Club SAHM

[schellen]

buds:

Welcome to the club, schellen! :celebrate:

Thanks! But I dunno for how long though...

[jedamum]

schellen:

buds:

Welcome to the club, schellen! :celebrate:

Thanks! But I dunno for how long though...

let me guess...
probably until dd2 is 5 or 6yo and after dd1 PSLE?

[Mum_2Gals]

buds:

Heyya Mum_2Gals, that is how we first started too........So, as much as possible it is good to show kiddies how they can be independent. Slowly loosen the strings as they grow older...

Agree! Sometimes we hope they'll grow up faster, be more independent. But sometimes we want to treasure this phrase........ We stopped using stroller long ago, so most of the time we expect the kiddies to walk, esp for dd1. Sometimes they get scolded if they want us to carry, but sometimes DH will carry them(w/o them asking) and say must carry them more, else next time they won't want us to carry..... :grphug:

buds:

SAHM seemed the only possibility for me then. It was not by choice frankly cos i really enjoyed working tremendously. I went into depression mode for awhile when i finally did it :lol: well then again... who doesn't right? :roll: Especially since i've worked all my life. It was a hard decision. Definitely a rough beginning, esp having the ILs with us too... but i suppose i learnt to toughen up from here. I know that i am more hardcore now. Hahhaaa! I can manage going to work again, cook and do the occasional housework.

I know what you mean. :hugs: It's tough to give up what you enjoyed doing. I really like my job too but just not capable enough to balance family with job. For me, I went into depression mode trying to cope with bb and job I really hate it when I can't do well for both. :stupid:

buds:

My hubs is also the helping out kind. Not the MCP kind. He chips in with the housework on his own. :hugs: He even helps me out with the girls' schoolwork and stuff. During earlier days, he'd help with the girls' Phonics lessons too! Hehee.. He saw me doing so he also tried with them. He reads to the children too but not anymore cos he said the kiddies can read on their own oredi. Besides, he feels sleepy reading the kids' bedtime stories now.. Just lazy i suppose.. So i still do it lar. Sometimes they wud wanna read to me. They'd say, \"We'll read you a bed time story mummy. So you can sleep like Sleeping Beauty.\" Then, i just pretend sleep lor. But i guess there were occasions where i really slept. :shock: I suppose their story reading must've been soooo good then yah? :lol:

Envy, envy My DH is NOT the helping out kind, not exactly MCP, but absolutely not hands-on in doing housework or taking care of kiddies :stupid: Spoilt by MIL last time, and now by me :lol: Usually I'm ok with him not helping cos he needs to work long hours too. I can't help him in his work, so I try to settle all housework myself. But sometimes I'll still :rant: :nunchuk: :frustrated: :x when I'm busy and he's not!
Heee, but he's still a wonderful DH and daddy :love: :oops: The occasional help from him is a bonus and can make my day :rahrah:

buds:

I did some reflecting and i realised there were phases in my married life that i may have neglected my hubs due to placing the children too much at centre stage, especially being a SAHM, i tend to like or prefer to do stuff my way... indirectly i preferred to do everything myself. Men usuali dun speak their minds. And worse, there are times we just can't read them. So, through trial and error we finally have what we have now.

I know what you mean. I'm guilty of that too.......:oops:

buds:

That's why now, we both try to find sufficient couple time to keep the relationship going strong. As to raise happy children, we must first be happy couples.

Right! Read somewhere: \"The best GIFT you can give your children is to love your spouse\" :love: :romance:

buds:

I'm looking forward to the day that i would have a place to call my own.

Hope your wish will come true soon I stayed with ILs for almost 2yrs before shifting out, totally understand the difficulties :scared: Sigh, Now they're hinting to us about buying a bigger house to stay together again :?: Really cannot imagine how to be SAHM when staying with ILs-FIL retired & MIL SAHGM taking care of SIL's kids, and always complaining that she cannot cope. I'm prepared to stay together again, but hope can be many years later, to take care of them when they're old, but must be we invite them to our house. :oops: I want the Master bedroom... :oops:

buds:

Pssst... since your DH has \"always\" been asking when he can watch those adult movies, take the cue.. if you can squeeze 2hrs to rush for a movie when the kiddies are with their grandparents - GO! I had non-verbal cues for soooo long that now, i do know how to read into it a bit lar.. But still, knowing that hubs has me....... as the most understanding wifey, i still wonder why he just didn't say it outright. :roll: MEN! Oooops. (Some) men.

Haha, , make that (Most) men But then, sometimes I'm also guilty of not saying it outright :? I'm not exactly a fan of Horror movies, seems to have gotten more timid as i \"aged\" :scared:

[schellen]

jedamum:

let me guess...

probably until dd2 is 5 or 6yo and after dd1 PSLE?

No chance of that cos sashimi will go bankrupt and my brain cells will have died out already. Either when DD2 is 3 mths old and I send her to infant care or when she turns 18 mths and can go to the CC downstairs. Will have to start looking for job after I settle the initial SAHM and getting ready for baby business. (Can you believe that the bed isn't even ready yet????)

[MDAJP]

Hi Everbody I am new here, but not as a SAHM.

[chuaeil]

Hi,

i am a stay at home mum but none of that is my choice.

I am a stay at home mum due to no choice but have to.

haha

[sleepy]

this thread very slow moving recently. SAHMs, come in & chat

[KingRascal]

sleepy:

this thread very slow moving recently. SAHMs, come in & chat

hehe here i come. i like to bring my DS to parkway. Borders there is great. we both enjoy reading so we can spend a long time there. moreover it's also convenient for me to run some errands when he reads there by himself! free books, i always call it! if there are any books that he really likes...we would then pop over to Popular to buy

what we lack is cinema...tampines is too crowded...normally we'd end up at kallang.

[KingRascal]

KingRascal:

sleepy:

this thread very slow moving recently. SAHMs, come in & chat

hehe here i come. i like to bring my DS to parkway. Borders there is great. we both enjoy reading so we can spend a long time there. moreover it's also convenient for me to run some errands when he reads there by himself! free books, i always call it! if there are any books that he really likes...we would then pop over to Popular to buy

what we lack is cinema...tampines is too crowded...normally we'd end up at kallang.

Oops...wonder if this is more suited for Eastlander Club!! hahaha

[jedamum]

sleepy:

this thread very slow moving recently. SAHMs, come in & chat

SAHM,
wonder if i had broach this topic before...
what are your plans after the kids go secondary/JC and relied lesser on you?