babies always smell so sweet even when they haven't bathed. My DS stinks even after his shower. Piew!!

[Pen88n]

Chenonceau:

fightingmom:

[quote=\"Chenonceau\"]
OMG! That is one cute baby butt under your nick!! Is it your baby? Ohhhhh....

The order form is ready on my blog. You can click on my profile to find the link to my blog address. Or simply google PetuniaLee.

Hi Chenonceau,

The little girl in the pic reminds me of my DD when she was a toddler - she used to do that and shook her bum bum. if only I could make the profile pic move.

Congratulations on your new book. 希望你的书会大卖！Best seller ! :rahrah: Has been reading some of your blog too.

Heyyy... thank you! Thank you! A bit premature to say it is a best seller lah... I have butterflies in my stomach and I keep re-reading and finding things that I think are no good... I'm almost obsessive now. :frustrated:

Aiyo... that baby bum bum is really cute. Your DD must've been so cute. I am all the time looking at babies in the mall nowadays. My kids are so big and they smell bad. Babies always smell so sweet even when they haven't bathed. My DS stinks even after his shower. Piew!![/quote]Chen, you will have babies to play with again........when you become grandma :laugh: That won't be too long (another 5-7 years time?) considering your DD already going uni

[Chenonceau]

Pen88n:

Chen, you will have babies to play with again........when you become grandma That won't be too long (another 5-7 years time?) considering your DD already going uni

I found an occasion to chat with DD about what you wrote. She said \"Mom! If I do give you a grandchild anytime soon, you will KILL me and SHOOT him (The Boyfriend)!\" :rotflmao:

I have put up the first part of the promised post on The Role of Emotional Contagion in Motivation.