All About Autism
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Pat Pat Mummyjune :snuggles:
there will sure be some ignorant people around.
I learn to take them with a pinch of salt, afterall my DD well being is more important to me.
I got it mani times from those parents when i send my DD to kindy last time , she hates going to kindy , always cry n cry when she goes in, some ahmas wil still walk behind me and ask me whats wrong with her? :roll: i always got urge to rebuke them, \" can't you tell she hates school? and stop getting in my way!!!\"
:pokeeye:
I am glad that my DD loves going to her pri. school now.
those words that are not constructive and are not helpful to our kids, learn to ignore them, tho its hard at times as words can really be hurting at times.
But remember, what doesnt break you makes you stronger . -
mummyJune:
dear mums, my earlier posts had mentioned that my 3yr old son still not speaking & communicates through screaming & crying.
well, at a recent family gathering, i had brought my son along, & my cousin's boys were playing with my son & my son, started screaming when 1 of the boy touched a toy that my son was playing. so the boy commented to his younger bro \"u better don't go near him, later he scream again, i cannot stand his noisyness, so irritating\". i was there & heard him said it. den , some relatives who noticed that my son was screaming, asking me \"whats wrong with him? keep screaming like got problem, u got bring him see doc anot?\" den another relative said\"i tink yr son got problem, u better bring him see doc\"
all sounded like my son got problem. i just said, he doesn't have any problem, he's just not able to speak properly YET. in fact, we left halfway cos the kids were tired.
worst, an uncle told me this\"wa, look after kids tired anot? who ask u get married & ve kids la\" i replied him tired sure will tired, but im happy cos ive 2 healthy kids & i never regretted getting married & having kids. so what he's an elder, so rude to comment like this when 1 of his children is already married.
To me, i feel that the people who has problems are my relatives, not my son.
Agree..sometimes their words can be quite disheartening ..we cant stop people from commenting and giving us sugesstion to bring see doc etc etc..diff kids develop at a diff pace...me too have a son who is a late talker....so dont worry wen time to come ur kid will talk non stop
...cheer up!!!
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chibi:
haha, i sure ve to learn from u. my son hates going to childcare. always screams & cry at the main gate. also got those ahmas gossip like my son got problem. normally we just ignore.Pat Pat Mummyjune :snuggles:
there will sure be some ignorant people around.
I learn to take them with a pinch of salt, afterall my DD well being is more important to me.
I got it mani times from those parents when i send my DD to kindy last time , she hates going to kindy , always cry n cry when she goes in, some ahmas wil still walk behind me and ask me whats wrong with her? :roll: i always got urge to rebuke them, \" can't you tell she hates school? and stop getting in my way!!!\"
:pokeeye:
I am glad that my DD loves going to her pri. school now.
those words that are not constructive and are not helpful to our kids, learn to ignore them, tho its hard at times as words can really be hurting at times.
But remember, what doesnt break you makes you stronger . -
hehe mummyjune, my mum who helped bring my daughter to kindy usually last time, will tell me, those pple who gossip are usually those who got mouth to say others, no mouth to talk about themselves. :nailbite:
why bother about them?
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mummyJune:
dear mums, my earlier posts had mentioned that my 3yr old son still not speaking & communicates through screaming & crying.
well, at a recent family gathering, i had brought my son along, & my cousin's boys were playing with my son & my son, started screaming when 1 of the boy touched a toy that my son was playing. so the boy commented to his younger bro \"u better don't go near him, later he scream again, i cannot stand his noisyness, so irritating\". i was there & heard him said it. den , some relatives who noticed that my son was screaming, asking me \"whats wrong with him? keep screaming like got problem, u got bring him see doc anot?\" den another relative said\"i tink yr son got problem, u better bring him see doc\"
all sounded like my son got problem. i just said, he doesn't have any problem, he's just not able to speak properly YET. in fact, we left halfway cos the kids were tired.
worst, an uncle told me this\"wa, look after kids tired anot? who ask u get married & ve kids la\" i replied him tired sure will tired, but im happy cos ive 2 healthy kids & i never regretted getting married & having kids. so what he's an elder, so rude to comment like this when 1 of his children is already married.
To me, i feel that the people who has problems are my relatives, not my son.
Mummy June
Totally understand how u feel because that was exactly what my boy did over the weekend at her sister, my gal's birthday party. First he refused to go in the play gym, when we tried to coax him to try the slides, he cried. Then, he went to play with the toys and threw huge tantrums when another boy snatched it from him. He tried to snatch back but was not quick enough. I am perplexed cos he is verbal, but instead of telling the boy that he wants the toy, he choose to cry and scream. He was like dat throughout the party. So can you imagine how distraught I am? Here we are celebrating my girl's birthday and my boy is screaming away. My hubby and I totally have no mood and I broke down at the end of the party when some of my friends tried to console me. I know they meant well but the more they tried to console me, the worse I feel. And I had to tell a white lie to concerned friends and relatives who saw me with my swollen eyes. I had to lie that my eyes were itchy and I rubbed it. BTW, all my friends know about my boy's condition, I am open about it.
