All About Autism
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Hi ImMeeMee,
My daughter's chinese was really very bad when she was in nursery.
She can't even speak a sentence of mandarin, let alone recognize words.
you can try sending your daughter to Berries .
They really make the kids remember all the words and keep asking them to repeat each word and phrase several times.
i was also very worried about her Chinese last time, now she is slightly better but haha her SA2 Chinese oral is coming soon.and i had a bad feeling about it.
seriously she always had me fuming mad when i practice chinese oral with her.
If i tell her to be more expressive in her reading, she will read in super high pitched throughout her reading which nearly deafen me :siao:
For picture description, it's quite horrible too.
for words she doesn't know to describe in mandarin, she actually change into english then change back into mandarin in a split second, and act like as a matter of fact that her classmates also do that.
Don't worry too much about your daughter's chinese.
don't worry too much about catching up. it used to bother me alot too, when i see that my daughter can't do things that alot of kids her age can.
but i reminded myself that there are also alot of things that she can do that her peers can't too.
i remember her therapist telling me before, kids with her condition have superb memory so we have to use it to their advantage.
She actually told me that they are very easy to teach because of their condition. so fret not when you think that they are not able to do certain things.before you know it, they can do it easily. -
Mummies
I have been reviewing my expectations of my boy last night and I wonder if my expectations of him are realistic.
He is 3.5 years old, 5 more months to 4 years old. I have started to expose him to writing. For now he can write about 70% of the alphabets in capital letters, the ones that he has issues with are G, M, N, Q, R, X and Y. As for small letters, he can only write a, b, c, e, f. I was practicing with him last night and he just can’t get ‘d’ right. And I turned into a monster, shouting at him to focus and concentrate. I was angry because he could get it right the previous time.
I felt really bad after that, cos he was sobbing but don’t dare to cry out loud. And I think, the more I shout at him, the worse he gets. But at that moment, I just can’t help it. My emotions took over me and I became a tiger mum.
I think in my heart, I still want him to function like a NT kid though I know he is on the spectrum. -
Double E:
Double EMummies
I have been reviewing my expectations of my boy last night and I wonder if my expectations of him are realistic.
He is 3.5 years old, 5 more months to 4 years old. I have started to expose him to writing. For now he can write about 70% of the alphabets in capital letters, the ones that he has issues with are G, M, N, Q, R, X and Y. As for small letters, he can only write a, b, c, e, f. I was practicing with him last night and he just can't get 'd' right. And I turned into a monster, shouting at him to focus and concentrate. I was angry because he could get it right the previous time.
I felt really bad after that, cos he was sobbing but don't dare to cry out loud. And I think, the more I shout at him, the worse he gets. But at that moment, I just can't help it. My emotions took over me and I became a tiger mum.
I think in my heart, I still want him to function like a NT kid though I know he is on the spectrum.
*Pat pat* My little girl is 3yrs 2mos. I believe that she's NT. She still can't hold a pencil in the correct pincer grasp consistently. After a short while, she will switch to the palm grasp. She still colours haphazardly and she can't draw or write legibly. But I'm still not worried as she is still within her acceptable development milestone.
*smile* Your son will be a genius if we were to compare this area. Every child develop differently. He is still very young in this area and he is doing very well... -
chibi:
chibi, thanks for the encouragement.Hi ImMeeMee,
My daughter's chinese was really very bad when she was in nursery.
She can't even speak a sentence of mandarin, let alone recognize words.
you can try sending your daughter to Berries .
They really make the kids remember all the words and keep asking them to repeat each word and phrase several times.
i was also very worried about her Chinese last time, now she is slightly better but haha her SA2 Chinese oral is coming soon.and i had a bad feeling about it.
seriously she always had me fuming mad when i practice chinese oral with her.
If i tell her to be more expressive in her reading, she will read in super high pitched throughout her reading which nearly deafen me :siao:
For picture description, it's quite horrible too.
for words she doesn't know to describe in mandarin, she actually change into english then change back into mandarin in a split second, and act like as a matter of fact that her classmates also do that.
Don't worry too much about your daughter's chinese.
don't worry too much about catching up. it used to bother me alot too, when i see that my daughter can't do things that alot of kids her age can.
but i reminded myself that there are also alot of things that she can do that her peers can't too.
i remember her therapist telling me before, kids with her condition have superb memory so we have to use it to their advantage.
She actually told me that they are very easy to teach because of their condition. so fret not when you think that they are not able to do certain things.before you know it, they can do it easily.
I guess at times I still fall into the trap of expecting her to function like a NT child, and hence expecting her to catch up. You are right, look at her positive achievements. Recently my therapist told me that my daughter is able to verbalize certain words and apply them in the right context, which she has not seen in her other students.
I should be thankful. -
hey ImMeeMee,
you are welcome
I guess what we do , is to make best use of our kids skills .
let me share with you someting quite trivial.
My daugher, tho she is in P1 now, she still refuses to take the lift up our void deck . :yikes:
luckily we only stay on the 4th floor.
Reason is: she is sensitive to strong smells. my neighbour near to the lift on our floor had their door painted last yr and my gal told me that , just walking past it can make her faint.
despite us telling her many times, the smell that make her faint would have been gone by now, she is still very persistent about not taking the lift.
so if we go out with her, we usually walk the stairs ( both up and down) as the staircase is actually just nxt to our unit.
but 2 weeks ago, my mother brought her out and my daughter actually came up on her own and started knocking the door n saying,\" mummy, i am home!!! plse open the door for me. \"
then i asked her , oh how come you are alone? where is grandma? you mean u walked up alone?\"
she told me \" Yes, because ahma bought alot of food from NTUC, and she has no strength to walk up the stairs with me carrying the food. so i asked her to take the lift and i walk up myself since i know my way around\"
:oops:
i just suddenly feel that at that point of time when she told me, my girl has grown up!!!
though she is still very afraid and reluctant to take the lift up, but at least another way round, she knows that she can walk up the stairs herself back home . haha :rahrah: -
Double E:
Double E, my daughter is 5 yo and I am also coaching her on tracing the alphabet. The process is :stupid: and :frustrated:Mummies
I have been reviewing my expectations of my boy last night and I wonder if my expectations of him are realistic.
