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[helplessmum3]

slmkhoo:

helplessmum3:

My son school will ask the kids of all classes to sit together to watch tv before 930am n after 530Pm when no programme ... N wait for going home ..


Stage performance worried my son will cause danger to other kids if he accidentally knock n fall from stage or himself fall down from stage..at least yr kids just sit down or just shy away.. For him he might carry away or overly excited ..

...Should I withdraw him from taking part ? He might feel hurt if he sees all his fren at stage n he is not. And also practise time in school he is not allow to move just sit n watch... This I feel hurt ....

My son can't go around during dance he will disturb others so don't hav such role for him.

You know, the more I hear about your son's cc, the more I think the staff there are just not very good for ASD kids. They obviously don't know how to manage, or are not willing to adapt to your child's needs. I know it's tough to find one where the staff are accommodating, but you really can't change your son enough to behave totally like an NT kid, especially not at this age. It's the teachers who need to adapt.

Maybe you can suggest that when he is disruptive during the TV watching, they allow him to do something that will engross him while waiting. Why must he do the same thing as everyone else, especially when this is obviously a time-filler and not part of the curriculum?

As for the concert, it should not be beyond them to create a little part for him, even if it's just jumping around in a part of the stage. I'm sure if they designate a reasonable space for him, he can be taught to stay in there, as least for a few minutes. Or they can give him a 'role' somewhere near a teacher who can keep and eye on him. During practices, they can also give him something to do, even if it's not the same as everyone else. They can tell him he's got a special role, not that he needs to be quiet and not be a nuisance.

I feel the teachers are being too demanding given that your child is an ASD child. They cannot expect that he can be like an NT child at 3yo, given that he is still early in the learning phase. Have you given them info about ASD to help educate them? They will claim to have learned it during their training, but most don't understand or remember what they have learned. But when faced with such a child, they may be more willing to think about it again.

slmkhoo.

i even engage private therapist to go down to school few times to guide the teachers.... so after that in school whether they do or not, we do not know...

Also meet up with the school special needs department to work all together...

Still, this the outcome i get.... if they tell me they try all methods , i still don't know if its true a not..

now whenever i play the concert song, my son is very upset unlike previously he will try to dance.. :-(. something must have happen again...

The teachers are awared of my son ASD.

hiaz. its such being poor and having an ASD kid. this the cheapest school i can find at my home..

does really NT kids will dance at 3yo and watch TV obediently when need to watch?

i not sure, cuz my ASD son is my only child..

[helplessmum3]

Fizz:

helplessmum3:

Gifts , Mashy , fizz


Thanks for info on fish oil. Fizz I dare not give my son vat C , worried he too awake n energetic til dun nap.. My son only just started w lactoGG recommended by GP. But still not much of help . I will combine it w fish oil then.

My son school will ask the kids of all classes to sit together to watch tv before 930am n after 530Pm when no programme ... N wait for going home ..

Stage performance worried my son will cause danger to other kids if he accidentally knock n fall from stage or himself fall down from stage..at least yr kids just sit down or just shy away.. For him he might carry away or overly excited ..

Mashy,
I feel my son interested to dance because whenever I on the music he will try to dance when at home ...but duno how to stay put at one location ..

Should I withdraw him from taking part ? He might feel hurt if he sees all his fren at stage n he is not. And also practise time in school he is not allow to move just sit n watch... This I feel hurt ....



Gifts.
Whenever my son fall sick or taking antibiotic his rashes will get real bad n scratch until bleeding..

My son can't go around during dance he will disturb others so don't hav such role for him.

Helplessmum3

IMO, the filling time before lessons start and home time is the BEST time for kids, especially our ASDs, to learn to socialise. Sitting in front of the TV for 2hrs dulls the mind. In my boy's cc, during these periods, they get to do crafts, draw, read or even play Mr Wolf, what's the time, with the teachers. Even playing alone with figurines is ok.

If the teachers really cannot handle your son but are willing to try, get the teachers to work with the therapists. There was a moderate ASD kid in his cc last year. He would run and run and scream if he were held. The P admitted that they could not handle him but worked with the therapists ways to handle him. Of course, this involved school visits by the therapists. The question is, how willing. My boy would walked from his N1 group to the K2 group when he first joined. They allow him to walk around and even join the older classes to satisfy his curiosity first and slowly led him back to his group more frequently till he's comfy to engage himself in his own class.

The ball is in your hands to choose the right teachers and culture to work with your child. There are schools out there which are willing. But give the current teachers a chance first by working and communicating closely with them.

fizz,

i work very closely with P, school special needs dept & even engaged Private Therapist for school visit & coach the teacher.. ENd up the Teacher jus say \" We are not special needs teacher\" !!

P also can't force their teachers to do mah. cuz school not paying them as much as Special Needs teacher too.. u know...

so sad.... no one can help my son except we parents... but i need to go work to sustain his school & therapist fee...

feel so lost... i can understand why Mother jump down with their son & died together. u know the stress the society...

[helplessmum3]

optrex80:

= He also like to take lifts, obsessed with it...so much so that we have to avoid any lifts near his sight. It so stressful and I sense he might have autism. Any expert here can guide me?

my son is obsessed w Lift too, he will hav meltdown whenever we refuse him to take the lifts..

first you must acknowledge his wants then try to negio with him... along the way he will know. cannot mean cannot...

Most ASD love lifts...

[mashy]

Helplessmum


That’s why I say, u should consider changin sch. It’s obvious the teachers have written your son off. It’s better for him to change to another school. U may be surprised once u start looking. I didn’t even knew my boy’s sch existed until a recommendation from a friend. It’s also very cheap as it’s a little out of the way. Teachers are very important if u want to see any improvement in him as they work with him every weekday.

[mashy]

helplessmum3:

optrex80:

= He also like to take lifts, obsessed with it...so much so that we have to avoid any lifts near his sight. It so stressful and I sense he might have autism. Any expert here can guide me?

my son is obsessed w Lift too, he will hav meltdown whenever we refuse him to take the lifts..

first you must acknowledge his wants then try to negio with him... along the way he will know. cannot mean cannot...

Most ASD love lifts...

Hmmm.. Mine isn't too particular about it. Sometimes he will race up the stairs while I take lift and see who is faster. But that's also coz he is now older. I ever brought him to take stairs just to let him use up his excess energy. No prob with that.

[helplessmum3]

Mashy,


i will for now, thanks!!

[helplessmum3]

btw, can nordic naturals can find at singapore pharmacy , my son cannot swollow the soft gel.

[Gifts from Heaven]

Helplessmum3,


Re sitting down to watch TV.
Mayb u wan to try negotiating with the teachers to see if he can do other activities or not. In my boy's school, they have chapel once a week. My boy also can't sit still 'cos he is bored. His teacher gave him a stress ball to squeeze while waiting for the service to be over. Sometimes, he will help to massage his teacher's arm instead.

[Fizz]

helplessmum3:

btw, can nordic naturals can find at singapore pharmacy , my son cannot swollow the soft gel.

You can get the liquid form too...at Vitakids in Sg.

[Gifts from Heaven]

helplessmum3:

btw, can nordic naturals can find at singapore pharmacy , my son cannot swollow the soft gel.

Nordic naturals can be found in vitakids in the Forum Galleria. But it will be more expensive.
Dun need to swallow whole, chew like soft sweets/gummies.