And my mil asked my hubby why my boy behaved so badly that day (cos he was usually ok at my mil's place) and my hubby had to explain to her. We did tell my mil about my boy's condition but she didn't really understand what is autism and how it affects a person. So on that Sat, she knew.
We are going to the playgym again for another party in two weeks time. I cross my fingers. But I determined to help him get over it so that he can enjoy the indoor playgrounds again like he used to. I am sure, that day will come. -
chibi-ya ur mum is right. sometimes its better to keep the mouth shut den anyhow comment.
DoubleE-ya, i also totally understand how u feel. cheer up, im sure yr boy will be ok at the next playgym party.
I know my son will sure scream, so when he was sitting there & playing the toys, i make sure i sit next to him in case he screamed i can stopped him & tell him Y he cannot scream. or else next time anything he wants, he duno how to say , only scream.
but sometimes i feel that even bringing my son out is a challenge cos since now he can’t talk properly but we are trying to help him with words daily, like that day it was raining & we were at the bus-stop, he can tell my mum "raining". so now, take 1 step at a time. i sometimes feel very stressup, kept thinking y my son like that, iszit during my pregnancy i did something wrong or what. haiz… -
Mummy Rosy:
mummy rosymummyJune:
dear mums, my earlier posts had mentioned that my 3yr old son still not speaking & communicates through screaming & crying.
well, at a recent family gathering, i had brought my son along, & my cousin's boys were playing with my son & my son, started screaming when 1 of the boy touched a toy that my son was playing. so the boy commented to his younger bro \"u better don't go near him, later he scream again, i cannot stand his noisyness, so irritating\". i was there & heard him said it. den , some relatives who noticed that my son was screaming, asking me \"whats wrong with him? keep screaming like got problem, u got bring him see doc anot?\" den another relative said\"i tink yr son got problem, u better bring him see doc\"
all sounded like my son got problem. i just said, he doesn't have any problem, he's just not able to speak properly YET. in fact, we left halfway cos the kids were tired.
worst, an uncle told me this\"wa, look after kids tired anot? who ask u get married & ve kids la\" i replied him tired sure will tired, but im happy cos ive 2 healthy kids & i never regretted getting married & having kids. so what he's an elder, so rude to comment like this when 1 of his children is already married.
To me, i feel that the people who has problems are my relatives, not my son.
Agree..sometimes their words can be quite disheartening ..we cant stop people from commenting and giving us sugesstion to bring see doc etc etc..diff kids develop at a diff pace...me too have a son who is a late talker....so dont worry wen time to come ur kid will talk non stop ...cheer up!!!
how old was yr son when he start talking? -
Mummy June
I can tell that my friends and relatives feel sorry for us. While I appreciate the empathy, I was a total wreck inside. Some try to comfort us with words, some try to pretend everything is normal and that my son is nothing unusual, I know they try to make us feel better by not commenting. But that Sat was bad, just totally bad for me. I felt terrible because my boy’s behaviour and flexibility regressed when he is supposed to be better after all the therapies. But from this forum, I often see comments that the kids will sometimes regress first before making a huge improvement. So I am still harbouring the hope that this is just a phase for him.
And today I went to visit my boy at his EIPIC, he cried badly when the OT tried to cover part of his body with a sack. He had the same issue last week with his private OT. And we conclude that he has the fear because he felt claustrophobic inside a confined area and can’t expect or see what is coming. That could explain why he recently rejects indoor playground/playgym but is fine with outdoor playground.
Jia you Mummy Jane! We just have to keep trying and trying. For speech, when my boy still has no speech at two, I was wondering when can I see the light at the end of the tunnel. Will he be able to speak at all? Then at 26 mths, he finally mumbled his first word, more words came and slowly at 30-31mths, he begin to combine words. And now at 40mths, he can speak 3-4 words in sentence, although still not perfect, I know he has improved since one year ago. For your boy, you may want to seek out private ST if you haven’t. Or go to KKH’s rehab centre (ENT) to request to attend this course "It takes two to talk", my boy starts talking after I tried to apply the methods in this course. Is $1500 if you are a private patient of kkh. -
Mummyjune
Pat pat. My 6 yr old also cry when his younger sis touched his stuff. He will say ‘mei mei wants my balloon.’ sigh. He’s a cry baby now. Every little bit, his eyes will well up and he will start to cry. So now I refuse to help him or interfere. If he is upset with his sister, he should deal with it and talk to her rather than cry. -
When my son meltdown at my friends house warming party . My friend ask me is it my son see "dirty" things at her new house !!!???
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