All About Autism

[mashy]

helplessmum3:

Mashy,

Now yr son can already too right?

ASD also will know if their parents gone mIssing one mah

Once they become more awareness mah.

U said b4 even ASD has separation duno what ma.

Still not very aware. He still gets lost pretty often. And we still have to drag him around. Sigh. Mine doesn't have separation anxiety anymore. That's more for toddlers. Only when going sch at 2 yrs old. Never cried for us from 3 yrs old.

[helplessmum3]

Yr son can share w u things sO much … He like yr company.

[Double E]

I think my boy becomes more aware of his surrounding after the Special Ed therapy and this OT. From leapfrog he learns to ask where question. Now, if he can’t find the things he needs, he will come to me and ask "where is …". When he dun see me or his daddy at a party for example, he will also ask for us.


We went to a birthday party today and the host hired this Mr Funny to host a gig for the children. He does magic show and other tricks. I m quite glad that my boy can sit on the floor with other kids most of the time to enjoy the show and laugh together though I m not sure if he knows what is going on.

[helplessmum3]

WhaT is Ed therapy ? What its teach. Actually how leapfrog they teach yr son is it 1-1,


Lavendary daughter too w them. They so real good . Too bad min they charge is $1200 right ?

[Blokus]

Curious to know how your husbands reacted after the diagnosis? Now that it’s possible that our son is on the spectrum, I made effort to read up, source for therapy, talk to other moms etc. My hub on the other hand has done no research & not as on the ball as me. Though he acknowledges our son needs help & goes along with any plans I’ve set up for our son without any disagreement. But I just wish he was more active in reading up so that he knows when to correct our child’s behaviour. Alot of times he let things when my son needs correction. many a times he does that is because he doesnt realize some behaviors need to be corrected. In his mind, our son is still a child and so he let things slide like when our son don’t respond to people, my hub will just stand there and let it be. That frustrates me no end. He also thinks autism is something can be outgrown. Arrg. How are hubs like?

[mayjoel]

Hi,

I need to send my ASD boy to tuition badly. He is still not improving and totally lacking behind (He’s P1). Pls advise if there is a any good tuition centre in CCK area. Thanks!

[nugget]

Blokus,


My hb is very involved in taking care of my son. Partly bcos my son is very very close to him than me. Daddy is my son’s first choice. I am his 2nd choice. I remember i spent days crying over my son’s condition and my hb always stood by my side to comfort me. He is very supportive and very worried about my son as well.

He never read up anything as well. We worked hand in hand together. I read up on all the stuff, then I summarized then tell him. My hb hates to read… Unless those really worthy article then I let him read. Also I search youtubes to let him see… what ASD kids are like etc. How we can help them. When I learnt new techniques, then I will share with him and we will applied it together on my son.

Having a special needs kid can bond or break a relationship. I can say me and hb are really riding the waves together. He will be my soulmate for life… We have recently had a newborn baby, he is also very attentive to me. Always sneak me out for a lunch or something when we leave all the kids at my in laws. Parents like us also need a break. I am thankful to have a spouse like him.

Its my parents and parents in law are the one thinking my son can "outgrow" his ASD.

[specialboymum]

Blokus:

Curious to know how your husbands reacted after the diagnosis? Now that it's possible that our son is on the spectrum, I made effort to read up, source for therapy, talk to other moms etc. My hub on the other hand has done no research & not as on the ball as me. Though he acknowledges our son needs help & goes along with any plans I've set up for our son without any disagreement. But I just wish he was more active in reading up so that he knows when to correct our child's behaviour. Alot of times he let things when my son needs correction. many a times he does that is because he doesnt realize some behaviors need to be corrected. In his mind, our son is still a child and so he let things slide like when our son don't respond to people, my hub will just stand there and let it be. That frustrates me no end. He also thinks autism is something can be outgrown. Arrg. How are hubs like?

Blokus, your hubby does sound like mine.. Sometimes, I also feel frustrated that I am so alone in this long battle. After a while, I tried to console myself, just do what I feel is right, and try to see his \"no disagreement\" in more positive light i.e. as being supportive. I also come to realization that getting frustrated or angry with hubby will not do much help to our kids.

Maybe men are like that, they are not good in multitasking as women so they can't worry about work and the children at the same time. It may be worse, if we give them more stress that they can handle, till they snap.

[mashy]

specialboymum:

Blokus:

Curious to know how your husbands reacted after the diagnosis? Now that it's possible that our son is on the spectrum, I made effort to read up, source for therapy, talk to other moms etc. My hub on the other hand has done no research & not as on the ball as me. Though he acknowledges our son needs help & goes along with any plans I've set up for our son without any disagreement. But I just wish he was more active in reading up so that he knows when to correct our child's behaviour. Alot of times he let things when my son needs correction. many a times he does that is because he doesnt realize some behaviors need to be corrected. In his mind, our son is still a child and so he let things slide like when our son don't respond to people, my hub will just stand there and let it be. That frustrates me no end. He also thinks autism is something can be outgrown. Arrg. How are hubs like?

Blokus, your hubby does sound like mine.. Sometimes, I also feel frustrated that I am so alone in this long battle. After a while, I tried to console myself, just do what I feel is right, and try to see his \"no disagreement\" in more positive light i.e. as being supportive. I also come to realization that getting frustrated or angry with hubby will not do much help to our kids.

Maybe men are like that, they are not good in multitasking as women so they can't worry about work and the children at the same time. It may be worse, if we give them more stress that they can handle, till they snap.

Hmm, mine is between nugget and blokus. Same thing, he also didn't read up at all. I had to tell him what to do. But he will willingly do it and he doesn't make a big deal out of this autism thing. To him, he is still his kid no matter what is the diagnosis. When correction is needed, he will correct. When praises are warranted, he will give it. Sometimes I feel that my kids are more important to him than me. And also, I think we treat our son the same way as before the diagnosis. We don't let things slide because of his condition nor do we over emphasize on certain things. Only when his behaviour starts to interfere with his daily activities, then we will interfere. Like my hb will stop him from spinning. He has also introduced some good stuff to the kids and I think he acts as a balance to the overly worried, Kancheong mummy. Like when I studied with my boy, I was very impatient. My hb is more patient and somehow, he managed to get my boy to be self motivated to do well. He also lie down with them at night and asked them to share their happy thoughts of the day. In a way, it helps them focus on the good things in life and be happy. I guess he did it his own way, just not my way. And that doesn't mean it's wrong.

[mashy]

I was really upset with my hb yesterday because he ordered the wrong food for me. Not only that, it is something that I never liked and he knew it. I was fuming and asked my boy what should I do so that he can try some prob solving skills. Well, his suggestions made me laugh and I wasn’t angry anymore after that.


He thought for a while, then told me, "Mummy, maybe u can get Daddy to buy u the same food everyday until he gets it right." The thought of having to eat the same food everyday just to teach him the correct way is as good as punishing myself in the process too. Lol.