He is 3.5 years old, 5 more months to 4 years old. I have started to expose him to writing. For now he can write about 70% of the alphabets in capital letters, the ones that he has issues with are G, M, N, Q, R, X and Y. As for small letters, he can only write a, b, c, e, f. I was practicing with him last night and he just can't get 'd' right. And I turned into a monster, shouting at him to focus and concentrate. I was angry because he could get it right the previous time.
I felt really bad after that, cos he was sobbing but don't dare to cry out loud. And I think, the more I shout at him, the worse he gets. But at that moment, I just can't help it. My emotions took over me and I became a tiger mum.
I think in my heart, I still want him to function like a NT kid though I know he is on the spectrum.
There are times when I also lost control and raised my voice. Same as you, emotions took over and I couldnt help it. I fall into the same trap of expecting her to know after a few successful trials, like all other NT kids, and that is the mistake. Somehow I still havent had it sunk in that its on their terms, not ours.
But while they fluctuate day to day, I look at her now vs couple of months ago, and I must say she has progressed. So its worth the blood sweat and tears cos they do move along.
And when I get really frustrated, I try to take a step back, and on certain days, I stop pushing and do other things with her like casual reading and playing toys ... but still with some hidden learning objectives embedded in the activities (see, die hard cannot let go ... :razz: )
I am still learning how to control my temper. When she frustrates me, I try to draw on my previous lessons and not repeat the same mistakes. I am getting better now but there are times still need more practice. -
chibi:
actually, chibi, I am impressed with how your daughter is progressing and what she can do at P1 as a special needs child. If I'm not wrong, she was the one to say 'sorry' after not wanting to put on uniform? (sorry if I get kids mixed up here). Looking at her level of communication and her logic in the lift episode, she is really doing well.hey ImMeeMee,
you are welcome
I guess what we do , is to make best use of our kids skills .
let me share with you someting quite trivial.
My daugher, tho she is in P1 now, she still refuses to take the lift up our void deck . :yikes:
luckily we only stay on the 4th floor.
Reason is: she is sensitive to strong smells. my neighbour near to the lift on our floor had their door painted last yr and my gal told me that , just walking past it can make her faint.
despite us telling her many times, the smell that make her faint would have been gone by now, she is still very persistent about not taking the lift.
so if we go out with her, we usually walk the stairs ( both up and down) as the staircase is actually just nxt to our unit.
but 2 weeks ago, my mother brought her out and my daughter actually came up on her own and started knocking the door n saying,\" mummy, i am home!!! plse open the door for me. \"
then i asked her , oh how come you are alone? where is grandma? you mean u walked up alone?\"
she told me \" Yes, because ahma bought alot of food from NTUC, and she has no strength to walk up the stairs with me carrying the food. so i asked her to take the lift and i walk up myself since i know my way around\"
:oops:
i just suddenly feel that at that point of time when she told me, my girl has grown up!!!
though she is still very afraid and reluctant to take the lift up, but at least another way round, she knows that she can walk up the stairs herself back home . haha :rahrah:
Cheers! and you must have been very proud ... :rahrah: -
Hi ImMeeMee,
haha, yes she is the one that say sorry to me for not putting on the uniform.
she has been saying sorry when she knows she is wrong, and also, thank you very often .she even thank me when she see me scooping soup for her, she wil goes\" thank you for helping me scoop the soup, i appreciate it alot! \"
then if i wait for her outside the toilet when she is making big business\" she also goes\" thank you for waiting for me while i am shitting. \" :sick: :sick: :sick:
i did ask her, who taught you all these? she told me\" my teachers in school say all of us need to be polite,and even say this to me\" mummy, i realize you don't say thank you very often , please remember to do that and be a good girl ok?!!\" :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:
i don't know to laugh or to cry. -
chibi:
hahaha, so sweet.Hi ImMeeMee,
haha, yes she is the one that say sorry to me for not putting on the uniform.
she has been saying sorry when she knows she is wrong, and also, thank you very often .she even thank me when she see me scooping soup for her, she wil goes\" thank you for helping me scoop the soup, i appreciate it alot! \"
then if i wait for her outside the toilet when she is making big business\" she also goes\" thank you for waiting for me while i am shitting. \" :sick: :sick: :sick:
i did ask her, who taught you all these? she told me\" my teachers in school say all of us need to be polite,and even say this to me\" mummy, i realize you don't say thank you very often , please remember to do that and be a good girl ok?!!\" :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:
i don't know to laugh or to cry. -
Double E
If it’s any consolation, I think most moms go through it, whether their children are NT or not. Perhaps not in the same context as you, but most moms would surely be able to identify with you. So take heart.
As for if your expectation is too high, I guess only you know he’s abilities & limitation. The key is to gingerly push him if it’s within his ability but back off if it’s beyond him & try again when he’s ready. I think he’s right on target for a 3+ year old except that most would start writing small alphabets (coz we see/use small letters more often) than capital. My son only wrote at 4, I think a mother of an NT kid also shared with me, her son also only started writing at 4.
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