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[helplessmum3]

Mashy,


he is almost 3yo already...

when ask him wat are u doing he will know how to say, for example if he eating rice, i ask him wat is he doing he will reply , eating rice & so on...

thats all

ask him what happen in school. sure cant make it.

one of his peer is able to tell his mom the child name who hit him u know.

so sad....

[mashy]

slmkhoo:

helplessmum3:

Mashy,


he is almost 3yo already...

when ask him wat are u doing he will know how to say, for example if he eating rice, i ask him wat is he doing he will reply , eating rice & so on...

thats all

ask him what happen in school. sure cant make it.

one of his peer is able to tell his mom the child name who hit him u know.

so sad....

I think you are expecting too much of your son. Even many NT kids of this age can't narrate a sequence events or give descriptions. Just because one kid (presumably NT and very advanced) can do it doesn't mean that all kids of this age can, what more a child with ASD. Try yes-no questions, try to guess what might have happened, and then double-check with his teachers.

I agree with simkhoo. U are expecting too much from your son. My gal can narrate a sequence. But she is NT and really advanced in her speech. Even I am surprised. She is considered one of the best in terms of speech compared with her 3 yr old peers.

When my son was 3, I will be happy if he can even say yes and no. He can't really talk much less answer questions. He only started giving me sequential narration this year at 6 yrs old. I had absolutely no idea what happened in sch. Even when he was bitten, he also can't tell who. When we went out and meet his classmates, he couldn't even recognize his classmate much less say the name of his classmate.

You must remember that u need to cater to his needs. He is not like others. But that is also nothing to be ashamed of. Every kid is different. I'm sure your kid is good at something that others aren't.

[mashy]

Btw, my son also couldn’t name his classmates till about 5 yrs old. So don’t expect too much lah. If he can do, very good. Celebrate. If cannot, also don’t be too sad about it.


And don’t compare! If really wanna compare, I also pick all my son’s best traits to compare. Why pick his worst? What can u prove by showing his worst? That he is more ‘autistic’ than others? Why not look at his best and bring out the best in him. My son can read from 3.5. He’s a fantastic reader and science fan. We made use of it to increase his knowledge, to improve his conversation skills, to help him talk it out. It’s using the best points to improve his weaknesses.

Have u ever played a simulation game? The characters have 100 points each and you have to decide how much percent each category gets eg personality, skills, magic, strength etc. so u can have an average and spread out evenly on all categories. Or u can put a lot on strength and his magic suffers etc. so similarly, our kids are weak in something. But that also probably means they are strong in something else. U just need to find what it is and hone his skills. If everybody are the same, then the world will collapse. We need artists, politicians, scientists, doctors, workers, musicians etc. we can’t have all doctors or all scientists. So accept your child as he is. He may be the next scientist or computer programmer. All these don’t need to talk a lot. So why be so bothered by it?

[Blokus]

ripley08:

Hi everyone,


I am new in this forum. I happened to see this topic on Austism, and i want to share my story.

Cynthia

Hello! :grphug: thanks for sharing! I think it's great that you had your kid checked and intervene early. Do you have other children?

[Blokus]

helplessmum3:

Mashy,,,


help! my son has stop crying when going to school for months already, recently he start crying again..

haiz. no point asking him why & what happen in school la, he duno how to answer... one... how to help him to answer , how to teach him question like this?

My son also couldn't tell me what happened in school at 3 years old. I was taught to give him multiple choice answers to help him relate to us what goes on in school. Like 'did you cry because teacher scolded you or you don't want mummy to go?' etc. And yes, try asking questions that requires only 'yes' 'no' answers. Don't give up, it will get better.

Now my son can tell me a little detail of his day in school although he can be quite incoherent. Sometimes I have to ask alot of questions to get an idea, especially if it's new experience for him.

Don't give up! :rahrah:

[nugget]

mashy:

Have u ever played a simulation game? The characters have 100 points each and you have to decide how much percent each category gets eg personality, skills, magic, strength etc. so u can have an average and spread out evenly on all categories. Or u can put a lot on strength and his magic suffers etc. so similarly, our kids are weak in something. But that also probably means they are strong in something else. U just need to find what it is and hone his skills. If everybody are the same, then the world will collapse. We need artists, politicians, scientists, doctors, workers, musicians etc. we can't have all doctors or all scientists. So accept your child as he is. He may be the next scientist or computer programmer. All these don't need to talk a lot. So why be so bothered by it?

Hi Mashy,

You are a gamer ah? Your description makes me miss the good old days when I am gaming :love:

[nugget]

Blokus:

My son also couldn't tell me what happened in school at 3 years old. I was taught to give him multiple choice answers to help him relate to us what goes on in school. Like 'did you cry because teacher scolded you or you don't want mummy to go?' etc. And yes, try asking questions that requires only 'yes' 'no' answers. Don't give up, it will get better.

Now my son can tell me a little detail of his day in school although he can be quite incoherent. Sometimes I have to ask alot of questions to get an idea, especially if it's new experience for him.

Don't give up! :rahrah:

Yup, I agreed with Blokus, my son also can answer if I give him multiple choice questions. Today he went for an excursion at the toy museum. I ask him what did he see there? He say \"down there have mickey and minnie mouse, have or dun have?\"..

Although his sentence structure is totally off, but I am happy that at least he tell me he saw mickey and minnie mouse.. We got to totally understand our child in order to help him or her. Know him/her inside out.. Then what I did was I corrected him, I say \"Oh you saw Mickey and Minnie Mouse in the museum?\". Then he say yes, then i asked him to repeat after me \"I saw mickey and minnie mouse in the toy museum\".

Then I went off to ask him if he see who else which, super man? Elmo etc..

[Blokus]

nugget:

Yup, I agreed with Blokus, my son also can answer if I give him multiple choice questions. Today he went for an excursion at the toy museum. I ask him what did he see there? He say \"down there have mickey and minnie mouse, have or dun have?\"..
..

Alamak! I can imagine my son saying something like that too! Maybe they should be friends who can understand each other! :celebrate:

[nugget]

Blokus,


Your son speak like that too? I thought only my son speak like this…

[mashy]

nugget:

mashy:

Have u ever played a simulation game? The characters have 100 points each and you have to decide how much percent each category gets eg personality, skills, magic, strength etc. so u can have an average and spread out evenly on all categories. Or u can put a lot on strength and his magic suffers etc. so similarly, our kids are weak in something. But that also probably means they are strong in something else. U just need to find what it is and hone his skills. If everybody are the same, then the world will collapse. We need artists, politicians, scientists, doctors, workers, musicians etc. we can't have all doctors or all scientists. So accept your child as he is. He may be the next scientist or computer programmer. All these don't need to talk a lot. So why be so bothered by it?

Hi Mashy,

You are a gamer ah? Your description makes me miss the good old days when I am gaming :love:

Hehe, just during sch days. Now not so much such games anymore.