Asia spending billions on tutors: study
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Jennifer:
KSP is highly addictive...I get withdrawal symptoms when I am not able to login.Lilac66:
Maybe if his grades slip because of me being glued to KSP, I may start a thread on \"Detrimental effects of KSP to homemakers\" :evil:
Hm, I put on more weight due to prolonged sitting down in front of the computer. Today's news article, prolonged sitting down can cut down x no. of lives :siam: -
tutormum:
My intention is not to boast but hope parents will open up their eyes wide to make decisions which will eventually affect their children's lives and happiness. How many children are seeing psychiatrists, BTW?
Agreed.
Told my boy to concentrate on learning, not to dwell on GPA. Life is happier this way. -
3Boys:
I say there is unhealthy phenomenon in the education industry.
So you are saying schools are worse now than before? Transfer your kids then, my DSs are learning tons more stuff than I did at the same age.limlim:
We see things differently, and you are free to disagree with me. -
limlim:
I say there is unhealthy phenomenon in the education industry.[/quote]But if teaching in the schools are not impacted by it, why the fuss? (I'm not talking about over-tuition, which I agree is damaging, BUT, discretionary)
So you are saying schools are worse now than before? Transfer your kids then, my DSs are learning tons more stuff than I did at the same age.3Boys:
[quote=\"limlim\"]
We see things differently, and you are free to disagree with me. -
Lilac66:
Good point Lilac66!!ksi:
[quote=\"Lilac66\"]Ultimately we have to agree that some of the suggestions given about regulations of tuition come from the desire to make our education system more \"palatable\" for all and nobody will be disadvantaged just because they cannot afford good tutors.
Pls understand our intentions are good. :boogie:
There is no doubt the intention is good and everyone is encouraged to say their piece in a civil way regardless if the views are the same or not.
The only caveat here is(and it is not directed at you Lilac66, a general comment only) not to direct the discussion at one another simply because the views differ. There is value in amiable diversity.
So keep discussing and enjoy the diverse views.
Sure! :celebrate:[/quote] :celebrate:
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Korean Parents Spend Too Much on Their Children
The average annual income of Korean senior citizens is only 67 percent of the average household income overall, putting the country at the bottom of OECD member nations, whose average is 82.4 percent. The poverty rate among elderly Koreans is 45 percent, the highest in the OECD, where the average is 13.5 percent. Nearly half of all senior citizens in Korea are living in poverty.
The biggest cause of poverty among the elderly is the fact that only 32 percent of them receive a public pension. Korea launched the national pension system in 1988, so people now over 80 had no chance to apply, and many younger people did not bother to make monthly payments. And those who did only get meager benefits since they only paid for a short period.
The average national pension payout for senior citizens is a mere W280,000 (US$1=W1,136) a month, which is not enough to get by on.
Koreans tend to fall on hard times in later life because they spent most of their earnings on educating their children and then paying for their wedding. Parents pay for children's private crammer lessons as they prepare for university entrance exams, and when they enter university, they finance their tuition and language-exchange programs overseas, and provide other necessary supports until they graduate and find a job.
Then come the wedding expenses. The average cost of a wedding almost tripled from W76.39 million in 1999 to W209 million this year. Parents with a son sell their homes to raise money to buy an apartment where he can live with his bride, and parents with a daughter take out loans using their homes as collateral to pay for wedding gifts. Korean parents are perhaps the only ones in the world who feel obliged to take care of their children to that extent, and Korean kids are also probably the only ones in the world who think their parents are duty-bound to pay for their wedding and buy them a home.
Children who have been raised that way will end up becoming parents themselves. Perhaps many young Koreans are thinking twice about having kids because they are afraid of falling into the same trap. The time has come to change this ludicrous custom where parents sell their future to support their children, while kids think it is only natural for parents to make these sacrifices.
[email protected] / Jul. 05, 2012 14:09 KST
Wonder with all the tuitions how come they aren't taught filial piety and self-reliance. For us, we are still discussing primary school education, long road ahead for our financial commitments and definitely, more moral education for the kids. -
autumnbronze:
but.. not all teachers are like you. If all the teachers are like you, I guess, this thread may not have existed.
At a popular sch, I was teaching graduating classes. I had 10 pupils in a particular class who requested for 1 to 1 oral practice, on top of the daily practice they were getting weeks before the exam :faint: That is only one of the four graduating classes I was teaching.
What did I do? Of course I acceded to their request lah. That is also on top of all other 'extra-curricular' (not pertaining to teaching) activities I HAD to be involved in
Its no wonder I suffered from multiple miscarriages then, and blissfully managed to carry to term after I left the service.
Ooooooops :oops: :oops: Am I :offtopic:
We're just suggesting how to improve the current system, to make it better. -
limlim:
autumnbronze:
At a popular sch, I was teaching graduating classes. I had 10 pupils in a particular class who requested for 1 to 1 oral practice, on top of the daily practice they were getting weeks before the exam :faint: That is only one of the four graduating classes I was teaching.
What did I do? Of course I acceded to their request lah. That is also on top of all other 'extra-curricular' (not pertaining to teaching) activities I HAD to be involved in
Its no wonder I suffered from multiple miscarriages then, and blissfully managed to carry to term after I left the service.
