All About Autism
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helplessmum3:
If my son could request this or that when he was three, I would be throwing a party!Mashy,
how to you teach you son to communicate with you?
my son only know how to request this & that...
U need to accept that he will need time to learn the skills of a conversation. My boy couldn't really request things at 3 yrs old. We had to ask him and predict what he wants. It's always us offering him and that includes even meals. If we don't offer food, he won't eat. He didn't know how to tell us that he is hungry or he simply didn't care. My hb ever forgot to feed him when I was out and he just went hungry the whole afternoon.
U must remember my son is 6 going 7. Don't expect a 3 yr old kid to be able to be like a 6 yr old, esp when he has asd.
There is no short cut to this. Just talk and talk to him, ask him questions. Soon, he will suddenly decide to take part in the conversation. Think we started having a proper conversation towards the end of k2 about 5 yrs old. He has improved a lot since then. -
Mashy
You are right! We should be so thankful that our kids are physically well and still have a chance to retune their behaviour to fit into society and mainstream. All these are but a tiny dose of mere effort, compared to so many people out there. Some ASD kids are more severe on the spectrum and my heart goes out to them.
That day, at the CDU, my hb saw a father hitting a child very hard on the arm because the child was in a tussle with another child over a toy. The heart breaking part was a remark by the father, "看到你就讨厌"! If a parent can’t 包容 his child, who would??? -
Fizz:
so sad.
That day, at the CDU, my hb saw a father hitting a child very hard on the arm because the child was in a tussle with another child over a toy. The heart breaking part was a remark by the father, \"看到你就讨厌\"! If a parent can't 包容 his child, who would??? -
Fizz:
how can the father say that.... i only say that to my dh only in jokingly manner... stupid father... not his child meh??Mashy
You are right! We should be so thankful that our kids are physically well and still have a chance to retune their behaviour to fit into society and mainstream. All these are but a tiny dose of mere effort, compared to so many people out there. Some ASD kids are more severe on the spectrum and my heart goes out to them.
That day, at the CDU, my hb saw a father hitting a child very hard on the arm because the child was in a tussle with another child over a toy. The heart breaking part was a remark by the father, \"看到你就讨厌\"! If a parent can't 包容 his child, who would??? -
mashy:
i just hope to start early w him so by 5yo he could overcome. hopefully like yours.
If my son could request this or that when he was three, I would be throwing a party!helplessmum3:
Mashy,
how to you teach you son to communicate with you?
my son only know how to request this & that...
U need to accept that he will need time to learn the skills of a conversation. My boy couldn't really request things at 3 yrs old. We had to ask him and predict what he wants. It's always us offering him and that includes even meals. If we don't offer food, he won't eat. He didn't know how to tell us that he is hungry or he simply didn't care. My hb ever forgot to feed him when I was out and he just went hungry the whole afternoon.
U must remember my son is 6 going 7. Don't expect a 3 yr old kid to be able to be like a 6 yr old, esp when he has asd.
There is no short cut to this. Just talk and talk to him, ask him questions. Soon, he will suddenly decide to take part in the conversation. Think we started having a proper conversation towards the end of k2 about 5 yrs old. He has improved a lot since then. -
fizz,
at times when my hub meltdowns he will say "how i wish i could return you back"… he jus poor thing of my son situation in this world…
my hub can’t stand pp shouting…my son sure get it from him once he starts shouting…
at times i also can’t stand my son attitude i too will raise hand on him…
We are diff from this world now… normal pple with NT kids will always say "Not everyday is honeymoon time" for ours statement is " Not everyday is difficult time"…
these days is very struggle whenever bring my son out for meals… he jus simply don’t understand the word "WAIT" , is like having him is enough for 10 NT kids -
helplessmum3:
i just hope to start early w him so by 5yo he could overcome. hopefully like yours.[/quote]hi helplessmum3, u can try to ask him who he likes to talk to the best... try having that person talking to him all the time...
If my son could request this or that when he was three, I would be throwing a party!mashy:
[quote=\"helplessmum3\"]Mashy,
how to you teach you son to communicate with you?
my son only know how to request this & that...
U need to accept that he will need time to learn the skills of a conversation. My boy couldn't really request things at 3 yrs old. We had to ask him and predict what he wants. It's always us offering him and that includes even meals. If we don't offer food, he won't eat. He didn't know how to tell us that he is hungry or he simply didn't care. My hb ever forgot to feed him when I was out and he just went hungry the whole afternoon.
U must remember my son is 6 going 7. Don't expect a 3 yr old kid to be able to be like a 6 yr old, esp when he has asd.
There is no short cut to this. Just talk and talk to him, ask him questions. Soon, he will suddenly decide to take part in the conversation. Think we started having a proper conversation towards the end of k2 about 5 yrs old. He has improved a lot since then.
i used to place a radio at my working desk in office and my colleague brings her ds to office every sat last time.. her ds has asd too, he was 5yo back then...
i notice he responds and gets attracted to the radio and laughs at the jokes and ads... fyi, i was listening to 933.. heard from colleague that doc also encourage her to avoid having too quiet environment for her ds all the time as this doesnt help in his reaction... -
verykiasumummy:
hi helplessmum3, u can try to ask him who he likes to talk to the best... try having that person talking to him all the time...
i just hope to start early w him so by 5yo he could overcome. hopefully like yours.helplessmum3:
[quote=\"mashy\"]
If my son could request this or that when he was three, I would be throwing a party!
U need to accept that he will need time to learn the skills of a conversation. My boy couldn't really request things at 3 yrs old. We had to ask him and predict what he wants. It's always us offering him and that includes even meals. If we don't offer food, he won't eat. He didn't know how to tell us that he is hungry or he simply didn't care. My hb ever forgot to feed him when I was out and he just went hungry the whole afternoon.
U must remember my son is 6 going 7. Don't expect a 3 yr old kid to be able to be like a 6 yr old, esp when he has asd.
There is no short cut to this. Just talk and talk to him, ask him questions. Soon, he will suddenly decide to take part in the conversation. Think we started having a proper conversation towards the end of k2 about 5 yrs old. He has improved a lot since then.
i used to place a radio at my working desk in office and my colleague brings her ds to office every sat last time.. her ds has asd too, he was 5yo back then...
i notice he responds and gets attracted to the radio and laughs at the jokes and ads... fyi, i was listening to 933.. heard from colleague that doc also encourage her to avoid having too quiet environment for her ds all the time as this doesnt help in his reaction...[/quote]Just talk freq to him. Not just u talk, teach him that we take turns to talk. I think someday when he is ready, he will start the conversation. Find out what he likes. Talk about what he likes and tell him what you like. Like I said, this is a long process. U don't see the outcome in a few days or weeks. It will happen when u least expect it. Just carry on with the good work with your boy. I'm sure u will get to have a decent conversation with him in time to come.
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VKSmummy,
recently i notice he like to repeat what puppet talking on tv…
i duno who he like to talk most, as he never has conversation with us except requesting verbally for things/food/drinks & ask us to do things for him…ei mommy carry, on light , off light, open door,close down , fix it, put it back, sit down, stand up…help me.press lift. come here. go out, wear shoe & etc…
but not conversation. -
Mashy,
so far he only know how to response to "HOW are you" , he will say "I’m fine". "what is your name" , he will say "HIS NAME"… "Go where eat french fries" he will say "go Macdonald".
but he never ask or talk to me… or initial conversation w me.
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