All About Autism

[Double E]

It depends. For people whom I am closer with, I will tell them that my son has ASD. For those not so close, I will just say that he is slower in development so has to attend therapy.

[mashy]

[quote="nugget"]I think all mothers of special needs children are very strong.


Do you all tell people that your son has autism? Sometimes I see how the other mothers are ranting about school, esp now my son is in K1, everyone asking me if I send my son for classes like phonics, art classes, swimming… I dunno how to tell them that my son is asd and needs to attends therapy.

I hv to constantly remind myself that my son is different but not less. I shouldn’t feel inferior telling people he has autism. He is just a normal boy whose behavior and thinking are different from others only. It not like as if he has some life threatening disease.[/]

Hmm… I think I’m pretty open about it. But won’t tell those whom I still deemed as strangers or mere acquaintances. I think for others still ok but I will not tell my boy’s classmates parents unless I already know them very well. Coz I dunno how is their reaction and what they will tell their kids. I just say my son is very blur and needs a lot of help.

[helplessmum3]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lIZCW2u_JxM&feature=related


this one.

i duno what is visual stimming.

[nugget]

Yeah sometimes when I tell people about my son’s condition, they will go "when they grow up they will be okay", "Last time my dd also like this, walk around in class and once grow up is okay"… then another keep telling me no need to do anything, wait for him to grow up to be okay.


How I wish i can dun need to do anything about it and wait for him to grow up to be okay… these relatives. And its my MIL and mother who told them my son’s condition. And when I see them they will give me all the suggestions or consolation.

[helplessmum3]

i have make big mistake to tell cc about my son conditions, i will not tell anymore…


Double e,
my son wil go rainbow next yr, then is consider sentence for life labal already right?

did u accept rainbow too?

[CJ Lim]

Hi Double E and Nugget and all,


After reading your post, I feel how ‘lucky’ am I. Pardon me, my English is not good. I am Chinese educated in Malaysia but I am PR living here for more than 20 years. After I read all of your post, I think it is a chance to share with you all about my ASD son’s story. I will try my best to write in English, else, sorry I will use Chinese. I hope my experience will encourage you all, please don’t give up your ASD child.

My son was diagnosed as ASD at 28 yr old. He is 9 yr old now. His symptoms was all similar with normal ASD kid, like Double E’s son. I had tried many many way to help and teach him in past 7 years. Of course, like all of the ASD kid’s mother, sorry, I think better I use Chinese as it would be more clearer. 在那六-七年的岁月里，我承受了无比的压力和痛苦，在孩子教育上，甚至亲人所带来的，这都不是一般人所能体会的。我花了所有时间和精力在他身上，甚至在承受不了巨大压力下，我患了短暂的忧郁症。但是，我很清楚我不可以倒下，因为唯一能尽全力帮助儿子的人就是我这个母亲。幸运的是，我在经济和精神上得到先生的支持。请你们记得，这一点很重要。因为这段艰难期间，我们需要另一股力量推动自己前进。

因为时间和字句太长，请原谅我无法将如何教导和培育儿子的经厉完整写下。最重要是我想传达的信息是，请妈妈们不要放弃。Your child will be better one day, and that is not a dream to get into mainstream primary school. My son is in P4 this year, he is doing well day after day, year after year, he could even get no. 10 in level position with total 230 students. I am ‘proud’ of him and I appreciate everything in this journey even it was bad. Please don’t give up, do and do more to help your child as he/she is so SPECIAL.
加油！

[Double E]

CJ Lim:

Hi Double E and Nugget and all,


After reading your post, I feel how 'lucky' am I. Pardon me, my English is not good. I am Chinese educated in Malaysia but I am PR living here for more than 20 years. After I read all of your post, I think it is a chance to share with you all about my ASD son's story. I will try my best to write in English, else, sorry I will use Chinese. I hope my experience will encourage you all, please don't give up your ASD child.

My son was diagnosed as ASD at 28 yr old. He is 9 yr old now. His symptoms was all similar with normal ASD kid, like Double E's son. I had tried many many way to help and teach him in past 7 years. Of course, like all of the ASD kid's mother,, sorry, I think better I use Chinese as it would be more clearer. 在那六-七年的岁月里，我承受了无比的压力和痛苦，在孩子教育上，甚至亲人所带来的，这都不是一般人所能体会的。我花了所有时间和精力在他身上，甚至在承受不了巨大压力下，我患了短暂的忧郁症。但是，我很清楚我不可以倒下，因为唯一能尽全力帮助儿子的人就是我这个母亲。幸运的是，我在经济和精神上得到先生的支持。请你们记得，这一点很重要。因为这段艰难期间，我们需要另一股力量推动自己前进。

因为时间和字句太长，请原谅我无法将如何教导和培育儿子的经厉完整写下。最重要是我想传达的信息是，请妈妈们不要放弃。Your child will be better one day, and that is not a dream to get into mainstream primary school. My son is in P4 this year, he is doing well day after day, year after year, he could even get no. 10 in level position with total 230 students. I am 'proud' of him and I appreciate everything in this journey even it was bad. Please don't give up, do and do more to help your child as he/she is so SPECIAL.
加油！

CJ Lim
Great to know that your son is doing so well in Pr 4. You mentioned that he was diagnosed at 28 yr old? or is it a typo ? I suppose is 28 mths right?

You know, reading how you feel about your son in Chinese is so surreal, bringing tears to my eyes. I agree, having a supportive spouse and family is very important. But luckily for me, both inlaws and parents don't give us any pressure. We told them about my boy's condition but think they still don't really understand but they have never questioned his abilities or interfered in our lives. They just treat him has a normal boy and love him for what he is. Maybe because my boy can still communicate with them, call them and snuggle up to them.

[helplessmum3]

pls help me. to translate the chinese part, i do speak chinese but i cant read.

[nugget]

Helplessmum,


my chinese also not that good. But what CJ Lim say is …

"Throughout all these 6-7 years, she has been though a great deal of stress and even went into depression for a short while. But she managed to pull herself together because she realised the only one can help her son is herself.

She say she is fortunate that her hb supported her financially and mentally. She say a supportive spouse is very important to brave through this together.

Lastly she say dun give up on our ASD kids, she time is too short and its too lengthy for her to share with us methods she has used on her kids. She say most importantly, dun give up and jia you.

[helplessmum3]

thanks Nugget…