Ooooooops :oops: :oops: Am I :offtopic:
but.. not all teachers are like you. If all the teachers are like you, I guess, this thread may not have existed.
We're just suggesting how to improve the current system, to make it better.
Sure.
I can appreciate that.
If that is truly the intention.
But then again not ALL teachers don't don't teach. Not ALL of MOE's directives are flawed. Not ALL teachers who moonlight neglect their kids or teaching responsibilities in school. This last statement is the most baffling of all. Why would they want to overturn their main rice bowl?? That is just a huge risk to take wrt to their career. The civil service doesn't take too kindly to employees who adopt such laissez faire approach.
I will qualify though, that there are bad apples in EVERY profession. Not just restricted to the teaching fraternity.
Sadly, the above mentioned assumptions are consistently being pandered generally. -
autumnbronze:
:goodpost: :goodpost:.
Sadly, the above mentioned assumptions are consistently being pandered generally.
All the myth circulating, posing as truth. -
cherryc:
This is probably an outcome no one will foresee how wrong such academic pursuit can go. Someone shared this story with me along the same line:
Wonder with all the tuitions how come they aren't taught filial piety and self-reliance. For us, we are still discussing primary school education, long road ahead for our financial commitments and definitely, more moral education for the kids.
Mother's stabbing arouses parenting concern
A young man who nearly stabbed his mother to death over an alleged row for money has aroused widespread concern over adequate moral education from China's loving yet high-demanding parents.
The mother, 52-year-old Gu, is still in hospital. [Guangzhou Daily]
The 25-year-old man, surnamed Wang, is accused of stabbing his mother nine times on arrival at Shanghai's Pudong International Airport after five years study in Japan on April 1.
The mother, 52-year-old Gu, narrowly survived and is still in hospital.
Wang told police his mother had started nagging him when she met him at the airport. \"She said she'd rather die than give her son any more money,\" a police officer based at the airport said, quoting Wang.
Wang said his mind went blank, and he took out a knife from his luggage and started to stab her.
Wang was detained at the scene and could not be reached for an interview.
His mother, Gu, refused to recall how it happened in her ward at the People's Hospital in Pudong New District Wednesday. Her roommate said she cried continuously and had been unable to sleep.
Gu's brother-in-law described her as a very caring mother. \"She had to borrow lots of money from friends and relatives for her son to study in Japan.\"
Gu earns about 80,000 yuan (12,248 U.S. dollars) a year selling clothes, but her son's tuition and living expenses in Japan were at least three times higher.
Police began a judicial appraisal on Monday of Wang's mental state, as relatives said he had shown unusual behaviors and complained of hallucinations before his return to Shanghai.
The result of the appraisal had not been released as of Wednesday.
While the motive behind Wang's stabbing remains an enigma, relatives almost unanimously complained of his selfishness and his mother's over willingness to give.
They said Wang rarely worked and relied only on his parents' money.
An economics major at Nihon University, Wang spent 300,000 to 400,000 yuan a year, including 80,000 yuan in tuition and 144,000 yuan in lodging, Gu told Dongfang Daily, a Shanghai-based newspaper.
The tragedy has shocked the Chinese and caused widespread concern over adequate parenting of children.
Nearly two weeks after the stabbing, the accident was still being vigorously discussed on major Chinese parenting websites Wednesday.
Some blamed the tragedy on a lack of moral education at home and at school, saying parents and teachers all pay far more attention to academic performances and often neglect children's moral standards and mental health.
Many Chinese urban parents are loving but highly demanding at the same time, says Ke Yunlu, a noted author on psychology and education. \"They treat their children as babies, care for all their needs and protect them from the least harm, hoping they will live up to their expectations and excel intellectually.\"
The pampering and high expectations are expected to only increase as China's first generation of \"only children\" at home become parents themselves.
In most Chinese cities, competition is white hot for preschoolers to enter top schools and kindergartens and the struggle continues throughout college.
As many parents pledge, they are willing to do anything as long as their children grow up to be \"successful.\" This often leads parents to pay 10 times the family income as sweeteners to place children at desired schools or jobs, which does not necessarily make their children happy.
Some children even break under their parents' heavy expectations, as Liu Hanlin sees it.
Liu, a 2009 graduate from Nagoya University in Japan, had to return home for counseling when he was a boarder at a Tokyo high school, carrying all his parents' ambitions.\" I felt uncomfortable and isolated at school, but my father, who was working at a chemical firm in Tokyo, was always too busy to care.\"
Liu said Wang might be facing similar problems.
A growing number of teenagers have chosen to study abroad in recent years, but experts warn that some of them may not be mature enough to cope with the pressure.
\"They may score high in tests, but may not be independent enough to get along in a new environment, as they are used to the excessive protection from their parents and lack basic social skills,\" said Yang Xiong, a researcher on juvenile studies at Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences.
When these youngsters fail to achieve their goals, the crashing of their dreams on the rocks of cold reality may become the root for severe psychological illness or conflicts with people, said Xie Bin, a Shanghai-based specialist on mental health.
Source: http://www.china.org.cn/china/2011-04/13/content_22352684.htm
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