All About Autism
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Dear all,
It’s been some time I posted. I have just delivered my #3. I hope he will be NT as well. Even if he is not, I am much better prepared as well to look out for signs and know where to look for help.
So far I can say my ASD boy is coping well. He is starting to interact more even his SLT whom always say he is 2 yrs behind his age also say he has improved. I am not too sure if the therapy really helped him or bcos he has grown more matured. Lately he started to talk back and even negotiate with us. Something which he has not done previously.
Of cos there are times where he throw tantrums when he didmt get what he wanted. But we are still trying our best to calm him down as much as possible. We are also learning along the way. -
Double E:
Hi Double E,ImMeeMee
Thanks for sharing your experience. I will try one more time since we need to attend the party. If he still behaves this way, I will stop bringing him to indoor playground for a while and just settle with outdoor playground which he enjoys.
And Mummies, are there times that you lose it and lay your hands on your kids? I am guilty of that, either I beat his bottom with my hands or I use a cane. As much as I know he behaved badly due to his condition, there are times I feel that he is just pushing his luck because he can get over it pretty fast. And according to my mum, he behaves more badly when both my hubby and I are around.
Have been reading your posts, thanks for sharing!
My boy coming to 5 yo soon and he is speech-delayed. He does whine and scream quite a lot this year ESPECIALLY with us - his daddy and mummy! Yet he is on his best behaviour in school, with my maid and his tuition teacher can sit for one to one and a half hours just doing his homework cooperatively!
Yes, sometimes I also feel my boy is pushing it because he whines and cannot be pacified by nice talking. After a while, I do use the cane to threaten him to stop. It will be effective IF the boy is genuinely acting it up. But if my boy was genuinely distressed and upset about something, I can tell you even laying the cane on him does not work. Then there is no point we get work up but must change tactic and see how to pacify him get him to cool down. Sometimes we got to help each other out (hubby and I) to try to figure out what he wanted.
I found that the recent school holiday break really helps our family a LOT! My boy is now a lot happier and regulated since the June holiday break whereby he just stay at home and did whatever he wanted. Also he got a break from the speech therapy because his ST took a break of one month as well. We also went to Sentosa for 4 days and just let him do swimming and what he enjoyed the most. I found the break in routine is good for him because he came back and forgot the \"routine whine\" already!
Anyway now sometimes at night when he gets a bit fussy, I will go and rub him, rub his belly, say nice thing to him with \"understanding words\" like \"OIC, you are feeling itchy? Let mummy rub cream for you!\" Manja him lah!
I am not the most patient mummy I can tell you and I am the one welding the cane at home. But now, I try to manja and be patient first before going for the cane (which my hubby hates).
Having read your post, I also thought perhaps your boy bored with the indoor playground already and /or don't like dark. Its is OK, just give it a break and/or go somewhere else for a change.
Like what my boy's swimming instructor said, it is not for \"such kids\" to follow our agenda but we have to follow their agenda and in the process try to teach them as well.
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Desert wind,
Your son attending swimming lessons? Is it 1-1 or I’m group? The instructor takes in ASD kids? -
nugget:
Hi nugget,Desert wind,
Your son attending swimming lessons? Is it 1-1 or I'm group? The instructor takes in ASD kids?
Yes, this instructor do and definitely got to be 1-1 because my boy \"own agenda\" so could not fit into a group. Anyway, we have stopped after 2 months because my boy has been sick and the weather rainy. Could not afford to \"waste\" anymore money paying first and then cancelling it at last minute. Also he had thrown tantrums before at the swimming pool so I thought might as well give him a break wait until older then try going for lessons again! -
slmkhoo:
slimkhoo, its always good to read your posts, as it offers me a lot of hope and encouragement moving forward for what my gal can potentially achieve as well.ASD is a huge continuum, and so the range of abilities is very wide. My daughter is mildly ASD, and although she certainly can't live independently now (at 15yo), I am sure that she will be able to later on. Maybe not at 18yo, but by the time she is in her 20s, I think she will have mastered the main basic skills to manage a household and live independently - we're working towards that anyway! I don't say she will cope well with unexpected things, but day to day stuff should be fine. I hope she will have developed a network of friends and relatives who she can call on for advice and help by then.
I also have a NT child, and yes, the interaction with her is different. I really appreciate having her around (apart from just being herself) as she models a lot of the things we have to teach the ASD girl, and she provides a more complete social environment in the home. And since they are both girls, they can hang out with friends and go to activities together sometimes. My NT girl is very accommodating to her sister even though she is 2 yrs younger.
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nugget:
hi nugget, long time no hear. congrats on #3 and have fun bonding with baby!Dear all,
It's been some time I posted. I have just delivered my #3. I hope he will be NT as well. Even if he is not, I am much better prepared as well to look out for signs and know where to look for help.
So far I can say my ASD boy is coping well. He is starting to interact more even his SLT whom always say he is 2 yrs behind his age also say he has improved. I am not too sure if the therapy really helped him or bcos he has grown more matured. Lately he started to talk back and even negotiate with us. Something which he has not done previously.
Of cos there are times where he throw tantrums when he didmt get what he wanted. But we are still trying our best to calm him down as much as possible. We are also learning along the way. -
Nugget
Congratulations!
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Thank ImMeeMee and Mashy, dunno how am I gonna handle 3. Lol…
KKH now have this programmed called "it takes 2 to talk". I thinking of enrolling myself or my hb. It’s a course by hanen which all sg SLT attended as well.
But KKH told me it might not be useful for my ASD boy but they are willing to see my boy to see if he will benefit if parents attend this course.
Anyone whose kids need help in the speech n language development might want to reach out to KKH to ask more abt this course. They only run a few times per yr. -
helplessmum3:
What are the difference u felt as a mum between NT N ASD?
having had 2 NTs and the youngest one being ASD, and realizing how challenging to teach my ASD child almost everything, the greatest impact on myself is that I start to think how do we measure success in life. Money? Career? Health? Happiness? Independence?
We all wish for independence for our ASD kids when they grow up. Come to think of it, I have realized that this is what I would wish for my NTs as well. That and good health and general happiness. All other achievements would be a bonus and be based on their capabilities and potential. -
Congratulation Nugget :congrats:
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