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[sacredmusicals]

Dreamaurora:

Time for this korkor to give his opinion, if not later all the jie jie mei meis here all think all the men run away. :rotflmao:


Before I married my wife now, I often wonder why a lot of married men strayed and have affairs. So I asked myself a list of possible scenarios that may happen after I got married and lead me to stray:

1) Will I get irritated if my wife nags at me?
2) Will I lose the freedom I have now as a bachelor?
3) Will I regret that I met women who I think will be better fit than me than my wife after marrying her?
4) Will I somehow think my wife as less 'attractive' than now?
5) Will I entertain or fantasize the thoughts of dating other women secretly?

And so on...

And fast forward a few years later, after almost 4 years of marriage and an one month old son now. Now I can answer all those questions now. And the answer to all of them is: YES. But never did once in these years of marriage I even think of betraying my wife. Why? Because I approached the marriage not to fulfill my needs, BUT to fulfill my wife's needs. Both of us also went for marriage preparation course (non-Christian one) and the course reaffirms both our beliefs that marriage is never about self-gratification. When our Reverend solemnized our marriage, I made the vow in front of her, our families, and God to take care of her until death do us part. And I really mean it. My wife, reading all these scandals, said to me she actually would not mind that if I go out and eat other 'abalones' secretly. As long she is not aware of it can already. But I can't even bear to even start thinking of such actions. If I do it, I know I will be letting her down and I will never be able to face her again. I love my wife more than ever now. Sure, the feeling is different from the burning passions and emotions that marked our dating days, but I accept that each phase of life heralds newfound joy; there is no point chasing after the good things of yesteryear. But I will forever treasure all those happy and sad memories that we went through together as a couple. And I want to keep making these memories with her as a family until either one of us pass away.

Hear! Hear! This post should be compulsory reading for all men planning to marry. :goodpost:

[sacredmusicals]

buds:

I have to agree with you peapot! :salute: I had that same observation. No hamsome man cos hamsome ones (+- the $$$ factor)... click fingers, ten may beckon. Most of those involved perhaps can only dream of getting a wife that hawt (17yr old prostitute) or even get those model chiobu types to even so much as glance at them... these can be fulfilled by paying the price. Literally. (in their case) :roll:

The prostitute hot? :scratchhead: Hmm, from my observation chiobu women like to get less attractive men partners. Maybe feel more secure that lesser women will woo their men?

[janet88]

Imami:

Some men have the programme \"infidelity\" installed in them. Those are probably the kind that all women should sat off to avoid ending up with broken hearts. But well, love is blind.

Some men are not suitable to get married.
Since these men have 'Infidelity software' installed in them, they should not break women's hearts by getting married. That Gay's wife really shouldnt accompany him to court. He doesn't seem to show slightest remorse. Idiotic fella.

[buds]

Dreamaurora da ge... after the supposedly much talked abt 7-yr itch (marriage)... you come back here report. :salute:


In the meantime... I think both you and your wife are blessed to have one another.

Btw, religion has never really been an obstacle for some/these men to have one night stands or flings. An acquaintance of mine shared that a couple her sister counseled... the hubby was extremely pious. Prays without fail. Volunteers regularly. Contributes $ to his institution of faith. A true family man. A doting husband.

Before his supposed pilgrimage, he bared all to his wife who bore him five beautiful children that he had been frequenting prostitutes to satisfy his unfulfilled fantasies that he never cared to burden her with...

While still trying to recover from that long well kept secret of abt 25yrs.. the hubby spilled another. He promised the wife that he would never patronize prostitutes upon returning from their pilgrimage together.... but he wanted to have a LAST one before they left.

:faint:

[fightingmom]

buds:

Dreamaurora da ge... after the supposedly much talked abt 7-yr itch (marriage)... you come back here report. :salute:


In the meantime... I think both you and your wife are blessed to have one another.

Btw, religion has never really been an obstacle for some/these men to have one night stands or flings. An acquaintance of mine shared that a couple her sister counseled... the hubby was extremely pious. Prays without fail. Volunteers regularly. Contributes $ to his institution of faith. A true family man. A doting husband.

