Real reason behind Singapore’s obsession with tuition

[verykiasu2010]

schweppes:

buds:

no matter how limlim's SO nag and nag..

he just refuse to let his kids go for tuition..

so when they do well, he can finally brag and brag..

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

buay tahan :rotflmao:

[jtoh]

schweppes:

jtoh:

This is very real. It still happens with some students at secondary school. Anything less than 90 is not acceptable. (<95 for some kids).


Often times it's a demand from the parent instilled from primary school that's now ingrained in the child that anything less than perfect is not acceptable. :faint:

This reminds me of this P2 girl whom I used to tutor, just after A levels.

The P2 wanted to take part in some poetry competition at sch and I had helped her. She came in 3rd. Both of us were delighted at her achievements. Her mom was not. Kept saying that I did not do enough for her daughter to come in 1st. :shock:

The second occasion was more :yikes: I coached her EL and Maths. Can't recall the actual marks but both scored somewhere between 92 - 95 thereabouts. Her mom wielded the cane... and started to chase her daughter round the house to cane her. Mom expected 100%.

Needless to say, I was horrified :yikes: Thot she was coming after me with the cane next. :siam: :scared: Tendered my resignation shortly after. Too stressful. P2 girl cried buckets. Me too as I really liked the little girl. Sweetest thing ever. :gloomy:

:yikes: :yikes: :yikes: Hope the girl turned out alright despite her mother's demands.

[Nebbermind]

buds:

I would be horrified too if the mom came at you with the cane running all around her house! :yikes:


But honestly, I feel for the poor girl. Wonder how she is now...

maybe she's chasing her mom around the house with the same cane!

[wonderm]

buds:

limlim:

btw, as I parent, I would feel proud and maybe brag about it only if my kids achievements are obtained w/o tuition. If it is paid for (in a way).. what is there to be proud of.. (for those parents who brag when their kids did it with $$$$$ tuition/enrichment lessons).. just my personal opinion..

limlim:

no matter how my SO nag and nag..

I just refused to let my kids go for tuition..

no matter how limlim's SO nag and nag..

he just refuse to let his kids go for tuition..

so when they do well, he can finally brag and brag..

hmmm...this is interesting.

Since young, we told our children, there is nothing to be \"proud of\" if someone says \"you are so clever!\". Even if it is true, you are just lucky to be born clever, not to mention there are plenty of people more clever than you. We want them to try their best at whatever they do. If they succeed, they must remember and be grateful to all those who helped them, be it parents, school teachers, tuition teachers, friends, etc. There is never the need to worry about who should get the credit or whether they deserve less credit if their achievement was due to the help of others. If they don't do so well, it is ok too as long as they don't give up and willing to learn from the experience and continue trying.

As long as they have the right learning attitude and be happy, results don't matter to us. There are many things in life that are more important than results, and there are many paths to success anyway.

[Nebbermind]

Joule:

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Can someone enlighten me...this face belongs to who?

[schweppes]

buds:

I would be horrified too if the mom came at you with the cane running all around her house! :yikes:


But honestly, I feel for the poor girl. Wonder how she is now...

often wondered about her well-being too. hopefully now, not following in the footsteps of her mommy dearest :skeptical: :roll:

[schweppes]

Nebbermind:

buds:

I would be horrified too if the mom came at you with the cane running all around her house! :yikes:


But honestly, I feel for the poor girl. Wonder how she is now...

maybe she's chasing her mom around the house with the same cane!

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

adoi.... this one lagi best!! really had me in stitches!!!

[Dreamaurora]

schweppes:

Dreamaurora:

I think let me share my perspective on this tuition thing from an Indonesian Chinese point of view.

Thanks for sharing, Dreamaurora

Sometimes I wonder in this day and age, will parents balk if their kids choose a career path less travelled?

Say... they want to be an actor, painter, artist, musician...? Will parents mind? It's still a decent and respectable job, but not what the parents had in mind, like being a doctor, banker, lawyer, engineer....

I guess a lot of parents think if they 'invest' (God, I hate that word) time and money into their students, they expect good 'return'. And actor, painter, artist, musician, are still perceived as jobs with little 'return'. It seems illogical say if your child score perfect score enough to get into doctor or law, but opt for something else instead. But I am glad time is changing, I think last month in ST there was this article about this top poly girl who decided to pursue social study instead? And the comments were quite encouraging. If this is in the past, she would have been branded as not filial and idiotic.

[Nebbermind]

think some of the trained lawyers in SG have become performing artistes in the theatre industry.

[verykiasu2010]

Nebbermind:

think some of the trained lawyers in SG have become performing artistes in the theatre industry.

some lawyers, accountants, engineers, doctors, dentists, pharmacists, and teachers have also made mid-career switch. they become full time professional home maker, specialising in education, environment, and finances