Before his supposed pilgrimage, he bared all to his wife who bore him five beautiful children that he had been frequenting prostitutes to satisfy his unfulfilled fantasies that he never cared to burden her with...

While still trying to recover from that long well kept secret of abt 25yrs.. the hubby spilled another. He promised the wife that he would never patronize prostitutes upon returning from their pilgrimage together.... but he wanted to have a LAST one before they left.

:faint:

What !!! :mad: :stompfeet: :rant:

[fightingmom]

Sometimes I really wonder about this phrase : 男人不坏、女人不爱！how true is that , huh ?!

[Imami]

fightingmom:

Sometimes I really wonder about this phrase : 男人不坏、女人不爱！how true is that , huh ?!

Not for me... I chose the most boring, most quiet, most well behaved, most proper, most \"tut\" boy to be my bf from the few who applied.

Somehow, I have a \"stay away from the hot or bad guys\" programme installed in me.

[Dreamaurora]

janet_lee88:

Imami:

Some men have the programme \"infidelity\" installed in them. Those are probably the kind that all women should sat off to avoid ending up with broken hearts. But well, love is blind.

Some men are not suitable to get married.
Since these men have 'Infidelity software' installed in them, they should not break women's hearts by getting married. That Gay's wife really shouldnt accompany him to court. He doesn't seem to show slightest remorse. Idiotic fella.

I would argue that all men by default have \"infidelity\" installed in them, yes, even including me. But men need to build \"firewalls\" to prevent this program from running. There will be instances or situations in marriage that may trigger this \"infidelity\" to run. There are times in my marriage that I feel like :stompfeet: towards my wife, and these situations never arose when I was dating her. Yes, the grass really gets greener on the other side once I signed that ROM certificate. But like what I said, this marriage is not about me, it's about my wife. That is my main \"firewall\". The other \"firewall\" is my faith, specifically because adultery is a very serious sin in the Bible and I don't want to account this to God when my time is up. My point is that all married men will be subjected to temptations; there is no doubt about it. Responsible husbands will acknowledge these temptations and find ways to deal with them.

Our marriage prep counsellor (who btw was a Buddhist) did go through those possible scenarios that i listed above also with us. That is why all engaged couples about to marry need to be made aware of the reality of marriage. Marriage is a wonderful union, but it is no bed of roses all the time. The dynamics of a couple relationship does change drastically in marriage. In fact, the counsellor shared that after attending the marriage prep course, some couples actually decided to postpone or even cancel the marriage altogether. Maybe government should make it compulsory to attend marriage prep course before signing ROM.

[Dreamaurora]

buds:

Dreamaurora da ge... after the supposedly much talked abt 7-yr itch (marriage)... you come back here report. :salute:


In the meantime... I think both you and your wife are blessed to have one another.

Btw, religion has never really been an obstacle for some/these men to have one night stands or flings. An acquaintance of mine shared that a couple her sister counseled... the hubby was extremely pious. Prays without fail. Volunteers regularly. Contributes $ to his institution of faith. A true family man. A doting husband.

Before his supposed pilgrimage, he bared all to his wife who bore him five beautiful children that he had been frequenting prostitutes to satisfy his unfulfilled fantasies that he never cared to burden her with...

While still trying to recover from that long well kept secret of abt 25yrs.. the hubby spilled another. He promised the wife that he would never patronize prostitutes upon returning from their pilgrimage together.... but he wanted to have a LAST one before they left.

:faint:

Hmm, men by nature can separate sex from feeling, so I am not surprised. Piousness is never an indication of our actual spirituality. That is why we still have scandals of well known religious leaders committing adultery and fraud.

[Dreamaurora]

phtthp:

from now on, we shall call him our korkor, \"Piano Shi Fu\" Master !

:salute:

korkor, can we hear you play some piano pieces for us ?

No lar, I not 'Shi Fu' level, still 'ikan bilis' standard. :rotflmao:

Can just go to youtube and type 'cwdorianmusic' to hear me play. Not much videos now, but I plan to upload at least one video of me playing every 1 or 2 weeks lar.